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90 days today.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Lesoldat, Jan 20, 2016.

  1. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    Hello guys,

    Just a little feedback about my first goal achieved.
    I started on 23 october last year after two fap session in a row. It wasn't the first time but the first time i tried since i knew about nofap.

    The tries i did before ended up by a relapse here is why:

    -Loneliness (broke up with girlfriend and lost many friends because of this toxic relationship,
    -i was jerking off just because i had no girlfriend and it was "removing" stress, mostly when i was bored when a slight urge was about to show up,
    - Didn't know about the consequence of confidence, physical damages,
    - Alcohol, when you're back from a night out, slightly drunk, alone,
    - Videos with beauties making everything you dream of, it's really addictive, you look for a new girl every time, juste because you can't have much in real life.

    And that day in october after reading this site and thinking about all of this it clicked. Here is why:

    -Could remember a time when i had a girlfriend, there was a period for more than two weeks long that i couldn't even get a boner, seriously even when trying to jerk, trying everything, like it was dead.. I didn't know where it was from, i asked a specialist and for him everything was ok and said i was maybe a bit tired or stressed.
    -Noticed that everytime i fapped i felt really really weird, weird look into my eyes, social anxiety even with familly (not really good for confidence),
    -Acting like i always had something to hide, on my phone, laptop, creepy as hell, can understand that a girl can't live with a "man" like this,
    -Impact on real sexual life, i had a real sexy girlfriend ( behavior is an other story), but i didn't want to fuck her sometimes, because i felt tired eveytime. Faping before she visits me.. what a shame,
    - This is serious, it's killing your energy as well, as intellectual abilities (memory), i can sense it right now and it's obvious,
    -Getting more time to get busy for real stuff (you can't imagine all the things you can do in One hour instead of looking for a video that suit to whipe)

    Now i feel great, no superpower but anxiety is mostly gone. I feel like a normal person and most important, i feel like i evolve as a man.

    But the thing is i don't think 90 days is enough, i don't have intense urges or erections as i had in the past before or at the beginning of my porn comsuption. At 29 yo I'm not that old right ?
    So i stopped Porn, stopped masturbation and didn't O neither. But i admit it happens to me to fantasize about some girls and thinking about actions with them, is that bad ? i guess yeah so i will try to avoid this kind of thoughts and pursue my quest for as long as i can.

    Honestly it was hard maybe for three weeks, then kind of easy when you get busy enough to don't think about it. Just think about why you decided to stop.

    Since a week i start to have sexual dreams,the first was so real ! When i woke up i was pretty sure i had an orgasm but did'nt. The second two days ago i was clearly doing my mattress unconsciously ahahah, i woke up and stopped before the mistake. Did this happen to you ?

    Also I made few comittments last year such as "try" to keep exercising regularly, eat helathy, stop fapping, work harder, leaving parents to live by myself, waste less time on facebook. So i did complete four of this goals. This year i'll try to succeed on others ;)

    Good luck to you guys.
    Last edited: Jan 20, 2016
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  2. DannyCool

    DannyCool Fapstronaut

    that is great. it is sometimes hard to see the difference. we cannot take before and after photos. I also felt that I was not done after 90 and continued on. There is definitely an inner confidence that develops that is hard to describe like increased self esteem. I think this is invaluable because it leads to a consistently happier life. You cannot buy that.
  3. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    True words buddy.. There is things you can't notice for a so short period of investment, but you know there's so much more to gain. About inner confidence it's hard to explain, but when you fap you know deeply inside of you this ain't the right thing to do. Having a normal life with all this displaying in your mind, just not possible. I don't know about happiness, i don't feel the euphoria at a level as high as in the first weeks but on the other side i can't remember the last time i felt depressed.. and i was often before. Maybe the fact that i accepted loneliness, celibate and some others facts to focus on positivity helped.
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  4. DannyCool

    DannyCool Fapstronaut

    ya man that strikes a cord with me - there is definitely a lot more contentment and strength.
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  5. Thrivelife

    Thrivelife Fapstronaut

    Hey brotha, you're ahead of me as I haven't made it to 90 days yet (aside from once in 2009 for other reasons). My recent bests were 35, 21 and 19 days, but I'm 27 and suffering the same ED and low libido symptoms you mention. Just wanted to let you know, I've read through a lot of people's stories on here who had the same issues who are our age. It seems to have taken some people four months, many people six months and even a handful of people 9 months for their erections and libido to truly heal and come back to life. Thought that might help. Best of luck on your journey my friend!
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  6. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    Thank you for that post my friend it's giving me hope really. Anytime it will take to get this fixed i'll stick to it i'm too far now to give up. Also on your side even if you relapsed this happened to me a lot before i really understand that i have no choice, it can't be a "maybe" it will and at that very moment in your head you'll know you're doing good. The question is how will we react when we will be healed and feel strong urges ? curiosity is a good reason as well ;) good luck bro !
  7. TheFutureMe

    TheFutureMe Fapstronaut

    Congratulations on your goal achieved, it seems like a long way from where I stand, but we're here to fight right?
  8. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    Thanks mate ! Exactly, fight against this and i swear you'll feel wayyy better in your head. It's not about chick magnet and stuff (i would love it if it was real and that simple) it's about you, you feel better as a real man growing > people see you as a strong person mentally and happy (girls as well) and everything gets easier and easier i'm pretty sure about it. It all come from deep inside of us.

