A Message to the World (8 months clean)

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Aviator24, Feb 11, 2019.

  1. Aviator24

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    I was happy to read your comment. I would say it depends on the individual on how long it takes to fully psychologically recover. What's important the process takes place initially, and the rewards will eventually push you and give you momentum to keep abstaining from the old habit. To give you a rough estimate, the first few weeks the mind/body will sense something is missing and you'll feel withdrawal urges. After a few months those neurological nerves that were used to capture the 'visual' aspect of porn will eventually settle and calm down. I think continuing like that for a year and more will properly reverse the effect porn had on us. It's a medicine and cure to this process. Goodluck to you
     
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  2. zayneyboy

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    Are you still going strong my friend?
     
  3. Porn No More

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    Thanks for sharing and pouring your heart out. I’ve made it 70 days once and felt the results. I’m back to surpass that and free my life. What you say is the truth. Thanks for the inspiration.
     
  4. AD_UK

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    Fantastic post sir. The way in which you have encaptured the exact essence of PMO addiction and put it down into words is brilliant and makes your post so relatable to myself and I'm sure it will resonate with others on this forum too. Seriously, well done on getting to where you are. I'm elated for you.

    Reading your post has helped me a lot. I feel like it's what I've needed to read. I'm currently on day 40 of my second streak of abstinence. My last attempt was around 425 days, and for a while I thought I'd beaten this addiction. But then one day I let my urges take hold again, telling myself 'just one time, get it out of your system' and that was well over two years ago and now I'm back at rock bottom. Anxiety, depression, ED, a lack of drive and desire, no motivation, I've stopped going to the gym and my relationship is not in the best place.

    I've been thinking a lot recently about my 425 day streak and wondering why I relapsed and whether I actually recovered fully at all. You see, the thing is, the first time around I quit simply to cure my ED as my relationship was very new and my girlfriend supported me and obviously we were a little younger and excited to be with each other in the 'honeymoon phase' of our relationship, so a lot of the emphasis on my recovery was focussed solely on my ED recovering. It did, for a while, but then towards the end of my streak I began to get episodes of ED again. And I noticed my anxiety, depression, overthinking etc. My girlfriend and I were a little further into our relationship and so weren't having quite as many 'relations' shall we say as we previously had been. So yeah, I've been thinking about that a lot recently and something clicked not long ago.

    I realised that although I had quit P and M, I had never fully altered my relationship with sex or the way I viewed it. Sure, I'd had a few times where we'd 'made love' and I'd felt a connection akin to which you've described in your original post. All of the different senses, enjoying the foreplay, taking your time and really just loving every inch of your partner. But then it got to a point where we were having so much 'fun', that I slowly but surely just began to associate sex with ejaculation. And thats the killer. That's the reason I relapsed. I'm sure of it. Something in my brain clearly wasn't ready, or hadn't fully recovered, and so I fell right back into the hole.

    So as I say, I'm now on day 40. I'm trying to remember the timeline from last time, and how I should be feeling, and how long off before my ED fixes itself so I can stop making up excuses for not being able to 'perform', and that's all probably just slowing me down. But I want to make more changes, and hopefully I will do. I want to feel like 'the man' again.

    Best of luck on the rest of your journey my man. Apologies for the long response, but your post really encapsulated exactly how I've been feeling and I just felt like I needed to share. Thanks
     
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  5. Aviator24

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    Yes man I have. Life hasn't been as wonderful as nowadays
     
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  6. Aviator24

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    I'm glad you feel this. Best of luck buddy
     
  7. Aviator24

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    Hey man sorry for delaying my reply as I got busy last few weeks. I really appreciate the story that you shared with me. In my opinion that as we are on the course of nofap/no pro, we shouldn't do it JUST to cure ED, or JUST for a specific purpose. It should be a complete rewiring for our brains and a complete brainwash for the rest of our lives. I advise you to start more hobbies in your life so that you can take your focus off nofap. Make sure to include a tough physical exercise which will overall boost your testosterone and replenish all your body which will eventually improve your sex and remove ED, and you have to include a 'mental' hobby let's say so that you educate yourself emotionally, like when I mentioned about self help/development books. You can get educated on ED itself by reading professional books about it, and you can go for self development books so that they reduce your overall worry and stress in your life which could be a factor of your ED. I've been there, and I recommend you that. It's not necessarily just P that interferes with ED. Stress/worry/ overthinking are major killers too. Godlike my friend
     
