90 days, finally!

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  1. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    I can't believe I could actually do it. After getting stuck at a one week cycle, I'm finally out of it. Here's a little background:

    I'm a 28 year old male. I started masturbation and internet porn when I was around 13 or 14, at that time I didn't have a room for myself or privacy, so my masturbation rate was "low". My highschool and college years were the best for me. I was the guy who made everybody laugh, so people always wanted me around. I've always been lucky with women, with some insecurities (developed mainly by my porn usage) made me lose my virginity at the 25 y/o mark. And despite having a little DE, I enjoyed sex, and my sexual partners enjoyed it as well, mainly because I learned to have fun doing it. But all of that went down the toilet after one mean episode of depression. My old man got cancer, I lost my job, I didn't enjoy being with my girlfriend anymore. Long story short, I lost everything. My old man died, we started having money problems.

    And I didn't notice at the time, but my PMO frecuency went up, from once a week to daily and also the time spent in front of the computer, so, as a result:

    *I got Fat, but not evenly Fat, I just developed a huge belly, it looked sick, it's the only way to describe it
    *Brain fog, just reading a book or playing a videogame was impossible for me
    *I felt tired all the time, I couldn't even excercise because I got exhausted immediately and making my bed seemed like an impossibility
    *Social skills GONE, nothing interesting to say, social anxiety, I felt that everyone looked at me and judged me
    *Women attraction GONE, or at least that was what my brain told me, suddenly women started looking at me with disgust or just plainly ignoring me(this one un particular brought me down, after a life being lucky with the opposite sex, it felt like all my charm was GONE)
    *I starting slacking at work, my classes became boring and tedious

    So, as you can see from a decent adjusted man I became the lowest version of myself, it was like taking reverse steroids.

    And then one day I was looking at some Art of Manliness posts, and one that caught my attention was "Are you addicted to porn?". At first I thought it was some kind of joke or some dumb religious propaganda, how something so natural as masturbation and porn could possibly harm you? Right?

    After reading the whole article, the page led to the NoFap Subreddit and everything became clear. All the symptoms. Sometimes reading other people's stories felt like reading my own life. So it was decided, and I started my NoFap journey.

    The first 15 days were easy as fuck, and I thought I had it under control, after that I was resetting every week, and it seemed impossible to overcome this horrible addiction. But then I found what is currently working for me:

    *Stop looking at Porn: NO SHIT SHERLOCK! This one is the most important, not looking at porn, not even a peek, the very moment you start with the first picture/video everything goes downhill, avoid it at any cost
    *Not using Porn blockers: also important, I don't want to use my computer and phone with fear, the best porn blocker is yourself, just say NO to your penis, if the temptation is too high turn off the device off and run! (Not a joke)
    *A job or going to school is mandatory, it'll be almost impossible to do it if you're around your house doing nothing (happened to me when I was off work on the December holidays)
    *The moment you feel the energy flowing through your body, start excercising, I started doing HIIT and now I'm with calisthenics. You'll burn all the energy left in you and you won't have any left to be interested in porn.
    *Get distracted: read, watch movies, play games, write, anything that'll keep you away from porn.
    *Eat healthier and drink a lot of water: just because
    *Have ice packs ready in the fridge: for emergencies, it really works!

    Some things that I've tried but need improvement:
    *Meditation: I just can't get into it
    *Social interaction: People disgust me
    *More hobbies
    *A better job

    So the things that have changed are:

    * Lost fat and gained muscle
    *Barely get brain fog
    *A lot more energy than before. I still get periods when I feel tired but nothing compared to some months ago
    *Social skills improved. I'm not terrified to go out anymore, my conversations are interesting, I'm the funniest guy to be around again, when I'm with my friends I feel like the alpha male.
    *Women attraction back?. Yes, thats a question. Sometimes I feel that I've always had it but my brain sometimes make feel otherwise. When I was at my worst in PMO, some girls told me that they wanted to be with me, or that their friends wanted to go out with me. Also, some days I feel like women ignore me completely, and other days I feel like they just can't get their eyes off me. At the end of the day I guess its an improvement
    *Not slacking at work
    *My voice's always been deep, but now it sounds like Batman's voice modifier, I love it. Girls turn around when they hear me talk
    *Hair everywhere. My beard is growing like crazy, I've got an epic mostache. I'm getting genetically bald, but for some reason the hair on my head is looking better, specially after getting a haircut a couple of days ago. More hairs in the eyebrow area, I'm loving that
    *More muscle development: Yup
    *More aggresive in a good way: less afraid to approach people or speak my mind