    My own 4 rules:
    -Get busy (try to invest free time to improve maybe your life, your image of yourself with sport, socialize, study) all of this is helpfull, in my case i had not much time because of work, studies and working in the place i'll live very soon, this helped so much,
    -Ask yourself why you're doing it and why you shouldn't, is it possible for you to live like that for the rest of your life (and we both know really well it's not a man behavior),
    -Envision yourself as the man you'll be by going through this. A confident man, with high testosterone, who know what he wants and probably good into bed with girls, not only this but all the advantages it's implying.. good health..,
    -Think about everything positively, "it seems like a long way from where I stand" > "No matter where i stand i know this has to be that way, it will take time but i'll get to it",
    (i red a book pretty good on positivity and affirmations, hal elrod "the miracle morning" it's inspiring)

    Don't take this as a lesson i'm just trying to help by giving you my vision about all of this, there's probably more experienced men in here ;) I hope sincerely it will help anyway. And sorry for my english :rolleyes: Good luck
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  9. Matthew5:28

    Matthew5:28 Fapstronaut

    90 days is awesome brother!! Keep up the good work!
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  10. PaFappa the Rapper

    PaFappa the Rapper Fapstronaut

    Good stuff Les. I can relate completely. Same age as you, pretty much the same goals. We're in this together.
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  11. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    Thanks guys for support it feels good. I wish you to reach your goals as well.
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  12. cud

    cud Fapstronaut

    Man i like your story! And the main reason why is that is very very similar to mine!

    Lost GF, being piece of shit, lonely bla bla bla.

    One thing i have been seeing in almost every post - we all have a same dream - TO BE A MAN!!!

    Have you ever noticed? Thats bigger than we even think. But the good thing is that NOFAP is definitely part of the way. It is desire to be one! And desire is fucking important!

    You can read my story - i also didnt get anything like superpower. I have become normal man (or i know there is some way in front of me until i will be done completely - will i ever be :) ) - and that should be a goal of everyone of us. Normal man with his bad and good sides of personality. Man with desire, pride, honest, with man word...simply raw man (which i mean in a good way) the mountain that everyone and that includes also yourself can rely on!

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  13. garyRF

    garyRF New Fapstronaut

    wow 90 days. I could only 30
  14. oooo

    oooo Fapstronaut

    Thanks for your story, it gives me the drive to go on and accomplish 90 days myself.
    Anyway, wish u all the best!
  15. programer

    programer Fapstronaut

  16. skylar_legit

    skylar_legit Fapstronaut

    hey...im working hard too.
    im getting in shape, muscle building n' all and jogging timely everyday and stuff.
    i just need to study, thats hard...
  17. taqwa

    taqwa Fapstronaut

    Sexual thoughts are 100% normal. They are necessary to provide a motivation to procreate. It really depends on the content of the sexual thoughts...But don't beat yourself up...We all are working on not objectifying women...It is a process that requires patient diligence.
    Wet dreams are not a mistake. Natural. Enjoy them. Don't fall into the Chaser trap. That is, sometimes the dream can lead to PMO. Be aware. Stay strong! Keep winning! Thanks for sharing!
  18. Lesoldat

    Lesoldat Fapstronaut

    Thanks for sharing my friend, i couldn't look up to your story because i don't have internet in my new home yet but i will for sure. Aren't you french by the way ? Your definition of "being a man" is actually very true and is what i want to be really close in the futur. But as you said there's a loooong way to go, it's far from just avoid PMO, it's about acceptance, confidence and working hard to feel "complete".
    All of this combined with good habits for health, wealth and social (friends, girlfriends), that is the way to full happiness in my opinion.
    This is what i whish to all of you.

    I think a LOT about all of this, and i insist of this very important rule:
    -Get yourself busy !

    In my case when i had strictly nothing to do (this is what i thought but it's actually never the case, you always have studies, workout, or tasks at home waiting for you to move) i was usually ending up sitting and falling into my thoughts. And verryyy quickly you think about girls => sex => and you know then it's game over. Think about this.

    Many thanks again to all for support, thanks taqwa for advices i wasn't sure about the way i acted. Good luck to all of you.
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  19. adam300

    adam300 Fapstronaut

    Thank you brother for sharing your story with us I hope one day we can all progress like you.

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