90 days PMO free - How to stop watching porn

[ThePerspicacious]

I made it to 90 days, for the first time in my entire life since I started watching porn, it wasn't easy, it was almost impossible, I was a slave to it, (I haven't made it yet I'm still an addict and I will keep fighting this addiction forever, you don't cure addiction after 90 days or 30 days).

Let's adress the problem
we are addicts, addiction is powerful than us, we can't challenge it, it will ruin your life and after a session of porn you will be cursing it, you'll make promises to never watch it again, and boom after 4 days you will start craving it and you will say: just one more time and I'll start again, you'll watch porn for 4 hours, and then the same cycle keeps repeating itself.

What worked for me
(You don't have to do exactly what I did, you can change it and make this plan work for you)
I understood my problem, I can't stop, I always say this is my last time, then I end up relapsing, addiction is way more powerful than me (that's why everyone on this forum knows that porn is bad and keeps cursing it yet most of the guys here don't make it past 2 weeks), so what I did was, finding a way to make it impossible for me to watch porn, even if I want to.

We all watch porn alone, we be hiding in our rooms or the bathroom, so the plan that I did was the following:

I did this every single day for 50 days:

• when I'm going to bed to sleep, I put the phone in another room, to keep it far away from me, when I need to set an alarm, I put it in the room but I make it hard to reach, either I put it under my bed, or I put it between my clothes, that way I make it hard for me to grab it in 1 second when I'm trying to sleep.

• when I wake up, I turn off the alarm, and I don't use my phone, I don't scroll social media(I stopped using Social media) , I don't open Youtube, I don't open anything unless there is a call that I have to make or an email that I have to check.

• I go make my breakfast and eat it, and then I immediately go to a public library, (If you work online you can work there, if you are a student you can study there, if you don't have a job you can just sit there and read a book or learn something on your computer or whatever), I would go to the public library, I avoid sitting in the corners, I sit in an open place in the middle ( so that I can't hide what I'm watching), and I'll spend half of my day or more there, anything from 5 to 8 hours a day either working, or studying, or just spending my time doing anything on my laptop, of course I go outside to eat lunch.

• Now I get that this can't work for everyone, some of you have office jobs, some of you have different things, but my advice will be, if you can minimize the time you spend alone, do it, you can spend it in a public park, go to a gym, or anything that can work.

My final advice would be, make it impossible for you to watch porn, don't take it to an extreme insane level, don't do stupid stuff, but make it hard for you.

And finally, you don't have to do what I did, that is what I did and what worked for me, I'm not even encouraging anyone to do the same as I did, but if want to, go for it.

 

[unintentionalpilgrim]

That's huge man, congratulations on 90 days.
Making sure to avoid isolation is definitely very helpful to minimize time spent battling temptation. The less time you're tempted, the better your chances of success.

Another aspect that I've been working on lately since my last relapse is mindset. I read a post recently where someone was talking about how despite not using PMO, they still found themselves lusting and experiencing damage from that. They talked about how without eradicating lust as a whole and truly uprooting that force from their mind, PMO was always going to be easier to use than not. I have found this to be true in my own life. Fighting not only PMO, but the whole enterprise of lusting. For myself, this brings greater stability and sure-footedness.

I know that when I was clean for 2+ years, what lead to my relapse was months and months of allowing lust to grow in me. A bit too long on one thought, a movie I know I shouldn't watch, etc. It was a very gradual process. I went from fully believing I would never use P again in my life to being back in the trenches. But it doesn't happen overnight. Guard your thoughts and stay vigilant at all costs. The war is harder than the battle.

Praying for continued success in your journey. God bless you. Keep up the fight.

