Checking in as I’m now at 90 days clean. Married guy, 57, very much in love in my second marriage. Found myself slowly getting addicted to sexting - it started as a way to keep my brain focused on positive sexual experiences I had as a way to improve my sexual confidence and devolved into a dopamine trigger addiction that negatively affected my sex life.
Being married and rarely alone , quitting this habit was fairly easy as my alone time is minimal. I stopped texting, stopped writing amatuer erotica, stopped masturbation and had been away from porn for a decade. For me, this very sober path allowed me to keep all of my sexual expression within my relationship. The results have been impressive:
Free from guilt
Free and open in relationship with a secret I was hiding.
Open and able to engage in sexual positions I was inhibited to try.
Sex is now truly something shared with my wife.
A more light hearted view of my own sexuality- I can laugh off sexual imperfections.
ED has faded from the relationship- if it arises we simply laugh it off and recover.
I’m more accepting of my sexual imperfections which allows me to be more open.
Overall : happier, a better partner in the relationship and sexual relationship, and more able to now work on sexual techniques I had been afraid to try. I encourage everyone to aim for so sobriety here, and I look forward to the future rewards with continued abstinence.
Onward.
Being married and rarely alone , quitting this habit was fairly easy as my alone time is minimal. I stopped texting, stopped writing amatuer erotica, stopped masturbation and had been away from porn for a decade. For me, this very sober path allowed me to keep all of my sexual expression within my relationship. The results have been impressive:
Free from guilt
Free and open in relationship with a secret I was hiding.
Open and able to engage in sexual positions I was inhibited to try.
Sex is now truly something shared with my wife.
A more light hearted view of my own sexuality- I can laugh off sexual imperfections.
ED has faded from the relationship- if it arises we simply laugh it off and recover.
I’m more accepting of my sexual imperfections which allows me to be more open.
Overall : happier, a better partner in the relationship and sexual relationship, and more able to now work on sexual techniques I had been afraid to try. I encourage everyone to aim for so sobriety here, and I look forward to the future rewards with continued abstinence.
Onward.