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liberatedmind

liberatedmind

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Hello NoFap community,

I am a 29 year old male. Married with one young child. I started pornography slowly in my early teens and the situation has since gotten worse.

I am here to reverse that trend.

I know there will be ups and downs, but I am more ready for the challenge than I've ever been. I keep coming back to the question: if so many of you have done it, why can't I?

This question motivates me but it is not my entire purpose. I am doing the 90 day challenge -- no pornography, no masturbation, no "triggering" -- for myself, my faith, my family, and with a vision to step away from the virtual world and into the "real" world. I want to live a full, meaningful, purposeful and exuberant life.

I am sick and tired of wasting my opportunities to live my fullest.

One last thing: I know that the mind is flexible, but there is no such thing as "unlearning." I am at peace with the likelihood that there can always be a trigger, a stumble, a fall -- at any time in my journey -- but that there is always a chance to stand up, stop digging, and learn from my experience.

I am here to learn. And to live over my addiction.

Stay strong,
Liberated Mind
 
Hello and welcome! :)

We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

Getting Started Guide | How to Use theNoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | ForumRules | Glossary

If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
 
liberatedmind said:
I am at peace with the likelihood that there can always be a trigger, a stumble, a fall -- at any time in my journey -- but that there is always a chance to stand up, stop digging, and learn from my experience.
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Very wise statement.

Welcome to the Nofap community.
The NO PM journey is not easy but worth the effort.
The community will support you.
 
Tiger uppercut! said:
Hello and welcome! :)

We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found

You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help.

Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here.

There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
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Thank you for these resources and your well wishes.
 
I strongly advise you to evaluate yourself and why you watch porn. Moreso, why you feel you need to escape your feelings. This will take a lot of soul searching but it is completely worth the effort. There are deep-seeded causes to why you are addicted and you need to recognize them, accept them, don't criticize them. Accept and move beyond. Then you will be free of the desire to shove those feelings away through an addiction. Believe me I was in a very similar situation but I didn't quit until I had 2 more kids and wound up divorced after 14 years. You want to learn? That's great. Take it from me it is a process that takes a lot of introspection. And if you don't get to the root of it, progress can be daunting. Take the time to get to know yourself and analyze your life. Be honest with yourself, this is very important. Nobody knows you better than you. I've been to psychologists and psychiatrists. And you know what? Who helped me to finally kick the addiction? Me. Not knocking therapy but take any advice or help with a grain of salt. This is your fight ultimately. Of course there's help available, but nobody else will be there when a trigger hits. You will need to know how to not be tempted. And when the feeling seems to come over you, you need to know how to protect yourself and get to safety.

It's great to have a positive attitude, which it seems you do. But that is only part of the equation. You need the self-knowledge. I don't even recommend counting days. Focus more on developing a clear picture of your life and who you are. Porn is not you. Porn hijacks your mind. Work on this before it gets worse. Breathe, relax, take it day by day. Goals work for some people, but abstinence without a clear understanding and purpose can make your quit disingenuous to yourself. I want to ask you, does your wife know about your addiction? PM me if you want.
 
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