A Masturbator's Cry For Help!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by SajeebX, Oct 20, 2019.

  1. SajeebX

    SajeebX New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, 25 years old newbie (male) here. I joined NoFap two days ago but didn't know what to do. The pinned post on the newbie section was really helpful but someone should definitely make a video about it. The sheer amount of reading almost made me relapse on day 1. But luckily I survived!

    Look guys, I am a severe masturbator. I started masturbating since I was 10. I know, some of you may think it's impossible and I'm lying but it's true! Although at my early age it was very rare, may be once or twice a month (And there was no ejaculation back then, I just had to pee afterwards). But now I've reached the point where I can barely get through a day without watching porn and masturbating! And each masturbating session now ranges from 6 to 12 hours. Sometimes the session even lasts for two days. I just keep on watching porn and stimulating my penis without ejaculation. It's like a drug and I just remain high on it. During multiple day session, I barely have any sleep, lose appetite for food etc. And this has made me sick, both mentally and physically. My self-confidence is completely gone, I can't even look at girls anymore, let alone go talk to them. I realized, if I keep on doing this, I may never have a relationship with a girl. Now, I am extremely lonely and depressed. I often have suicidal thoughts. I feel weak and vulnerable all the time. Some morning, I wake up feeling really really bad... like I'm dying or something.

    I've searched every nook and cranny to get help for my condition. Tried many self-invented methods but nothing worked. I was hopeless! Then I started to hear about this "NoFap" over the internet. First I was skeptical but the sheer amount of success stories really made me give it a shot. I don't know if it'll work for me or not but it's my last hope! I don't need a year or a month, I just need to see if I can go through a week without porn, masturbation and orgasm.
     
    Last edited: Oct 20, 2019
  2. Bragi

    Bragi Fapstronaut

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    Seems you've been through a lot!
    My name is Bragi and I can be the one that will listen to your cry for help anytime when I'm free. Cause that is my mission. I may be just on day 49, but I know some. Since may 11 it's my 3rd streak, so yes. Experience is backing me up. One thing I will tell you - it's gonna be hard.
    You've been through a lot and it's not like you gonna overcome this from first time. It's gonna take hundreds of streaks til you make it. But if you will keep going forwards and not lose your spirit - you will overcome the addiction once and for all.
    Some helpful YouTube channels: RAS Phanto, Fearless Dan, Captain Sinbad and Seth Alexander.
    1) You have to change your life. Instead of 6 hours at home where you can relapse, spend that time doing something else. Go for a long 2-3 hour walks, run for an half an hour, go to gym for 1-2 hours, read, listen to music and comunicate.
    2) New habits. First is something that will help you A LOT! Cold showers. Yes, cold ones. Not warm ones, - cold ones. 10 minutes is a must. I have a problem of keeping it so long, but I am trying and doing my best. I can spoil you my day after a cold shower - ready? It's *drumroll* GREAT! Yes, man! Great!
    3) Be on Nofap forums. These people have helped me to become who I am and I am extremely thankful to them.
    4) Whatsapp group/-s. Really helpful. Type in a chat such thing as "URGE" and people most likely will support you. You can find some groups on the forum here.
    5) Physical stuff. Spend that semen without ejeculation. Let it collect up in your body and spend it in gym. Dead lifting is great. It takes away every single gram of it. You feel weak after, but you know it's worth it.
    6) Release negativity. Beat the shit out of the wall, bang your head to agressive music. Have a talk with someone. Get real. Just fucking tell your feelings.
    7) Alpha M. and teachingmenfashion - also good YouTube channels that will help you get your shit together. You're handsome dude so you won't have a problem with it.
    8) Set a goal to keep yourself busy.
    9) Discipline yourself. Always. Wake up early. No matter what, but WAKE UP EARLY! You will have more time for youself.
    10) Read a lots of material on nofap to feed your brain with the idea that porn is shit.

    Good luck!
     
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  3. SREENII

    SREENII Fapstronaut

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    hi da..are you from south india?..i'm a person who started masturbating at the age of 4 itself..during my kindergarten days itself my penis got erect and feel an irritation in the penis which would end up in the so called masturbation..that time i even don't know what i'm doing and i had unlimited time to enjoy that pleasure since there was no climax or ejaculation as myself was a kid..but things really changed when i was 13..the time when semen begins to come out..i was forced to do it on a regular basis for 3 to 4 times a day which created severe depression and anxiety in me.i began to loose my self confidence and self respect.when i started my colleging i got an internet access at home which worsened the situation..i had to go through lots of struggle to complete my graduation..that periods i remember..at the college i feel very difficult to face the girls and can't talk to them..so i stayed in the classroom itself even during the intervals..after coming to home i went inside my room and felt more guilt and try to find relief from this by severely masturbating on porn till latenight and wake up late morning with dead sleepy face and again go to college..this became a routine of my college life and this destructed my personality as well as studies..now i'm here in nofap community..this is really an inspirational website for all of us..i'm sure this will work.
    Also i've one suggestion for you..use some parental control software with password protection in your pc..here you can use only specified websites that you really want and can block all other sites for a specific period.just set a password which is difficult to remember.it's done..this can reduce the urge..i'm using it and it's effective
     
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  4. SajeebX

    SajeebX New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Bragi, for your immense support, brother! I really needed this! You suggested some really helpful stuff, I am gonna commit to it and give all my effort. Again, I am grateful!
     
    Last edited: Oct 20, 2019
  5. SajeebX

    SajeebX New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, I'm actually from Bangladesh. Kinda relieved to see someone with a similar experience. Thanks for sharing you story with me!
     
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  6. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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