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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Day 5 ...
Day 2 successful. Day 3 checking in.
9 days without a drink.
One thing to be said about this abstinence from PMO is that you do get a stronger sense of clarity. One of the epiphanies I have had is the importance of not trying to suppress my urges but let it take me where it wants to go as a detached observer. In short try to manage them rather than destroy them. I find just sitting down for 10 minutes and observing where the urges takes me gives me an incredible sense of self knowledge.
Day 16 done
That does sound very helpful. How do you avoid getting caught up in fantasy when you do this? For me, following sexual thoughts often leads me back to PMO eventually. Are you staying with how it feels in your body?
Best wishes to you on your journey, and to all of us here!
Obviously there are many different ways but for me it's just observing the mind usually through making factual statements and usually with each factual statement I make I get closer and closer to understanding the urge. For some strange reason usually by the seventh factual statement I make, I understand the urge more fully. I never physically act on it but just passively observe the urge. It sounds incredibly trite I know, but making statements beginning with the words "I'm aware that..................." Really seems to help. Just doing this for 10 minutes a day has made a massive difference for me. Obviously I do it in the privacy of my own house otherwise people will be walking very nervously around me!!!!!!!!!!!
It was a good day.
Let's go 30 days
18/90 I just released that some words are triggers. I had a certain word in a youtube video I was watching and all of a sudden my urges peaked like a volcano. Only by deep breathing and shutting down my phone am I able to say 18 days NoPMO.
I have the same experience. If you want destroy the urge through force it,s just come back stronger often. This is also a reason for shame and guilt, because people want to be perfect and destroy it through force, instead of observing or accepting the urge and themselfs.