A Final Farewell (last update) - HOW TO STOP MASTURBATING IN 4 SIMPLE STEPS

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by thechosen0ne, Dec 4, 2015.

  1. thechosen0ne

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    I’ve been part of this challenge for about two years now. I’m currently around 5-6 months on hard-mode. A friend of mine recently started nofap and started asking me for tips and tricks. So I thought I’d share with you my guide to stop masturbating in 4 simple steps!

    1) No Nudity

    Don't allow yourself to see any form of nudity on the internet when starting NoFap! Your imagination will run wild, and your mind will take any opportunity it gets to PMO.

    2) No Edging

    Don’t even get your hands near your genitals, because your mind will play tricks on you reminding you how easy it is to let go.

    3) Have Your Heart Broken

    Into millions of pieces by someone you deeply cared for, trusted with all your heart and saw as your potential soulmate. Someone who treated you like shit, despite you doing everything to win her heart over and over again, until eventually you lost part of yourself, and were eventually abandoned by her. Fail first year in University, and get kicked our of your program. Feel absolute hopeless. Start going to the gym with the boys, to feel a sense of control and gain some clarity. Spend months doing absolutely nothing with your life, drowning in sorrow over losing her. Try to find ways to get her back. Look at her Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter to keep track of how she’s doing. Spend weeks researching self-help books, blogs and articles to find ways to improve yourself for the sake of impressing other people, but mostly her. Come across nofap. Think it’s bullshit, and move on with your life.


    Workout even more. Eat healthier, and study harder. Find out she’s flirting with someone else, and seeing multiple guys, and listen to your ‘friends’ make jokes about it. Ignore those friends. One day, see her on campus wearing the red hoodie you lent her months ago, and break a little inside. Catch your friends talking about her tits and ass, and feel your body fill with rage. Realize how shallow your friends are, and make notice of how much they objectify women. That night, research the benefits of nofap, and spend hours reading posts on Reddit. Make it a goal to try to get a week without masturbation. Sign up on Reddit and get a badge. Fail on the second day. Try again.


    Get a message from your ex telling you she’s failing school and that she misses you. Relapse after breaking your longest 27 day streak. Feel miserable. Drown yourself with schoolwork, masturbate often, and notice the lack of energy, and will-power you experience. For the next few months, dedicate yourself to keeping a streak on nofap. Fail often, reset badge, start again. Give up on nofap for weeks at a time, and justify it by googling “why nofap is bullshit.” Subscribe to sub-reddit, and unsubscribe countless times. Start nofap again when self-esteem dips below threshold. Notice the small increase in self-esteem you get every time you're on nofap. Start to get compliments on your workout gains.


    Maintain a three month streak. Start to notice girls flirting with you. Feel better than you have ever felt before in your life. One day, feel the urge to text her, telling her you miss her. Meet her the following week, and go back to her place. Feel a sense of accomplishment and power, as she takes her clothes off, because in a twisted way, you feel as if you’ve won. Suddenly, feel an empty feeling in your gut, as you realize you have no desire to fuck her. That you're not emotionally attached to her. Notice how much you’ve grown in the last two years, and how much she hasn’t. Leave, and never see her again.


    Spend the next few months living the best days of your life. Make best friends. Embrace your artistic talents, as you start to notice the beauty in the everyday mundane. Learn martial arts. Start drawing. Hit personal bests in all of your lifts. Start to notice your body-fat percentage dramatically decrease. Appreciate the friends that’ve stuck around with you from time, through all the shit you’ve been through, and all the shit you’ve put them through. Feel like a superhero. One day, mention to your friend about nofap. And genuinely feel happy to know a while later that he’s giving it a go. Decide to give back to the community, by writing a post on Reddit.


    Realize the 'superpowers' nofap gives you are’t an increase in will-power, self-esteem, or even things like having a deeper voice. Those are just side effects. The real superpower nofap gives you is the ability to impact someone’s life in a positive way.

    4) Cold Showers

    Can’t stress this enough!! They curb all sexual craving! Seriously.


    ***
    This is not an advertisement, but I wanted to point out that this post is heavily inspired by an article I read on Medium; Aaron Bleyaert's "HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT IN 4 EASY STEPS"
     
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  2. One of the best threads I've read on here bro. Top work.
     
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  3. Thechosenone

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    Really powerful post. Your username ain't bad either bud ;)
     
  4. shutdown66

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    great post... thanks friend, Inspiring words.
     
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  5. Anti-Porn Army Soldier

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    I can relate with all this and what is your opinion on blockers?
    In my case it is a necessity!
     
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  6. shutdown66

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    After I relapsed last night again, I am determined to get blockers this time around, I NEED to beat my best streak of 15 days, because I feel so shit after wacking one out, I want those day 8 vibes to return, when I feel alive.
     
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  7. cud

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    Thats so fucking good post!

    I am exactly the same case - I love that part "have your heart broken" it happened to me, exactly the same shit but only this opens my eyes and sent me to real NOFAP, not just trying and doing some few days streaks. I would have never done things I have done after break-up and you are right in here, it was because i wanted to prove to her and someone else that i am good guy. I do it differently these days - i do it for myself! Though, I look forward to be in the time when I wont care about her anymore. It is improving but takes some time!

    Thank to you, I got another big inspiration from you!!!

    Stay cool!
     
