A problem with a fetish

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by popotamous, Jun 15, 2019.

  1. popotamous

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    Hi all. I have a question if anybody has an answer. Chronic porn use has dulled my interest in sex and caused some ED, but I have managed to partially reverse some of that via Nofap.

    That being said, after managing to drastically reduce my PMO(and almost completely eliminate P) I've managed to determine that my problem is slightly different than previously understood; I have a fetish. Without that fetish, there is not much possibility of erection. Psychology is part of it(when I'm not thinking about getting hard a boner is more likely), but this must be taken care of.

    Are there any obvious recovery paths and expected times for removing a fetish completely? I remember one time for Lent, I went 36 days without PMO and I both was millions of times easier to erect but not cured of my fetish with a reasonable disinterest in sex. As an older man(30), successive streaks of 1-3 weeks have rendered me more interested in sex(at least before a month of bad relapses) and I've detoxed some but not fully. People have told me that 4-6 weeks would probably do the trick, but I'm not sure where to look. Everyone knows the PMO causes this, but no one ever maps out the recovery process and they always act like going 90 days without is as easy as hailing a taxi. Thank you
     
  2. george53

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    First of all, did you discovered your fetish with porn or you did you already had it before ?
     
  3. popotamous

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    I guess I developed it with porn use. It didn't predate it. It wasn't until some point in college or shortly thereafter that it superseded my normal sex drive too while we're at it.
     
  4. george53

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    Well if it was induce by porn there's a chance that by doing NoFap, you'll get rid of the most of it. For some people it'll completly erase it, for others it'll simply be less important than before. The problem is that if you disovered porn at an young age it's hard to tell if you'd have had it anyway.

    But still, always aim for the longest streak, and step by step you'll eventually stop completly. I know it's hard but you can definitely do it. A good advice is to take a cold shower everytime an urge pops, because it'll "shock" the body and make it go away.
     
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  5. Ozona

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    Is your fetish unhealthy and harmful in some way? Or is it simply sexual atraction to certain body part (for example feet)? In this second case (ofc if you are not dependant on it to get aroused or achieve O) there's nothing wrong with it. You know, some of us are more into boobs, others into butts and some like feet, legs, armpits, collarbones... If your fetish is just a liking of some particular body part I think it's nothing to worry about.
     
  6. Uruvug

    Uruvug Fapstronaut

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    What's the fetish?
     
  7. breakfast_enthusiast

    breakfast_enthusiast Fapstronaut

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    If you're into kinky stuff there's probably someone out there who feels the same. Try going on FetLife and going to a local munch. Beware of the FL site though - it has pornographic images on it so it may trigger you.
     
  8. Brown Boy

    Brown Boy Fapstronaut

    I turn on only by thinking myself as a girl.
    I am romantically nd sexually attracted to girls. It's been 133 days of No PMO hard mode. There is no improvement. I hv ED problem.
     

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