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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Mar 19, 2019.
Relapsed. Day 0
Another day on the journey to stop wasting and spend more time on meaning work. I am trying to form a nightly routine. When I am free, PMO creeps in. I promise 15 minute journal, 15 reading stock, 15 minute watching video lessons, earn an episode of Man vs Wild. Go sleep wake up. Easy way is for a wimp. Hard way is for a man
Day 1/90 Caught a slight cold yesterday but today I feel more energetic than when I'm not ill.
I had sex last night with the girl I had a date with the other day. The focus was all on her. She was strictly told not to touch my cock and she was supportive about that. I was aroused a little. But in no way had a full erection. We will meet once in awhile depending on our schedules, which is good as it tempers the chaser effect. I didn't masturbate afterwards. I'm glad I have some control over this. But still anxious about my PIED.
So I did PMO again just falling into old habits the last couple of days pretending that it doesn’t matter. Of course it matters. This is the oldest and strongest addiction I’ve had in my life. I’m so sick of letting myself down. I get so angry and ashamed and it just leads into more PMO. It’s really ok though because I’m never going to give up. What doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger. I’m going to use all these mistakes to my advantage. No more wasting time. No more excuses. I must stay vigilant and keep on this path no matter what. If I stray I’ll come back and it will only get easier to stay as time goes on. The rewards are always there but I just have to be patient and take them as they come. I’m so grateful to be here and I’m learning everyday.
I didn’t post my Day 0 yesterday but I will everyday from now on. This thread helps me hold myself accountable. Thanks to everyone here! Day 1/90!
It's been a while since I posted here. These last 25 days have been awesome. I have endured crazy urges and sleepless nights, blue balls and fantasies of my favourite porn star (I would have stated her name but I don't want anybody looking her up), on the positive side I have finally discovered my strength, am much more aggressive now, I set goals and actually work towards achieving them, though am not successful at that yet. But then the important aspect here is that my foot is in the door.
I just really want everyone to stay strong. Find your motivation. What is that one thing that you really want out of nofap? let's all picture it and hold on to it. It's a struggle and we are built to win. Every single time.
Day 2/90. Still have a cold. I knew from my past experience that insomnia would prey on me sonner or later during the rebooting and it has already come last night. When influenza and insomnia coincide on you at midnight, you won't find it a pleasant night to go through.
I can still remember how many times I failed due to unbearable insomnia. But anyway last night I made it and didn't do any PMO. Surely there will be numerous sleepless nights ahead waiting for me, and that's what makes my challenge the toughest abstinence I ever undertake.
I think I need to have myself totally worn out in the day to evade insomnia to the most degree, but I know I'm not 100 percent safe. How do you guys deal with insomnia during rebooting? I'd appreciate it greatly if you share your approach with me
May everyone here Stay Strong.
Isn't it obvious how you deny your success if you need an artificial escape whenever you're feeling anxious?
I've found it very useful to set a limit after which you don't use any devices. Then, try to make a habit of waking up early. Finally, make sure your activity peaks earlier in the day rather than late.
thank u bro! I will try them on myself
Keep pushing guys!
No more talk and promises just work until you reached your goal.
I was stuck in P yesterday. It took me hours and hours to get out. Never think again that you can get in and get out quickly. Once you are in there. It is almost impossible to get the hell out. Thanks God that I did not relapse. As usual, If I relapse, it is extremely hard for me to wake up the next day and I feel like shit. But Today wake up with conserved energy and work toward a dream that I am planning. Hours of waste in P, hours of your life time down to the drain. Try my best to not look at those images again. Hard work pays off.
I failed again, but I will not give up. I will be back to the top again. I will change my strategy from PMO to P first. Because that is the biggest barrier. I will do it P for 90 days Then add M on top of it. Inch by inch I know I will get to the top. Here are the rule that I consider P:
1. Dark webs
2. Thought or sexual image or videos
3. Looking up girl on facebook or anywhere else
4. Looking at girl on the street. Make eye contact and conversation are fine. Not at forbidden places
5. Try my best not to M too
6. Avoid conversation about sex except it is for the purpose of dating
I will update more as I am going. 90 days. Update the bandage. Handle the P first then MO. I will get back to you, MO
Your strategy or approach is "I won't do this or that". For example, I won't look at porn and masturbate. Maybe it should be more, I won't be on my laptop or phone or social media.
What if the approach is "I will do this and that". List down the positive things you will do: yoga, meditation, carpentry, volunteer work where you can meet new people and help them, learn a new language, new music.
Keep the thoughts and action positive. For every relapse or mistake, make it an opportunity to grow in some way. My two cents.