A new attempt

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by DrewKnew, May 23, 2019.

  1. DrewKnew

    DrewKnew New Fapstronaut

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    *Spoiler alert*
    My name is Drew and I am addicted to adult content. I have been addicted since I was an early teen and I am struggling to stop. Over the years I have found different ways to satisfy my carnal desires. However, now that I am dating and trying to commit to someone, I have noticed that this material is putting a damper between us. I haven't had any kind of sexual exposure contact in over three years, but I feel like I am doing a lot worse. Recently I stepped inside an adult store that had an arcade in the back, this is where I feel I fell harder into my addiction. This adult store is in a different state, and the road to this place is really dangerous. However, even though the trip is time and energy consuming, I still find any reason to lie and head over the mountain and self-indulge. I feel selfish, dirty, and unworthy of trying to get married next year.
     
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    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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    220woof671 Fapstronaut

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    No sweat -- everyone here is human -- and are trying to find ways to improve.

    Free Tips for your success:

    Benefits of No PMO:

    1. No social anxiety; 99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easier to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-2 seconds.
    2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
    3. No brain fog; can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
    4. Increased motivation to get things done.
    5. More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
    6. No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
    7. More time for good/productive things. Not wasting time going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.
    8. Women/men increasingly become less of a priority or need.
    9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
    10. More Respectable -- (online comment) "if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
    10. Improved Creativity and Resourcefulness

    *Not all days are wonderful. Somedays are so-so ...… many are common... some are difficult due to "flat line"... But who wants to go backwards -- to weakness, shame and disrespecting yourself, etc.?
    Y-o-u can change! Y-o-u are 100% in control. Y-o-u call the shots!


    Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations:


    #1 Secret = Get Off Your Heineken and Go Outside [temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with women (or men for females) 6- Go to store and buy yourself a reward/gift/treat (small daily; medium weekly; large monthly) 7- Do your favorite hobby-passion-interest 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9- Go walk a wonderful dog "Woof!" 10 - Have a "WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Take a break; take a nap (remind yourself that you are 100% in control and 100% responsible for your behavior-actions) 13- All Things Are Possible 14 - Positive personal hygiene (brush teeth; shower) keeps your self-esteem high 15 - Fasting (water only) has many health benefits; a 1/2 day or more fast will help you have more self control 16 - Taking it one day at a time, one urge at a time makes your goal more manageable & successful.

    A great way to have SUCCESS over urges or temptations is to make a quick LIST OF GOALS and OPTIONS. (Just make a quick list -- you can add to it later.) Then read the GOALS and OPTIONS when you are tempted. (I made a simple list the first week -- now it's a habit -- like a memory.) In a sense, you want to 'hold a knife' to the throat [carotid artery -- side of neck] of your 'feelings.' You are the boss -- you tell them what to do. If your 'feelings' disagree with your goals (No PMO, self respect, power) -- tell your 'feelings' where to go. You can call your list: STUD LIST, SPECIAL FORCES LIST, LIST OF OPTIONS, etc. (whatever works for you.)

    APPLICATION = SUCCESS !!!!!!!
     

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