 

[ThePerspicacious]

I know that when I was clean for 2+ years, what lead to my relapse was months and months of allowing lust to grow in me. A bit too long on one thought, a movie I know I shouldn't watch, etc. It was a very gradual process. I went from fully believing I would never use P again in my life to being back in the trenches. But it doesn't happen overnight. Guard your thoughts and stay vigilant at all costs. The war is harder than the battle.
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I think the only way to fight lust is to remind yourself daily about the fight, is there a different way to do it

 

[thepmoaddict]

I made it to 90 days, for the first time in my entire life since I started watching porn, it wasn't easy, it was almost impossible, I was a slave to it, (I haven't made it yet I'm still an addict and I will keep fighting this addiction forever, you don't cure addiction after 90 days or 30 days).

Let's adress the problem
we are addicts, addiction is powerful than us, we can't challenge it, it will ruin your life and after a session of porn you will be cursing it, you'll make promises to never watch it again, and boom after 4 days you will start craving it and you will say: just one more time and I'll start again, you'll watch porn for 4 hours, and then the same cycle keeps repeating itself.

What worked for me
(You don't have to do exactly what I did, you can change it and make this plan work for you)
I understood my problem, I can't stop, I always say this is my last time, then I end up relapsing, addiction is way more powerful than me (that's why everyone on this forum knows that porn is bad and keeps cursing it yet most of the guys here don't make it past 2 weeks), so what I did was, finding a way to make it impossible for me to watch porn, even if I want to.

We all watch porn alone, we be hiding in our rooms or the bathroom, so the plan that I did was the following:

I did this every single day for 50 days:

• when I'm going to bed to sleep, I put the phone in another room, to keep it far away from me, when I need to set an alarm, I put it in the room but I make it hard to reach, either I put it under my bed, or I put it between my clothes, that way I make it hard for me to grab it in 1 second when I'm trying to sleep.

• when I wake up, I turn off the alarm, and I don't use my phone, I don't scroll social media(I stopped using Social media) , I don't open Youtube, I don't open anything unless there is a call that I have to make or an email that I have to check.

• I go make my breakfast and eat it, and then I immediately go to a public library, (If you work online you can work there, if you are a student you can study there, if you don't have a job you can just sit there and read a book or learn something on your computer or whatever), I would go to the public library, I avoid sitting in the corners, I sit in an open place in the middle ( so that I can't hide what I'm watching), and I'll spend half of my day or more there, anything from 5 to 8 hours a day either working, or studying, or just spending my time doing anything on my laptop, of course I go outside to eat lunch.

• Now I get that this can't work for everyone, some of you have office jobs, some of you have different things, but my advice will be, if you can minimize the time you spend alone, do it, you can spend it in a public park, go to a gym, or anything that can work.

My final advice would be, make it impossible for you to watch porn, don't take it to an extreme insane level, don't do stupid stuff, but make it hard for you.

And finally, you don't have to do what I did, that is what I did and what worked for me, I'm not even encouraging anyone to do the same as I did, but if want to, go for it.

That is exactly what worked for me too when I was PMO free for 2+ years! It makes things so much easier.

That's huge man, congratulations on 90 days.
Making sure to avoid isolation is definitely very helpful to minimize time spent battling temptation. The less time you're tempted, the better your chances of success.

Another aspect that I've been working on lately since my last relapse is mindset. I read a post recently where someone was talking about how despite not using PMO, they still found themselves lusting and experiencing damage from that. They talked about how without eradicating lust as a whole and truly uprooting that force from their mind, PMO was always going to be easier to use than not. I have found this to be true in my own life. Fighting not only PMO, but the whole enterprise of lusting. For myself, this brings greater stability and sure-footedness.

I know that when I was clean for 2+ years, what lead to my relapse was months and months of allowing lust to grow in me. A bit too long on one thought, a movie I know I shouldn't watch, etc. It was a very gradual process. I went from fully believing I would never use P again in my life to being back in the trenches. But it doesn't happen overnight. Guard your thoughts and stay vigilant at all costs. The war is harder than the battle.

Praying for continued success in your journey. God bless you. Keep up the fight.

Man, you spoke my heart out. This is what led to my relapse too after 2+ years and I kept blaming my life conditions and what not for my relapse but I know now very well that I was on the path to relapse for a very long time.

 

[ANewFocus]

Congratulations and thank you for sharing what worked for you!

