I wanted to post in this forum because I've earned the right to. 31 days no POM. I've haven't felt this good for as long as I can remember. Literally everything is better -- my work, my relationships with friends and family and most importantly my relationship with myself. I have been strong in the face of temptation and I feel like I this is the person I want to be. My advice? Don't wrap yourself up in why's, just don't do the things you know won't help. Don't look at things you know will make it harder. Don't mindless scroll on your phone. Don't ogle girls on the street. Don't do that stuff and when you don't, let that build you up. Change your behavior FIRST and then the mindset will follow.
Congrats man, that is a great achievement. Hoping to be where you are soon. Your strategy sounds like CBT a bit; do the things you know you should do, let this change your feelings and your thoughts will change as a consequence. I like it. Keep it up brother
You got it. It's actually more like just BT -- more and more I'm finding out that cognitive change has little to no benefit for escaping addiction. In fact, I believe it's possible that it may work against you in that it can give you more opportunities to fail.
I like this. Sometimes I have a hard time fighting with the addict in me whether I really want to give up, and I think it's good advice just to sometimes focus on the behavior, and not try and intellectualize it.