    So yeah, last three months have been interesting, I still have a long way ahead of me, but at least now I know that it's possible. If you're reading this I hope it motivates you. Also I apologize for any mistakes but my phone's keyboard is set in Spanish, its very hard to write in another language

    TL;DR I stopped touching my wee-wee, everything looks better now
     
    Last edited: Apr 1, 2016
  2. incredulo

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    What a story and I would have loved reading in Spanish. Keep up the good work. This is a war on P and MO
     
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  3. ShotDunyun

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    Gracias hermano! I'll do, there's no way back now
     
  4. Phantom04

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    Awesome man, keep up the good work!
     
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  5. ShotDunyun

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    I really appreciatte the encouragement brother!
     
  6. volt2187

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    Awesome work @ShotDunyun, there's a lot of your story I can relate to. December was rough for me too but a great chance for reflection and to enter the new year with an agenda to beat the addiction. I too discovered NoFap and the effects of porn by chance, and as you said, once you start reading the effects of it, it explained all of my symptoms, and yeah, I could relate to a bunch of the success stories (especially yours!). I'm glad you've gotten this far, keep going and never look back!
     
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  7. LimitlessTman

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    Awesome and inspiring brother. Just what I needed today. I am on about day 10 and the voice in my head is messing with me. I keep having images from my past web use flashing into my memory and the voice keeps saying, "it won't hurt to take a peek or read some erotic fiction." I know this is a lie, a trap, but I needed some encouragement. In one moment, it is possible to believe that a few seconds of pleasure will be harmless and then I can return to the nofap journey, but I need to be where you are.
    Your story of degradation reminds me of my own. I was young, athletic, mentally strong, confident and full of energy. I didn't endure the personal tragedy like you, but I just started to back slide. I gained weight, lost energy, and became unmotivated. Never realizing the source of my problem, I read and watched every piece of motivation I could find. I am filled with hope again as I realize it is possible to get my life back in order. Thanks for pointing me in the right direction again.
     
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  8. ShotDunyun

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    Thanks brother! It's funny, but before discovering NoFap I thought that I had diabetes or cancer, I'm not even kidding, I got checked a lot of times and the doctors told me "you're fine". I wish I had found about this earlier!

    I'm glad you find my post helpful! You're right, the brain is always trying to trick us. Even today, my brain is like "whoa, 90 days! I bet we're cured, so why not go ahead and watch some porn, is not going to do any harm". Scumbag brain!
     
  9. Phantom04

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    Haha, I can so much relate to this.
    There was a time when I would go to the doctor at least 1 month because I thought the same I was dying and every symptom looked like cancer. After a while though, I started not giving a fuck hehe
    And mostly because the nurse kept getting annoyed seeing me each time LOL
     
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  10. gogibasket

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    Very good story, congratulations on 90 days
     
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  11. ShotDunyun

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    Right? Hahaha yes, the doctors and nurses faces all like: this guy again, really? Now we know what the problem is!

    Thanks for the kind words brother, that helps a lot
     
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  12. Exterminator

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    This is awesome,good job man!
     
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  13. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    Thanks a lot, very encouraging!
     
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  14. about a girl

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    I am very happy for you ! I can only imagine how difficult it was to not watch pornos.... You must look but most importantly FEEL amazing !!!! Congratulations:)
     
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  15. ShotDunyun

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    It still is difficult! But I guess now I've improved my willpower. I feel better and new to improve a lot of things, but now I know it can be done, thanks for taking the time!
     
  16. Nom De Plume

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    Great story man, I'm very happy for you!
    Nom
     
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  17. ShotDunyun

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    Thanks you Nom! We can it do it, brother!
     
  18. Loyal

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    Great story, definitely an inspiration for me to keep going.
     
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  19. ShotDunyun

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    Perfect! We're all together in this!
     
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  20. RKS331

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    Congrats bro! I know exactly how you feel. I hit my 90 day mark a few days ago. Cheers and God Speed! Here's a toast to a bright future and awesome life!

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