A book recommendation for the men on here

Be careful with this stuff. It led person dear to me to suppress his emotions so he ended in psychologist trying to figure out why he is not happy and don't feel joy. Now he is retraining his stoic patterns to come back to feelings.

I personally read it and have a book, which is useful container of good insights, but I wouldn't let anyone to grow emotionally mature masculinity along with this book.

 

Thanks for that warning, @MeTP .

I'm sure that this suggestion can be very useful to some, for one aspect, while perhaps less useful to others who need more of a different area of growth before having need for this. It's often a matter of where an individual is in their development as a person to determine how beneficial a philosophy could be for them.

 

Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like he didn't read the stoics properly. This is a common misconception about the stoics- grim faced Vulcans. But it is not true. They would openly weep at the loss of a loved one for example and recognize their emotions as natural. It was the dwelling on them they abhorred - adding misery to your misery, or for example, to simply recognize that the nature of things and that helps with emotional management.

I would suggest to reading additional stoic tests- remember Aurelius was only noting what was relevant to himself - there are also some books that update or augment stoic thought with modern CBT and modern psychology