A New Path

Hey everyone!

I'm new here, and I am starting my journey to NoFap. I have been watching porn and masturbating for the past 7-8 years. At first, I did not think that PMO was an issue in my life, but recently things have changed.

I have been dating the same girl on-and-off for the last three years. Next month we will have dated for a year straight =]. Due to the influence of porn, I spent the first two years of our relationship treating her as an object, and mainly using her for my sexual desires. In the past year, I have tried to reshape our relationship. Despite my efforts, there are still many rough patches (especially sexually) in our relationship. I believe that many of these rough patches are due to the fact the I still engage in PMO.

I have tried quitting several times before this attempt using resources such as "yourbrainonporn" and other websites. But this time I have set a goal beyond quitting PMO. After I quit PMO for six months, I will propose to my girlfriend! I think that we are almost ready to make the jump, and I think quitting PMO is the push I need in order to get us there.

I have not completely decided my PMO commitment yet. I know that I will not allow viewing porn of any kind, but I am not sure if I will completely cut out masturbation. Also, from time to time my girlfriend will send me some "special" pictures. I was not sure whether to consider these porn or not. Unlike internet porn, I think of past sexual experiences with my girlfriend when I masturbate to these.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for the help and good luck to all of you!

-Dragonslayer

 

Thanks! Congrats on yours too. I don't think I have ever lasted 46 days no PMO. I don't have an accountability partner yet. Would you be interested?