A List of helpful tools to get over withdrawal sympstoms and how to overcome urges

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by glory.indeed, Jul 13, 2019.

  1. glory.indeed

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    Okay fellows,
    you are so much posting and I appreciate that. But I have to say since I started my new streak i am basically neaqrly all the time in pain. It is ridiculous. I am about 6 days now and I felt strong pain every day. Never happened before (as I remember). True I am mostly at home because it is end of the holidays and some of my friends are away but this feeling sucks. I feel like I have nothing to do. I can´t even learn because I feel so drained. I have basically energy for nothing. I am switching from Pc to Tv. I don´t waste my time ultimately because I learn some new things or play chess or read and so on. But you can sense that I am in a pretty shitty situation.
    Does someone have any tips or things I could do?
     
  2. Awedouble

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    Are you tstalki about physical pain or psychological pain?
     
  3. kingbob3

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    Your perspective changes. Its all in your head mate.
    For example, when you are somewhere in your journey, this means you are disciplined enough to do what you are supposed to do as opposed to whats easy. In general when we people are hooked to porn they are not present in the moment, they are fickle minded which affects their efficiency. If you are flying in a plane, you expect the pilot to be disciplined enough to make your journey safe. In the same way your life is accountable too, responsibility will make you more accountable. Its your responsibility to make your life worth it, to make sure you get what you deserve. Then tomorrow your will be responsible for taking care of your other half, later your kids much later your frail parents all in the mean time you are responsible for your country, for human race and your future too. When all that is at stake nofap is just a small step towards your higher self. I am not saying sex is bad. I am just saying getting dopamine from whatever source for which you have to pay a price, which reduces your self esteem, degrades your confidence and what not, then that must be omitted ASAP form your life.
     
  4. kingbob3

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    Day 24.

    Today I feel a little thrilled, even a female face in the newspaper makes feel vulnerable. Thats how dopamine plays with your brain, after 24days all dopamine deprived, my brain is trying to get the hit from even just looking at woman's face, tomorrow worst may come, just a female's voice might trigger the filth in me.
    I gotta stay strong and do what I am supposed to do as opposed to whats easy. Its my responsibility to get what I deserve and not get content from what I get. I am a warrior. I expect that after a successful reboot I wont be a sexist and wont get uncomfortable talking to anyone of whatever gender the person might be. I gotta constantly remind me of the reason why I started this journey and what I will achieve after completion of the journey. My mind will trick me to fall in this small alluring filth which will distract me from my goal, and once I am distracted falling seems good and you will be stuck forever. So take a deep breath and remember the day0 when you took a decision to begin this journey. You are all in, winning is the only option.

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  5. glory.indeed

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    I just felt as if I had no energy. But it starts to go away. I just need some more time.
     
  6. glory.indeed

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    Thanks for the uplifting comments!
    Wish you all a great day!
     
  7. teach3615

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    Coming back to the breath when your mind starts to wander...
     
  8. kingbob3

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    Day 25.

