90 Days - Advice, Changes and Challenges.

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  1. Hufflekid

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    So last year, around the same time, I got to 90 days and honestly thought to myself: "I'm cured! Time to have sex".

    Well, not only did I pursue hookup apps, I began watching porn again and fell back right into my old habits. This time I see Nofap as more of a lifestyle practice and, while I may still count days, I'm not as attached to them when I know I've made a life-long change.

    The changes themselves? Definitely noticeable:

    1. A clearer head and a deeper voice. I went back to some old voice memos on my phone (didn't plan this, just found them) and I was shocked to hear more bass. While I wasn't concerned about my voice, it's a great benefit. Plus, I go through my days far more focused than usual. The world actually looks clearer and brighter.

    2. I've gotten great at re-framing my thoughts. There have been really challenging days (and especially nights) where it felt like I was struggling to keep going. Learning how to acknowledge the urge, re-direct my thoughts and allow the sensation to pass has been really powerful.

    3. My skin is glowing. I eat a very clean diet with a lot of water (more on that later), but I was doing many of the same things before Nofap and I didn't notice the same glow.

    4. Energy is much improved. Again, I take care of my body in other ways, but my body does feel very balanced, even on days where my sleep and diet fall by the wayside. Now that I'm not fapping and throwing my testosterone levels out of wack, I just feel more confident.

    5. I also have been getting asked out a lot lately. The confidence appears to have had an effect on people. Although I haven't taken any offers, I've never been approached this much in my life.

    Now, for advice:

    1. Finding your "why". My first go-around, I didn't have a strong reason for starting. I did it to get to day 90 and then jumped ship. Having a true purpose and a vision for my life and my body keep me going. Whenever I'm unsure, I re-visit the reasons for taking this journey. It's a strategy I've applied to other areas of my life as well.

    Once you truly and deeply decide to do this, nothing can stop you.

    2. Sleep. I had 1 or 2 nights on Nofap where I slept less than 4 hours. These were absolute h*ll in terms of PMO. It was so crazy tempting to fall back into PMO habits, not to mention the temptation for bad food.

    3. Get rid of the processed crap. I definitely wouldn't recommend making all these changes at once, but your diet's really important to consider. Just like porn, processed food is designed to get you hooked. When you've got good fuel, you'll feel a whole lot better.

    4. Read "Think and Grow Rich". Last summer I read this and it all clicked. The chapter on sexual transmutation blew my mind. I've gotten so much more writing and work done by channeling my sexual energy.

    5. Last, scroll less. Media is taking over our lives. Netflix, Twitter, Instagram and it goes on and on. I still use these platforms, but very carefully. It's easy to find a triggering image and then go down the rabbit hole.

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    For me, this feels like just a beginning and I can't wait to continue this journey past these 90 days. I always feel like there are ways I can improve, as 10+ years of PMO has created some bad habits.

    If you're feeling stuck or hopeless or maybe struggling with it, I get that. I've stopped and started a few times. The game-changer, for me, was developing a clear vision of the person I want to be and working towards that every single day.

    Feel free to reach out with questions! :)
     
  2. When you started first recognized that benefits like deeper voice?
     
  3. Hufflekid

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    I meant that when I went back and compared, I noticed a difference.
     
  4. sebastian182

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    Congratulations bro, I think the best important benefit by far is the confidence. Whenever I do PMO I feel so insecure. On the other hand, if I abstain from PMO for several days, I feel like superman, literally. Btw, I'd like to know what have you felt in terms of female attraction??? Any noticeable difference so far??? Greetings.
     
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  5. Great job man! I am doing great on my journey & have noticed the same benefits. Be strong & keep improving yourself each day!
     
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  6. SkyFallBack

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    Yeah to the big why! It's the utmost important thing to decide.
     
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  7. Congrats man! I just started my nofap journey and reading these success stories really inspires me to stop my porn addiction. I am looking forward to seeing how abstaining effects me mentally and physically.
     
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  8. 22•100

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    Stay strong!
     
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  10. zakes

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    Really informative, thank you!
     
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  11. Way to go!!
     
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  12. unk45d3

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    Very inspiring, and very sound advice with some interesting insights
     
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  13. 22•100

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    Stay Strong!.
     
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  14. Casey54

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    Hey man, thanks for posting, good inspiration for the rest of us trying to hit 90 days!
     
  15. Hufflekid

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    When I was on and off with Nofap, I'd notice just how irritable and tired I felt with PMO. In moments where you feel like you're struggling, remember how good you feel off of PMO. Most people when they think "would I rather feel great or feel like sh*t all week?" will usually pick the first option.

    I'm into men, but I've related to exactly what people have said about women on here. I think the increased testosterone has made me a lot more comfortable approaching people. Porn also just made me have such high expectations. After heavy-use, I'd get de-sensitized to people. I'm feeling that come back more, but it'll probably take a little more time.
     
  16. All_384

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    Top effort :)
    Well done champ
    Inspiring
     
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  17. John Msun

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    Congratulations man, the chain's we had around us are gone and let's keep it like that keep on going strong.
     
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  18. Sahib95786

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    I need an accountability partner. Does someone really need so?
     
  19. Did you got more stares/glances / approaches from girls since you stopped?
    myself i got the idea that they look a lot more at me but it can be placebo to be honest or the increased confidence
     
  20. Much Ado About Nutting

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    Do you have a plan for dating now?

    Right now my "why" is that I don't think I will ever be able to reach my potential with porn in my life. But I haven't really done any work to better define it. Do you have any suggestions for how to really better understand why I'm doing this?

    Thanks for sharing your success
     

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