*Spoiler alert*
My name is Drew and I am addicted to adult content. I have been addicted since I was an early teen and I am struggling to stop. Over the years I have found different ways to satisfy my carnal desires. However, now that I am dating and trying to commit to someone, I have noticed that this material is putting a damper between us. I haven't had any kind of sexual exposure contact in over three years, but I feel like I am doing a lot worse. Recently I stepped inside an adult store that had an arcade in the back, this is where I feel I fell harder into my addiction. This adult store is in a different state, and the road to this place is really dangerous. However, even though the trip is time and energy consuming, I still find any reason to lie and head over the mountain and self-indulge. I feel selfish, dirty, and unworthy of trying to get married next year.
No sweat -- everyone here is human -- and are trying to find ways to improve.
Free Tips for your success:
Benefits of No PMO:
1. No social anxiety;
99% of time relaxed, calm, cool; easier to be sociable. If I do start to get nervous I think, "What do I have to be fearful about?" And I get calm in about 1-2 seconds.
2. More attention from opposite gender -- without trying
3. No brain fog;
can concentrate easily. Can think clearer under pressure.
4. Increased
motivation to get things done.
5.
More Stamina -- can hang in their longer at work (be tough) and complete projects; can work overtime, while others can't
6.
No fears; high levels of testosterone = strength and don't take bs. (No one has messed with me in 52 days +.)
7. More time for
good/productive things. Not wasting time going to phony porn sites; fapping to pixels; lusting, etc.
8. Women/men increasingly become less of a priority or need.
9. Improved Confidence -- (online comment) "
porn and masturbation lowers your self-esteem and confidence"
10.
More Respectable -- (online comment) "
if you resist the urge to masturbate -- a practice that is generally condemned -- you are likely to feel more respect for yourself; and others will respect you more." We all can quickly tell if a man or woman is fapping ... nervous ... weak … fearful … has shame [trying to hide something] …
10. Improved
Creativity and
Resourcefulness
*Not all days are wonderful. Somedays are so-so ...… many are common... some are difficult due to "flat line"... But who wants to go backwards -- to weakness, shame and disrespecting yourself, etc.?
Y-o-u can change! Y-o-u are 100% in control. Y-o-u call the shots!
Tips to Successfully handle Urges or Temporary Temptations:
#1 Secret = Get Off Your
Heineken and Go Outside
[temptations usually only last 10-20 min] 2- Go on NoFap and make a post; or "like" some posts; or give advice 3- Listen to and Dance to your favorite music (fun and gets rid of excess energy) 4- Exercise, go to gym, go for a walk 5- Go to mall and talk with women (or men for females)
6- Go to store and buy yourself a reward/gift/treat (small daily; medium weekly; large monthly) 7- Do your favorite hobby-passion-interest 8- Call, email or go visit a friend 9-
Go walk a wonderful dog "Woof!" 10 - Have a
"WHATEVER IT TAKES" attitude or mindset 11- Do a good deed for someone (extra points if they don't know who did it) 12- Take a break; take a nap (remind yourself that you are 100% in control and 100% responsible for your behavior-actions) 13- All Things Are Possible 14 - Positive personal hygiene (brush teeth; shower) keeps your self-esteem high 15 - Fasting (water only) has many health benefits; a 1/2 day or more fast will help you
have more self control 16 - Taking it one day at a time, one urge at a time makes your goal more manageable & successful.
A great way to have
SUCCESS over urges or temptations is to make a quick
LIST OF GOALS and OPTIONS. (Just make a quick list -- you can add to it later.) Then read the
GOALS and OPTIONS when you are tempted. (I made a simple list the first week -- now it's a habit -- like a memory.) In a sense, you want to 'hold a knife' to the throat [carotid artery -- side of neck] of your
'feelings.' You are the boss -- you tell them what to do. If your
'feelings' disagree with your goals
(No PMO, self respect, power) -- tell your
'feelings' where to go. You can call your list: STUD LIST, SPECIAL FORCES LIST, LIST OF OPTIONS, etc. (whatever works for you.)
APPLICATION = SUCCESS !!!!!!!