    Narrow Escape, a very thin line saved me this time.
    Immediately after writing my journal yesterday, I was put in a very uncomfortable situation, like nerve racking situation for me. Anyhow I managed to sail through the situation after that I opened my laptop and came up with these filthy magazines pdf in my downloads, which obviously I would have downloaded before my journey. Not filthy exactly but content which had potential to trigger filth, penthouse and one playboy. Now remember I just conquered a nerve racking situation, I was comfortable at that moment so my brain was already releasing some feel good harmones. So I made a decision to have a quick look before deleting the magazines. Bad decision. I opened up the document playboy didn't had any nudity but still scantily clothed women can trigger filth in your brain when you are abstaining from any kind of media for 3weeks+, it gave me a boner and obviously more feel good harmones. I deleted the playboy after having a very quick look, like less than a minute. Then I opened the penthouse. Extreme filth overtook my conscience. I was trying to have a quick look but my brain was having a treat to watch explicit eye candies. It was not porn but yes nude, erotic poses. So I started enjoying the nudity and boom then came one of my fantasies, girl on girl, explicit photoshoot. I went week on knees just in split seconds. Imagine just few minutes back I was on strict regime talking so highly of nofap(read my last post, this incident I am describing happened after half an hour or so after posting it) but here I am kinda dry humping my shorts, even I touched my self a little. I deleted the files immediately, took my phone went to the washroom, was about to watch porn but what came to the rescue my traps. There was no google chrome, no incognito window, and laptop I had already shut down.(I have mozilla firefox which has this amazing feature to block any image on screen in normal and incognito mode both). I checked my shorts I thought with all this filth and dry humping some body fluids would have been out but no, its all in the brain. Libido got increased, it was all dry.
    I dropped the idea and did whim hoff breathing immediately keeping my head in front of my air conditioner, felt good and finally after some time I was back in my normal self. A very thin line saved me. I vividly remember that when I made a decision to finally quit and fap to porn the following line came in my head "no problem, I am a human lets start tomorrow again from day0 on the forum". Brain really likes to control you. All the abstinence, sacrifices, hard work of following the regime, all the desire to succeed in life, all the ambitions gone in vain in just split seconds, thats how bad porn affects a human brain. After hours when the urges finally faded, I was proud that yes I refused to give up. The more precise detail I describe here, more proud I become of my this small achievement, I won a battle. This is how winners win. Small battles like these with yourself will win you the war of life.
    Now there are some things to learn here from the incident.
    1. When you are in a very uncomfortable situation, like a genuine nerve racking one. Remember something like this may come as an after math of that situation.
    This happened with me last time also, I was on a successful 65days streak, I went through a nerve racking situation like a social embarrassment types, I smoked and then finally fapped to porn for months. So don't let any situation break you, you are always stronger than you think.
    2. Its not a good idea to test the waters. You have a goal, strictly follow it. If your focus is on the goal you wont be distracted by the obstacles in the way.
    3. Meditation is a must, on a daily basis. Its the only thing which will reinforce the faith in you to overcome filth. Remember negativity is too strong to win, it has to be overcome by making positivity more lucrative and alluring.
    4. Water. I made a mistake of not drinking water when I was struggling. Water will subside the urges and removing the filth.
    5. Oxygen. My new add on as a deterrent, I can flex my muscle. Try whim hoff breathing technique. It really is something.
    6. Desire. I really want to upgrade my level. Its too easy to be ordinary.

    With all these tools I believe anyone can do almost anything which one desires and deserve.

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  9. kingbob3

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    Day 26.

    A very happy Sunday to ya.
    My gym remains closed in evenings of the Sunday, so I did my morning cardio. All pumped up. All energetic. All enthusiastic. Will not write much, cuz I feel a little tired. But hell yeah I am going strong with my techniques and in my journey. Got a very interesting article on this nofap forum, check it out. Thats what I wish for. Years of staying clean.

    “Shoot for the moon, even if you miss. Yow will land among the stars.” ― Norman Vincent Peale


    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/6-years-clean-rebooting-as-the-best-remedy.135983/
     
  10. kingbob3

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    Day 27.

    You are all unbelievably cool, some of you do not understand how crazy the thing they are doing. We are breaking the laws of nature. We can control our Instinct of reproduction. We are less than 1% of the world's population. Do not stop. "You're breathtaking".

    Thats what I read on reddit as soon as I opened my mac. Its really cool and motivating. But I think I am on a flatline again.
    Yesterday again filth got in my head and guess what without watching anything which could trigger an urge. My memories triggered my filth, more I recalled more dopamine I got. Well every one would have experienced some intimate moments with their opposite gender, so I think my dopamine deprived brain was triggering my urge by recalling my those memories, and that too by making them so vivid, to minuscule details. Thankfully it did not made my urges so potent, that I would be regretting my actions. But it made me mull upon my decision of this journey. I became skeptical whether I would be healed or not. Or I will fall into the trap again and at some point maybe on day 36th or 68th or 89th I will give up and then binge again to porn.

    Thats how harmones play with your brain. It makes you weak, so that you become vulnerable and you give up. I have made a regime, I am following it with dedication, discipline and a strong desire to make it to the other side. I will meet with these kind of depressed times when my brain will want a dopamine hit, I will confront some uncomfortable, embarrassing and failure moments which will make me more vulnerable for a dopamine hit, in those moments I need to stay strong and remember why I started this whole journey.
    DESIRE.
    THE STARTING POINT OF ALL ACHIEVEMENT IS DESIRE. KEEP THIS CONSTANTLY IN MIND.

    Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat. If you find yourself lacking in persistence, this weakness may be remedied by building a stronger fire under your desires.
    The above quotes were from this amazing book "Think and grow rich" by Napolean Hill which I recommend every one to read it at least three times. Why three times? Because then only the golden concepts of the book(in general, which everyone think they already know) will go deep in your subconscious mind and then you will start applying those concepts to elevate yourself.

    Today I would like to motivate myself and recall the day 0 of my journal so that the memory of my goal becomes more vivid and I stay on my path, also more fire is generated under my desires(goal), so that I become more strong with my decision to achieve my recovery and become a better human being in this overall journey of nofap.
    I would like to thank all the people those who care to even read my posts, cuz you are helping me by helping yourself.
     
  11. kingbob3

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    Day 28.

    "You Give is What You Get."-Les Brown


    Going extremely strong with my dedication, discipline and desire to go on the other side and become a responsible human being. Its like a dream coming true. Its like a feeling when you wake and you thought you missed your school bus, ohh snap you are 26year old graduate. Life is beautiful indeed and its looking beautiful as a result of my 3D's stated above, else I would be looking at filth every where by now. Now I am excited every morning to pass my day more efficiently unlike before. In next two days a major target number will be achieved which will boost my confidence through the roof and after that I have decided to add on some major exercises in my regime which will help channelize my excess sexual energy, else there will be always a chance to fall back into the filth.
    Yesterday night two times I saw some explicit content in my dream. But since I have not been watching any thing explicit the connection which my brain has with the filth is starting to loose, so even after having a boner and sleeping on my tummy I controlled my dreams and did not achieve any mental or real orgasm, no fluid excretion happened neither in my dream or in real. It was like I was saying to the maidens in my dream "sorry ladies I am on nofap". Indeed a good sign. I have realized that once you start your journey you have the option in your brain to have the filthy thoughts(&enjoy) or say no(Iam not supposed to be thinking like that), if you control those thoughts you can win over and control your subjective mind, thats what I did.
    Now, two days after today after I would have achieved 30successful days of nofap, I know that I can control my subjective mind, albeit I will be in need to utilize the accumulated excess sexual energy, else this energy might become a potential threat to a relapse. I need to be prepared. I have few plans in mind. Physical and mental activities I am already doing, I need to add on few more things.
    I read about Sex Transmutations in this amazing book "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill. I don't know much about it, but I will figure something out and will add it here if something concrete comes out. Till then I want to reach a bigger audience and revert to their kind replies on my posts, so that I can help them in their journey. This is the root which every one should draw their motivation from. Thats how human race has flourished and will continue to flourish and prosper in the future. More people I am accountable to more 3D's(Desire, Discipline and Dedication) of mine will be bolstered and will help me to stay on my path to reach on my higher self. Thats what is the quote of the day.

    Read my other posts in my journal and find out my ups downs in the journey, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     
  12. glory.indeed

    glory.indeed Fapstronaut

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    You are doing really good!
     
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  13. kingbob3

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    I really appreciate that. Thanks.
     
  14. kingbob3

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    Day 29.

    I feel a little weak on knees today.
    You are what you say and definitely what you write. Yesterday I wrote the following quote.

    So today I had morning wood and again some beautiful maiden was with me in my dream and she was making love to me in the best of her capacity. Now I came into my senses and I wanted to wake up, but I didn't. I believe she was very good with her head. In short filth came over me and it was all over my brain, releasing dopamine when I was not in my senses. I did not achieve an orgasm. But I am meticulously revisiting my dream because I let filth win over me and I said to myself "enjoy" instead of waking up. Of course I woke up horny. This was a mistake, my mistake. I accept it, and I learn from it. Albeit, I boasted yesterday that I can control my subjective mind.

    A lot of reinforcement needs to be done, to make a strong foundation so it doesn't shake with minor quakes of filth. Then only I will become filth free. There is no shortcut to success, every day counts and everyday brings my other self closer to me. I want to remember my purpose again today that why I am on this journey.
    I need to travel to the other side. So that I become completely filth free, pristine headed. I must draw motivation from my purpose. I need to keep all my focus on the goal and not in the journey.

    I felt elated answering few questions by fellow fapstraunauts. This feeling shouldered me with more responsibility to hang in my journey with more dedication, discipline and desire to succeed, because my actions are accountable to my audience, so I need to make a good role model out of my behaviour. I request all those who are struggling with their journey to seek out help in the universe, universe will respond and help you elevate your level, cuz starting point of any achievement is desire. Stronger the desire stronger the chances to win.