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  8. thechosen0ne

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    I think it's relatively subjective. I didn't use blockers on my browser, but instead used 'mental blockers'. Whenever I felt a strong urge to look at porn, I went on shut-down mode, and immediately focused all my energy on doing anything else. Reading helped, as well as a simple computer game. 'Agario' if you've heard of the game.
     
  9. thechosen0ne

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    It's good to care about her. It's what make you human; caring. But I think it's very important to value and care about yourself, just as much as you value and care about her. 'Letting go' is very hard to do; even when you think you've let someone go, one random thought or action can make you nostalgic. I've noticed that when you focus all your effort on 'forgetting' someone, you actually accomplish the opposite. I value 'communion' - accepting that who you are is defined by your past. I say remember the past, remember the negative people in your life, because after all, they helped shape who you've become. I've noticed when you practice communion, your past has very little power over you. I think about her from time to time, but I don't let it get to me. And time does heal all wounds.
     
  10. Fare thee well @thechosen0ne. May your journey be a fruitful one and masturbation remain outta the picture, not to speak of PMO.

    A poem to bid you farewell, and a pleasure reading your story and posts here my stalwart sir,

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    Come to the Well

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    Come to the Well, to the Well at the Tree
    Come, look deep into its water, said He
    And I'll drink with you if you'll drink it with me
    And the more you drink of it, the more you will see.

    One cup for the price all who drink here must pay:
    Once you start to see, there's no turning away.
    What's seen can't be unseen; the images stay
    At the back of your eyelids by night and by day.

    One cup for confusion, the choices you make
    Seeing all of the forks in the road you may take;
    Always aware of how much is at stake
    On the path that you choose, and the ones you forsake.

    One cup for the burden of knowing too much,
    No longer with blissful nescience as crutch;
    One cup for the loss of the common man’s touch,
    Set apart by the vision you clutch.

    One cup for the thirst that grows as you drink,
    One thought needs the next as a link needs a link.
    One cup for desire, to step on the brink
    As the water wells upward, and let yourself sink.

    One cup for ecstasy, rapture of sight,
    Grasping the World in a swirl of delight;
    The veil drawn away, all aspects unite,
    Translucent reality, clarity’s height.

    One cup for wisdom, your boon, to remain
    When your vision at last fades to normal again.
    One last cup I raise with you, to the Norns’ skein
    That binds us both to this gift won with pain.

    Come to the Well, to the Well at the Tree
    Come, look deep into its water, said He
    And I'll drink with you if you'll drink it with me
    And the more you drink of it, the more you will see.

    © Michaela Macha

    This work by Michaela Macha (www.odins-gift.com) is licensed
    under a Creative Commons Attribution-NoDerivatives License.

    Image copyright: naumoid / 123RF Stock Photo
     
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  11. cud

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    Well I dont mean to forget her completely, cause it is not possible. It is exactly thing as you are speaking about - that thoughts will not more be so hurtfull. And yes forgetting - has the opposite effect on me and I dont know what to do more. I guess I start to FINALLY initiate a no contact at all. I wish her for her b-day with no reaction and i felt hurt a lot so no contact at all i guess it is the best for the start and then time will heal the wounds, otherwise itř is not possible when i still contact her. Thank you for your post we all have to go through these strugles to became real men so we are ready for the real life!
    I am glad to be the part of the community!

    Now it is a time for cold shower!

    Cheers!
     
  12. Wow, this is the best thing I've read in a long time. Not just on NoFap, but anywhere. Seriously beautiful and inspiring writing. You almost made me cry (though that's not much of a feat with me :p). What a lovely way to tell your story. I hope you share this with others outside of NoFap, as well, if you have the courage, because it's raw, real, and charmingly powerful.
     
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  13. anony mous

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    This is wonderful. Loved it you just inspired mote people
     
  14. silverlukas

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    Great post !


    I've heard that cold showers increase testosterone but also that they help to temper the urge to fap. Do you believe that both assertions are true, and if so, how do you recognize them?
     
  15. iLoveHer

    iLoveHer Fapstronaut

    The third part is simply amazing.
    Well done man, well done.
     
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  16. thechosen0ne

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    thank you for that, it's a very deep poem, one you notice the subtle metaphors :)

     
  17. thechosen0ne

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    I believe both assertions are true. I think science isn't strong enough yet to determine the factors which make you feel more/less sexually frustrated. I'd been taking cold showers before NoFap actually. I watched a ted-talk which attributed cold-showers as a wake-up mechanism, and a way to help adapt to 'pressure.' The guy in the ted talk claimed that cold showers changed his life because they helped him remain calm, and deal with his busy work environment better. His reasoning was, "if you can't bare 10 minutes of uncomfortableness, how can you deal with uncomfortable situations". I gave it a try, and i've been kind of hooked on them ever since. I didn't know cold showers had multiple benefits until NoFap. So, regardless of whether it DOES increase testosterone or curb sexual tension, do cold showers anyway. It's never been the case that I took a cold-shower and felt shitty afterwards, always the exact opposite :)
     
  18. thechosen0ne

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    thank you, felt like I should have elaborated it a little more ;)
     
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  19. thechosen0ne

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    thank you, it's one of the best feeling, knowing the pain and the discipline you went through, has at least inspired one person
     
  20. thechosen0ne

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    thank you, your comment means a lot. But I would be lying if I said this post was an original idea. As I noted in the article, the real talent goes to Aaron Bleyaert's original post. He's twice the writer I am, and he inspired me to write this post. I just took my story and put it in his framework.
     
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