90 days no PMO and Precum AFTER wet dream = Relaps ?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction Recovery' started by KaitoKid95, Nov 6, 2018.

  1. Hello everyone!

    I’m totaly new to nofap and just signed up to the forum (I’m French so sorry in advance for my bad English)

    I’m at about 90 days without PMO and happier than ever ! But this night I had my first “wet dream” with pornographic images and made me wake up. It was not a real “orgasm” but most like a “ruined orgasm” with the feeling of not finishing ! (Horrible feeling) and was really tempted to finish of : Honestly I wished sleeping again and have a real relapse in another dream instead of this “not finished” feeling..

    So I was very tempted but got back to sleep. When I wake up like 1h30 later I still felt kinda “tempted” , and by having an erection pressed my genitals (not “faped”) in a direction for like 2-3 seconds (I don’t know if it was to sens something at this moment or to kinda edge unconsciously or feel just a bit of pleasure, I don’t know like I said the feeling/urge was really difficult to handle) and a few drops of precum came out. (Was it risiduals of the wet dream ? Don’t know)

    I didn’t go any further and still feel like frustrated until know.. it’s like I was teased with the dream of pictures last night and now I’m charged with temptations to “finish”. But I will fight this thoughts !!!!!!


    My question is, does my situation counts as a relapse for you ?

    Thank you for your opinions !
     
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  2. MusicMakingMonk

    MusicMakingMonk Fapstronaut

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    Simply no. Wet dreams happen man, it would have only been a reset in my mind if you really started masturbating conciously.
     
  3. Thanks for your answer !!

    But my question is most about my “reaction” after :S
     
  4. (But very linked and caused by the wet dream of course)
     
  5. MusicMakingMonk

    MusicMakingMonk Fapstronaut

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    Well it's a bit of a gray area, you just had an internal, maybe overwhelming sexual stimulus happen to you, you were drowsy....
    I think a lot of people put a lot of pressure on themselves not to relapse and not to do anything sexual at all, and though it's a good goal if you are rebooting, minor slip ups will happen. I see way too often in myself and others that when you define your actions as some sort of relapse or massive failure even if it was only a minor slip up, your addiction will convince you you totally messed up, and that it doesn't matter anyway what you do now so you start binging and relapsing for real.

    You didn't fall on the floor man, you only felt the banana peel under your shoe and you stepped off of it without losing your balance.
    That's some good shit, that requires determination and alertness.
    Keep going strong man, you're doing it!
     
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  6. Wow.... just thank you !!!! I needed to hear that all, and you really put words on a lot of thoughts I also had about this !I will stay strong !! Thank you ! Be blessed !