99 days no PM. My thoughts. Hope they help.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Indurian, May 27, 2019.

  1. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    This is a beautifully written post. Do you have more updates since your last comment? I am at day 40 and I can only feel thankful to all you guys. I am experiencing incredible benefits. I can't wait to hit 90 days. I hope to quit fapping for good. Cheers!
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  2. Indurian

    Indurian Fapstronaut

    Hi. Thanks for your message. I'm out tonight but will try to put a post together tomorrow. Well done on 40 days!
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  3. Indurian

    Indurian Fapstronaut


    I'm approaching 6 months in a few days, which is the longest I've gone without P and M since I was 14. It feels pretty good in the sense that I don't feel enslaved by it just now, and if possible I would far rather live my life that way going forward.

    What I'm surprised at is that staying away from P has been fairly effortless in the last 3 months, and the strong urges of the first 3 months have stopped. I think that checking in here most days and continuing to research the consequences of P are possibly the main factors in maintaining sobriety. I've also continued the following:

    >Cold showers every day
    >No alcohol
    >Running 2-3 times each week
    >Weights a couple of times each week
    >Vegetarian diet
    >Meditation most mornings
    >Practice patience whenever I can. Patience with children, at work, at traffic lights, in shopping queues etc etc
    >No staring and ogling women. This has also been a very important factor, and I always now avert my gaze. You think you'll miss out, but the more you stop ogling the more peaceful you feel. I can honestly say that any anxiety when talking to women (which I had big time) has gone.

    During other similar streaks I have become overconfident, thinking that I had porn abstinence mastered. I was wrong many times. I know how easy it would be to slip back into old ways so I will try to remain vigilant and keep to the above practices.

    As a result of my abstinence I've continued to see a number of benefits, which are as follows:

    >Greater sense of wellbeing
    >No guilt
    >More calm
    >No wasted nights edging
    >No wasted mornings following binging and edging at night
    >I can hopefully be of help if any friends or family get in a mess with this addiction
    >I'm not contributing to the porn industry

    Of most significance though, I'm no longer using P + M to mask my problems. This has allowed me to experience and deal with some of the issues that had been driving me towards porn in the first place.

    Despite giving up P +M for 6 months I do now see that I also use food as a stress reliever / mood enhancer, particularly junk food. I need to put some effort in that area, so if anyone has any good advice I'd be very grateful.

    Thanks for reading
  4. stoneyman22

    stoneyman22 Fapstronaut

    keep going brotha, get healthy "junk" to munch on like celery and peanut butter.
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  5. lirider

    lirider Fapstronaut

    Well written and insightful post sir. I've tried a few times and failed after letting people, things bother me. I would then say this is all that life has to offer and go back to my old reliable P stars. It really is a loop you get stuck in. I peeked this morning, edged for 30 seconds and then cursed myself saying "stop!". I will say alcohol is a major contributing factor. I've been drinking daily and you let your guard down so much. Going to reset my counter from 11 days to zero.
  6. Indurian

    Indurian Fapstronaut

    Sorry to hear about what you are going through, I hope the best for you.

    While it is definitely possible to get better, I've got to admit that the process is not all a bed of roses. I'm 6 months free and I get more good days as time passes, however on my off days I am experiencing a fair bit of depression and general sluggishness. It's like I can't shrug off stress like I used. I'm going to persevere though, and as perverse as it sounds the suffering and depression seems to mould you into a better person.
    Last edited: Aug 22, 2019
  7. Encernia

    Encernia Fapstronaut

    Wow, I'm speechless. As an 18 year old hearing your story about how you grew up consuming P and how it effected your life is crazy. It's great that you're doing better now and you've learned a lot at your age because most people at your age don't like change. Congrats!
  8. lirider

    lirider Fapstronaut

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  9. Jefe Rojo

    Jefe Rojo Fapstronaut

    Congrats on 6 months! I am currently recording everything that I eat and I’m tracking calories. It really has opened my mind and I’m a lot more conscious of what I’m eating. Not sure if you’ve tried doing this but writing down what you eat may help. I use an app called MyFitnessPal.
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  10. Asgardian36

    Asgardian36 Fapstronaut


    dude thank for the post, youre a hero in my eyes...great inspiration to many of us here. thank yiou!

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