  8. Brad_1818

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    I'm guilty of watching 50+ success story videos on YouTube (most don't seem genuine), and reading hundreds of success stories on Reddit/NoFap. They begin to lose their impact the more one reads unfortunately. I stumbled across yours about a week ago, and it stuck. I somehow relate to you the most and bookmarked your post. My NoFap counter just hit 7 days while typing this and I'm feeling great. I'm almost through No More Mr. Nice Guy, which has been a good kick in the balls that I needed haha. I'm a 25yo guy that was blessed with good looks and intellect, with a fairly successful career (could be better). This compulsive PMO has me completely hamstrung in developing my character and drive, however. The two forces that really matter in living a good life. I know you're probably on to bigger and better things, but i urge you to make more posts on here, and post your story on Reddit Nofap. Your writing is eloquent and can touch many people in an impactful way.

    Best regards
     
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  9. Thilo

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    Thank you very much, for keeping my motivation for the long run. Awesome post. I will try to add your suggestions into my life. I tried selfhelp books before they are awesome AF.
     
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  10. Aviator24

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    I really appreciate your comment and I'm happy to inspire you. I know what you mean when you read countless stories and they generally start losing impact. Actually I have so much more to express that I could write a book. Literally. However I got a major upgrade in my career which is obviously the priority. I will probably post more in the future and on reddit. Thanks for your comment again, and keep up the hard work buddy. I promise you the rewards will be worth it
     
  11. Aviator24

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    That's amazing man. Keep it up and goodluck
     
  12. Lustorlove

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    @Aviator24 One of the best posts I have read on here in a minute. I love the line where you realized everyone has this problem, that’s exactly what I realized when I found this movement. You didn’t talk about being grounded much. I was wondering if becoming/staying grounded became easier for u on this streak? Thanks for the post my dude, we need more success stories in this formation.
     
  13. Another good inspiring post thank you
     
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  14. Aviator24

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    Pleasure to inspire you buddy. I understand what you mean; i've written this post after staying 4 months clean, and now i'm approaching 6 months clean. I will write a post in the future regarding the effects of being grounded, and all what I can tell you is that life as an overall becomes a level up. You feel your soul and desires more. You appreciate your beating heart and love people more. You want to do so much more to experience life. It's beautiful. I can write much more, but i'll leave that for later post so that the more I experience this, the more I feel it, the more i'll be able to express and write a long thread
     
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  15. Aviator24

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    My pleasure
     
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  16. Very inspiring brother!
    I have read articles on PE. How there are so many men who are having this problem. First I was thinking that this is caused mostly by PMO. Have you seen improvement here by abstaining from PMO?
    I plan to get married (after getting out of the vicious cycle), and I am worried about PE. And how the girl will get frustrated.
    I hope you can enlighten me on this.
    Thank you once again for your motivational thread.
     
  17. Aviator24

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    It is completely your decision to avoid watching porn. It is under your total control. I believe that if you do take this decision, then you will have a life long happiness from marriage and you won't have to escape to porn 20 years from now if you become frustrated for whatever reason.
    I have seen huge differences since I stopped watching porn on October 1. I might make a completely new and long thread on how my life has drastically changed since I took that decision, and the longer I wait to write that thread, the more I experience life without porn, the more i'm able to express.
    Take care man
     
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  18. Wow is all I can say.

    I can never read this enough. I have a lot of similar experiences.

    I have found joy in running, reading and I have a lot sharper focus too.

    I will read your post again and and again
     
  19. TimeToQuitNow

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    Congratulations on 5 months! I just read the whole post it was very inspiring. And you are a very good writer. Not once did I get bored reading this.
     
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  20. Hank Pym

    Hank Pym Fapstronaut

    I cried internally while reading this. I was just going to relapse today or tomorrow, but you did pit big fight inside. Thank you like hell lot. Lets enjoy the real world.
     

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