    Read my other posts in my journal and find out ups downs I encountered in my small journey, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     
  15. kingbob3

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    Day 30.

    CHEERS to the day.
    A major achievement in my streak, after what not I have left behind.
    I would like to thank this forum, every morning I came here and posted my feelings through my words and the vibes which I got in return first thing in the morning was simply amazing. Its like an online temple for me now. The energy of all the members of this forum really motivated me and helped me cut the filth out of my brain. Since all the members are abstaining form negativity so their accumulated positive energy can be sensed in their words. Thats the reason why people of different religion visit their pious place of worship, to get the vibes from that place which will subside their worldly pains, sufferings and instill in them hope, positivity, will power and peace of mind.
    Today the connection which my brain has with filth is frail and weak. And I must continue with my streak so that I can completely cut it out, and increase my standard of living.
    I started posting my journal posts to some other journals which were there in the forum, just to get the maximum reach over the audience, with the intent that more notifications will elate me every morning when I open my computer and it really did, I did revert to some of the comments, many of the members did message me also. But someone didn't liked it so I would like to apologize for my actions and commit not to repeat it, cuz even if one person gets negativity from me it will come back to me snowballing and I don't want to end up where I started. Please bare me with the last one.

    Read my other posts in my journal and find out ups downs I encountered in my small journey of 4weeks, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     
  16. Tips:
    -trigger analysis, think about your relapses in your past, and about what made you choose pmo. Write down those triggers, and avoid them as much you can, and if you can not avoid them keep in your mind that thing will trigger me maybe, but i will not relapse. If you become triggered find best ways to shut down those pmo pathways.
    -puzzles
    -write your diary, every day, 2-4 A4 pages. With handwriting. Write down what happened with you, or your feelings.
     
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  17. BiggaIvchenko

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    Thanx!
    Any ideas on how to find what is really inspiring?
     
  18. If you remember something that inspired you in past, even in just childhood that a good thing to try. Do not worry if you does not feel any inspiration about anything at the moment, it just your fcked up brain that only want one thing, so other things seem pointless. Just try some hobbies, your brain will learn to like them too, if their is no other way.
     
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    Recently I have been reading this. I am not sure about the authenticity of the content, but the content is really helping me a lot. It is giving me insights like I could never think of. I highly recommend this book. Good Luck fighting.
     

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  20. glory.indeed

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    Hey just want to throw some ideas in the room.

    So there are basically two ways to push your self-confidence.

    The first way is to get recognition for your work. Imagine you write a book or you are a painter and people tell you that your work is great. Feels good, right? Yeah that automatically boosts your self-confidence. That is the external way to push it.

    The second way is that you push your self-confidence from the inside. Imagine you write a book or you are a painter but you no longer care about whether people like your work or not. You do it because you want to do it, not because you want to hear how good it is because you already know.

    In my opinion it is an evolution.
    At first you use the external factor to push yourself and after time you CAN switch more easily to self-confidence from within.
    But most people stop at the external factor. But this way you always depend on the opinions of others. If that is okay for you then go for it but if not you may start to think about it.

    Okay I kinda build a bridge here to my second idea.
    I wondered why so many people these days watch hardcore porn or at least have a tendency to harder stuff.
    Yeah I know the scientific explanation that you desensitize over time and need harder material to get the same dopamin kick.
    But think about this.
    In my opinion our society lost true manhood. Actually I can´t really explain in which way. I don´t man rough handshakes and being a macho.
    I mean to have values and act upon them. To stand up for the things you love. To not damage others just because you can etc.
    SO many men today feel like they are alphas. dammit today everybody wants to be an alpha. This is so clichee.
    So my point is this.
    Maybe some men use hardcore porn to cope with the fact that they are not who they want to be. They don´t feel dominance, they don´t feel like a man should feel.
    Therefore they use this shit to get a sense of dominance. To get connected to some aggressiveness of manly nature. Don´t get me wrong I just accepted the fact that things like aggressiveness is part of being a man, it is not "the most important part".
    The problem is that this is fake. This is fake dominance. Nobody needs this. They try to feel like alphas but in reality this is dump beta behaviour.
    A true leader doesn´t need to suppress somebody. They help others to grow.

    So peace guys. I wish you a great day!
     
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