A little nervous before going to visit this girl at her work

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2MuchSauce916

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So this girl I used to work with who I believed was attracted to me as I missed some easy signs back when she worked with me and after she left a coworker had told me she thought I was cute. She would still come into my job as she would shop every so often and would invite me to her new job and get a meal from her for free and stuff and she did this multiple times and I would always tell her I will but ended up just blowing her off. Well now on this journey I’m feeling more confident etc so I saw her come into my work the other day and got her number and she told me again to pull up at her restaurant. So far it seems like she was blowing me off through texting her being distant and taking forever to reply. Lol funny how that goes right but when I saw her in person she was warm and friendly. Well I’m going to her job in a little bit not even caring if she likes me anymore and I’m just going to basically write my wrongs so to speak since I’m a man of my word now and to possibly just talk to her on some genuine shit since me and her need to catch up. However I’m still nervous because I’m still physically attracted to her and not used to these situations and also possibly enter a hostile vibe if she bad mouthed me to her coworkers and will act weird when I go. Just need some advice
 
You blew her off at first.
She blew you off afterwards.

It's an equal situation. And your approach of just keeping your word, without expecting too much, sounds healthy.

If you act genuinely friendly and polite, there will certainly be no bad vibes left. There has never been any commitment to anything. And you have no control over what she might say to her coworkers. Focus on what you can control.

I know this thread is older, but since there are no replies... How did it go?
 
step-by-step said:
You blew her off at first.
She blew you off afterwards.

It's an equal situation. And your approach of just keeping your word, without expecting too much, sounds healthy.

If you act genuinely friendly and polite, there will certainly be no bad vibes left. There has never been any commitment to anything. And you have no control over what she might say to her coworkers. Focus on what you can control.

I know this thread is older, but since there are no replies... How did it go?
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Well didn’t go totally as planned, I showed up and missed her by a hour as her coworker said she comes in a hour. Asked if I wanted to wait and I was like no , in my head I was feeling my self worth and not going to do that and besides I had something to do afterwards so I couldn’t even if I wanted too. At the time I felt good anyways but I ended up relapsing and when I look back on this experience now I kinda cringe tbh but it’s tell myself not to feel bad since I kept my word like a man this time
 
2MuchSauce916 said:
So this girl I used to work with who I believed was attracted to me as I missed some easy signs back when she worked with me and after she left a coworker had told me she thought I was cute. She would still come into my job as she would shop every so often and would invite me to her new job and get a meal from her for free and stuff and she did this multiple times and I would always tell her I will but ended up just blowing her off. Well now on this journey I’m feeling more confident etc so I saw her come into my work the other day and got her number and she told me again to pull up at her restaurant. So far it seems like she was blowing me off through texting her being distant and taking forever to reply. Lol funny how that goes right but when I saw her in person she was warm and friendly. Well I’m going to her job in a little bit not even caring if she likes me anymore and I’m just going to basically write my wrongs so to speak since I’m a man of my word now and to possibly just talk to her on some genuine shit since me and her need to catch up. However I’m still nervous because I’m still physically attracted to her and not used to these situations and also possibly enter a hostile vibe if she bad mouthed me to her coworkers and will act weird when I go. Just need some advice
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Forgive me if this is a flaky response, but you sound like a Leo and she sounds like a Scorpio. I know of what I speak because as a Leo myself I've done this dance many times. Leos are confident and dominating, Scorpios are secretive and possessive. Leo wants to go in and get the girl in a direct, straightforward manner, only when you do, it feels like trespassing because of how little she tells you and how non-commital she can be. She might want you, but her guarded nature has her pulling back.

I might be totally off base here, but that's what my instinct says. The only way to get somewhere with this one is to show a genuine interest in her thoughts, feelings and experiences. I mean with any woman, this is a good strategy, but with a Scorpio woman, it is vitally important. Conversation is going to be a bit frustrating, but try not to take it personal, as her nature is to be secretive and yours is to be expressive. She'll start to thaw out bit by bit when she sees you're acknowledging her feelings and doing it with sincerity.
 
2MuchSauce916 said:
Well didn’t go totally as planned, I showed up and missed her by a hour as her coworker said she comes in a hour. Asked if I wanted to wait and I was like no , in my head I was feeling my self worth and not going to do that and besides I had something to do afterwards so I couldn’t even if I wanted too. At the time I felt good anyways but I ended up relapsing and when I look back on this experience now I kinda cringe tbh but it’s tell myself not to feel bad since I kept my word like a man this time
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I don't follow. You told her you were going to her work to see her. You went and she wasn't there. What is there to cringe about? Surprised you didn't go back another day to try again. Or at least text her saying you stopped by to see her but her lovely ass wasn't even there.
 
Jerry2Rick said:
I don't follow. You told her you were going to her work to see her. You went and she wasn't there. What is there to cringe about? Surprised you didn't go back another day to try again. Or at least text her saying you stopped by to see her but her lovely ass wasn't even there.
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Idk I guess in a way I got rejected or I feel like I got rejected in a sense. The way I the scenario played out in my head did not go as planned. See the thing is when we were texting it seemed like she wasn’t interested in texting at all and being vague with the times she works and left me on read after I told her exactly the timeframe I’m coming at and she didn’t even let me know what time exactly to come. So with all that I’m not gonna be desperate about the situation.
 
Ok. I understand it was disappointing, but rejection is a stretch. There’s nothing desperate about trying to have sex with a girl. It’s baller.
 
2MuchSauce916 said:
So this girl I used to work with who I believed was attracted to me as I missed some easy signs back when she worked with me and after she left a coworker had told me she thought I was cute. She would still come into my job as she would shop every so often and would invite me to her new job and get a meal from her for free and stuff and she did this multiple times and I would always tell her I will but ended up just blowing her off. Well now on this journey I’m feeling more confident etc so I saw her come into my work the other day and got her number and she told me again to pull up at her restaurant. So far it seems like she was blowing me off through texting her being distant and taking forever to reply. Lol funny how that goes right but when I saw her in person she was warm and friendly. Well I’m going to her job in a little bit not even caring if she likes me anymore and I’m just going to basically write my wrongs so to speak since I’m a man of my word now and to possibly just talk to her on some genuine shit since me and her need to catch up. However I’m still nervous because I’m still physically attracted to her and not used to these situations and also possibly enter a hostile vibe if she bad mouthed me to her coworkers and will act weird when I go. Just need some advice
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Go there and ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows you like her. Otherwise another guy will take the chance. Pretty girls do not wait forever. If she is not there, text her which SPECIFIC TIME she will be there because you want to see her !! Be a little bold ;) you can do this bro
 
Jerry2Rick said:
Ok. I understand it was disappointing, but rejection is a stretch. There’s nothing desperate about trying to have sex with a girl. It’s baller.
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Yeah the thing is I’m not trying to chase her and be desperate because I didn’t like how she interacted with me through text so I’m like I’m not gonna keep over extending the effort because of that . I will still talk to her if she were to hit me up or I bump into her at my job but I’m not going out of my way
 
Happy_husband said:
Go there and ask her out on a date. Make sure she knows you like her. Otherwise another guy will take the chance. Pretty girls do not wait forever. If she is not there, text her which SPECIFIC TIME she will be there because you want to see her !! Be a little bold ;) you can do this bro
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Yeah your right I was planning on setting something up if she was actually there when I went I would have talked to her but they way she interacted with me through text I felt disrespected in a way
 
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