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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
What you say makes a lot of sense however I'm not sure about the sex part. I'm not saying sex is everything between couples, however lack of sex can be the real deal breaker. You don't necessarily have to be a sexual stallion to keep your partner satisfied but I think you got to be able to have sex with her at least once or twice a week for it not to be an issue. At the moment I would say I get about 80% full erections without help, but not sure they would last during intercourse. That really depresses me at the moment. Don't get me wrong it's a lot better before I undertook this abstinence however, it's just not good for my confidence to think I couldn't fully satisfy a women at the moment or even at the end of the 90 days. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic.
Yeah, I mean when I said it I thought more of my self because I don't have a partner. I'm more into this semen retention monk-thing to see how far I can go with it.
Don't worry, I've had that depressive feeling too. You need to recover first and it takes time but it can only get better if you keep going. If you have a parner maybe you can talk about it with her? You shouldn't feel pressure in the bedroom and you know sometimes you need to priortize yourself. She's not the only one who needs to be satisfied, it's also you. If you have a good partner she will be able understand.
I had a terrible situation for years where I had zero feeling in my D, and I didn't understand why. It later found out it was because of a hard grip and PMO. I was so depressed because of that I was seriously thinking about suicide, but eventually I started looking for solutions, found NF, and when I tried it my feel slowly came back after a long time (years). Jeez.. PMO is such a destructive thing, it's so bad in every way it's insane.
For ED: Have you tried to work out? Lifting heavy weights is good and especially exercises for the legs can make wonders for erections. Not only will your T levels go up the roof but the bloodflow and everything will improve.. I can promise that it will improve erections. You will get it from 80 to 100%. Kegel exerceises and reverse kegel is also effective.
Day 72. I have come to the conclusion that I have not just a pmo addiction or even a fap addiction but quite possibly a sex one out and out. Even though not fapped for over 71 days I still end up doing activities and looking at things on the internet that make me Horny. Need to find a moral purpose I guess.
I was on a trip abroad for 6 days with friends - it was really relaxing and good to break the routine for a bit and rest physically and mentally somewhat. However I was partying a lot and did some M's because "anything was allowed" in those 6 days.
However I am back and will try not to follow "anything is allowed" for my next holidays. I needed that break, now it's time to go back to hard work
What up fellows, I just finish the 14 days challenge… my main goal is quacking pmo for good, but I want to take the 90-day challenge, just work one day at the time on my recovery. So, day 0 out of 90 days.
Sexual thoughts comes up every morning and I want to get rid of these mental images, they're not good. It's like P in thought form. I think about it because I want to fill a void that I'm feeling, like an alchoholic thinking about a bottle of vodka.
But the good thing is that I haven't watched P for 3 months for the first time in my life since I was 12 or something.
I must continue my journey.
Congratulations to your 50+ days!
How was it like getting to day 147,did you have any benefits / positive changes you want to share?
What happened that made you relapse? (You don't have to answer if you don't want to). Do you have any advice?
Feel free to share.
Getting some glimpses of hope for a full recovery. A very dim light at the end of the tunnel so to speak
Im still here!
@CosmicCrusader and @Say_Goodbye - Let's tie these streaks together! Don't succumb to the urges! Let's gooooooooooo
Day 90 !
I made it! For the first time in my life I did 90 days on Nofap.
But my journey is not over, I need to go on with this.
I don't have a flatline anymore, or have I? I got energy but I've been bored for most of the time anyway.
The time I felt the best was around, or between; day 20-45 or something. I've come too far to give up now. Thoughts of P have started to pop up again but I got it under control. It's just annoying that it's coming back. So I'm not done, I need to do more work. This is the toughest challange in my life, not NF by itself but actually to find healthy alternatives to all addicions, and to completely change my life.
To abstain from PMO for 90 days was easier than I thought. I can't give up now.. if I failed and had to do 90 days all over again it would suck really bad. I't okay to feel a little bit bad during NF, It's nowhere near as bad you would feel when doing PMO.
My training went up and then down, I wasn't consistent enough, then I hurt my arm and it still hurts so I can't work out like I did before. So I have to solve that problem as well.. it's annoying but that's just life.
I haven't been out as much as I should have been but yeah there were certainly women that were attracted to me that checked me out and even followed me, especially in the beginning. Lately they haven't even looked at me so I don't know if I lost that "glow" but why should I even care about that..?
Never let a woman's behaviour decide how you feel about yourself. Do never seek validation from women. Ever.
Thanks everyone for your posts, likes and support. Good luck!
I'm leaving this thread now.
Thanks Ice22. Congratulations to you too for making it to 90. Well done!!
I think one of the main things I've learned over this past year on nofap is that yes, this is an addiction, and I am going to need to keep working on it for as long as it takes. My mind is gradually healing with the help of the longer stretches of time without PMO but it's not a problem that's going to just disappear any time soon. So my main advice is just to keep at it. Keep coming back here, keep starting over after a relapse, and keep reading the journals on nofap for insight and support, something I've found very helpful.
For me it's been a process of gradually dropping some of the coarsest aspects of PMO and then working on more subtle areas of concern (ie, porn - psubs - fantasies - ogling - random thoughts). As I've struggled with it I've realized at different points that I need to drop that particular behaviour as well and have had to make a commitment to myself to take it on, although it hasn't been a straight line as at times I've been caught back up in something I had left behind for a bit. But there definitely has been progress and the urges to PMO are much less frequent and powerful than when I started. Overall my mind feels cleaner and more free. After my last relapse 51 days ago it was much easier to get back on the wagon, without the struggle I was used to during the first few days. I feel less shame in my life and a greater degree of self-confidence, although being less in thrall to PMO has brought light to other areas of my life that are problematic and need attention. For many years PMO filled a void and used up energy that could have been devoted to other things and now it's time to deal with that. But (much) better late than never!
My relapse after 147 days came after a few days of heightened sexual sensitivity where I seemed to be reacting very strongly to any minor visual stimulus or touch. Of course, I got to that point because I was letting my mind pursue and dwell on them.
I wish you and everyone here on Nofap success in reaching your goals. This community has been essential for me in working with this problem, and I get a lot of encouragement from seeing everyone's daily efforts. Even reports of relapses are encouraging when I see that people are coming back afterwards and keeping at it!
What's next for you now that you've reached 90 days?