 

[unintentionalpilgrim]

I think the only way to fight lust is to remind yourself daily about the fight, is there a different way to do it

I try to think of it only in contexts that make sense. E.g., if I'm out with my family having a lovely day, and lust isn't anywhere to found, it doesn't make much sense to suddenly remind yourself to stay wary (just be in the moment!) But if I'm hanging out with my roommate and then he leaves, I'm now alone; that's a context where it could make sense to say, "hey, I best be careful and go do something other than sit on the couch"

Reminding yourself of the battle is something that is undeniably a good thing. And there's nothing wrong with having to remind yourself for the rest of your life, because whether we like it or not, that war doesn't end until we die! This really doesn't bother me, it's just being human. What does bother me is losing that battle. Acknowledging that you're in it and taking action to do the right thing and walk another day in victory can only be a good thing.

 

[usedtobehismermaid]

I made it to 90 days, for the first time in my entire life since I started watching porn, it wasn't easy, it was almost impossible, I was a slave to it, (I haven't made it yet I'm still an addict and I will keep fighting this addiction forever, you don't cure addiction after 90 days or 30 days).

Let's adress the problem
we are addicts, addiction is powerful than us, we can't challenge it, it will ruin your life and after a session of porn you will be cursing it, you'll make promises to never watch it again, and boom after 4 days you will start craving it and you will say: just one more time and I'll start again, you'll watch porn for 4 hours, and then the same cycle keeps repeating itself.

What worked for me
(You don't have to do exactly what I did, you can change it and make this plan work for you)
I understood my problem, I can't stop, I always say this is my last time, then I end up relapsing, addiction is way more powerful than me (that's why everyone on this forum knows that porn is bad and keeps cursing it yet most of the guys here don't make it past 2 weeks), so what I did was, finding a way to make it impossible for me to watch porn, even if I want to.

We all watch porn alone, we be hiding in our rooms or the bathroom, so the plan that I did was the following:

I did this every single day for 50 days:

• when I'm going to bed to sleep, I put the phone in another room, to keep it far away from me, when I need to set an alarm, I put it in the room but I make it hard to reach, either I put it under my bed, or I put it between my clothes, that way I make it hard for me to grab it in 1 second when I'm trying to sleep.

• when I wake up, I turn off the alarm, and I don't use my phone, I don't scroll social media(I stopped using Social media) , I don't open Youtube, I don't open anything unless there is a call that I have to make or an email that I have to check.

• I go make my breakfast and eat it, and then I immediately go to a public library, (If you work online you can work there, if you are a student you can study there, if you don't have a job you can just sit there and read a book or learn something on your computer or whatever), I would go to the public library, I avoid sitting in the corners, I sit in an open place in the middle ( so that I can't hide what I'm watching), and I'll spend half of my day or more there, anything from 5 to 8 hours a day either working, or studying, or just spending my time doing anything on my laptop, of course I go outside to eat lunch.

• Now I get that this can't work for everyone, some of you have office jobs, some of you have different things, but my advice will be, if you can minimize the time you spend alone, do it, you can spend it in a public park, go to a gym, or anything that can work.

My final advice would be, make it impossible for you to watch porn, don't take it to an extreme insane level, don't do stupid stuff, but make it hard for you.

And finally, you don't have to do what I did, that is what I did and what worked for me, I'm not even encouraging anyone to do the same as I did, but if want to, go for it.

Is there an app or something for Android phone to block porn?

 

[hellboy21]

¿Existe alguna aplicación o algo para que el teléfono Android pueda bloquear la pornografía?

hay aplicaciones que te pueden ayudar a mejorar , pero como tal en lo total no hay . Solo eres tu mismo y ser fuerte, en este mundo la vida te enseña a ser fuerte, cuando lo único que te queda es ser fuerte.

 

[Chrispl]

is there a different way to do it

Yes, there actually is - being so absorbed into something, that not even a single thought about anything sexual has any place to creep in.
In other words - it's a state of flow or state of such obsession, that You're basically single minded on something.