A new way of making love to my partner

Absolutely bud. If you learn how to get really good at pleasuring your girl it will make sex even better when you do go back at it. This also will work, learn to love her for her, and focus on wanting to give your love ultimate satisfaction. It is satisfying in it's own way. Personal experience I love pleasuring my girl and sometimes don't even want sex but I just want to pleasure her. It would work wonders for you sex life. The more detached you are from the act (sex) itself the better imo. Don't let monkey brain decide your emotional and physical reaction.

 

@Renew_1990 That may work, you just have to be aware of where your mind is taking you. Some questions to consider in reflection:

• Are you doing this just to "get by"?
• Or are you doing this to create a deeper bond (I understand that is the idea in what you two are proposing but do you feel it inside), truly?
• Will you just be waiting for the end of the 90 days to bring your genitals back into the picture?

We all (PA) have the intention to become better partners, but half-hearted approaches will not get us to the change we want to see. Put everything you got into it, ready for change, and you will reach that place with your partner.

I wish you two well!

 

Sex is not all about penetration and orgasms. They are part of a nigth of pleasure between partners.
Last nigth wasn't my best nigth with the woman I'm currently dating.. but we fouled around in bed for 4...5 hours. Kissing, couddling, massaging, rubbing, oral, sex (when my man got up a couple of times), fingering, jokes, dirty talk, sleeping, etc. Neither of us had and O but we both really enjoyed it. I want to see her again and she is already messaging me for the same. It wasn't the best nigth but with the right actitud and games in bed the nigth was a success.

 

Sounds like a fantastic plan.

While you are doing this, I would suggest reading "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow" by Marnia Robinson.
When you are focused on your own orgasm, sex is just another way of getting off. But you are in a relationship and love making can be much more about bonding and intimacy, especially if you take "getting off" out of the equation.

 

Just be careful because it can make hard mode into super hard mode. You’ll get all that stimulation and your brain is going to be primed for some sort of release.

If you think you can handle it then go ahead. I don’t think it’s something I’d be able to handle myself. I think after a while I’d get a bit pissed off at being just the giver. I’d be happy to do it to a point, but 3 months is a long time.

 

@Renew_1990 there are some old threads that you may find useful:

• @ILoathePwife's thread Karezza: sex without O (from July 2016),
• @Vixen's thread Giving the lady attention (from October 2018),
• @anewhope's thread Intimacy vs Orgasm (from November 2018),
• @blue is everywhere's thread Should we just stop having sex? (from April 2020), and
• @MsWonderWoman's thread Success without Hard Mode in Relationship? (from September 2020).