I'm open to dating, but not pursuing it. Focusing more on getting a new job and other tasks. Your "why" should literally be why you're doing this in the first place. Is it to beat an addiction? Do you want more free time? A love life? Less social awkwardness? Find your goal, vision or motivation for doing this every day. Your "why" doesn't even have to be one thing, it can be a bunch of stuff. For me, it was getting more energy, wasting less time and finally gaining some control over my sex drive. Every time I was tempted to relapse, I went back over these things over and over.