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90 Days free from PORN!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by AJ777, Feb 13, 2021.

  1. AJ777

    AJ777 Fapstronaut
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    I'm going to keep this somewhat short, because I'm still on the road to recovery and have a long way to go.
    I finally made it 3 whole months porn free after struggling to make it past one month for the last few years.

    Brief history:
    I was exposed to porn / semi-molested at a young age / always knew about porn - dabbled with it from time to time during my pre-teen and early teen years - made the mistake of watching it in my later teens after some time of not having seen it, and got hooked. From around the age of 17-(25y.o. now) I have been addicted to porn, watching it probably on an average of once a week. I say once a week because there were times I would get really bad with the addiction and watch it once every 2-3 days, and other times where I would go 3-4 weeks before I gave into temptation again.

    Around the last couple of years, I've realized how bad this has gotten, and I've decided that enough was enough. I joined this forum sometime last year, I don't remember exactly when it was, and started reading numerous threads and also posting my own.
    I also started a private journal (not on here) keeping track of my sober streaks.
    I just got so sick of the life of misery I was living. Porn is evil and it will literally will ruin your life whether or not you think that.
    I just decided that I was done. Enough was enough. I'm giving up porn for good. I was done fucking watching it.

    I didn't succeed right away of course. I relapsed several times since I got really serious about that decision, but my relapses got longer and longer in between times. Before, I was going 1-2 weeks of sobriety, and through-out last year I was going anywhere from 3-5 weeks before relapsing.
    I forced myself to get over the guilt, the self-pity. I realized that even though I was addicted, I was still making a choice to view porn each time, and I wanted to be done making that choice. I was so disgusted with myself and the way I was living.

    And now, I have been sober for a little over 90 days.
    However, I'm only about 8 days sober from masturbation. I am trying to hardmode for life, except if/when I meet a girl in a meaningful relationship, of course.

    Benefits so far:
    Not as foggy headed on a day to day basis.
    I have more energy, and am able to better focus on my goals, dreams, hobbies, etc.
    Depression is vanishing (still have rough days, but it's getting a lot better)
    This one is big = Social Anxiety has been greatly reduced. It's still there sometimes, but not nearly as bad. I never realized how fucking much porn causes social anxiety. It's ridiculous. Before, it's like because you feel guilty and ashamed, and there's a part of you that thinks others/strangers see that in you, or know you are an addict or something, and you have no confidence... IDK for sure how it all works, but I do know that I am super grateful and happy that I can actually look people in the eye and have direct conversations with them.
    Before, during the midst of my PMO addiction, I had really bad social anxiety and didn't like to / couldn't talk to anyone, had a hard time making eye contact, so on and so forth. It has definitely gotten a lot better. And I think it will continue to improve with time, as there are some days I still feel a little shy / self-conscious.

    There were some tough days where I was tempted to watch porn, and I just thought about how miserable and depressed I always get every time I've relapsed, and I decided I didn't want to put myself through that again. Logical thinking + willpower really was the driving force for me.
    (And my Faith, Christian here -)

    Well, this post has already gotten longer than I wanted it to be, lol.
    Summary:
    I feel fucking great. Way better than I did 90 days ago, haha.
    One last thing I want to mention, is that ever since I've been sober, there have actually been some other issues coming up in my life, which I don't want to go too in-depth to because it will take forever and this post is already really long.
    I do want to say though, don't expect a life of freedom from only abstaining from PMO.
    For me, when the distraction of PMO was gone, my eyes were opened up to other issues that had been in my life for a long time, but because of PMO, I was blind to them.
    Just don't expect an easy / perfect / happy life forever once you get sober. It's a constant journey of self-improvement even after we quit PMO.

    Thanks for reading guys, I'm going to keep up this fight, and in the future, I'll make another post, maybe once I'm 365 days free of porn!!!
    Keep fighting the good fight!!!
     
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  2. Gammett

    Gammett New Fapstronaut

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    Reading this makes me happy! Praise God for where you're at right now as it isn't an easy road to go down.
    I was reading a reply that you made in a previous post about how your faith is what you hold onto in times of temptation and that really connected with me. I've had times recently of both temptation and depression and the only thing that I felt that would give me hope was knowing that God is there for me. Remember that the same God that we want to please by running from sin and temptation is the same God that wants us to have victory in this area.
    "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality;" 1 Thessalonians 4:3 NKJV


    Here are some more verses that I've used to help keep my mind on the right path, bring these to your remembrance when times become difficult.

    1. Don't become too sure that you're immune to temptation.
    2. Don't think that anything that you're going through is unique and that nobody has ever gone through the pain that you are going though, we all suffer to degrees.
    3. In every temptation God creates a way for us to not sin. I do not think that it is saying that the temptation won't come back or will even disappear (though that should still be our prayer) but instead that during that temptation God creates a way of "escape" so that we do not fall into sin. It's hard for me to hear this and hard for me to type it but it's true: sin is our choice, regardless of the temptation.
    "12 Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. 13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 NKJV

    We have compassionate high priest in Jesus Christ
    "14 Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:14-16

    If you're ever feeling lonely or need someone to talk to then shoot me a PM!
     
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