A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

What we can do today to rejoice tomorrow ? What we can do today to make this day count ?

 

day 40/90 i am facing obsessive thinking with meditation. this one gives me a sense of gratification

 

11/14

 

That's awesome bro!!!
Good job, I'm really proud of you.

 

Day 0 of 1

 

day 73/90

It's been tougher the last few days. Struggling to meet my daily goals in work-out, meditation and personal development. Been feeling a bit down, disturbing dreams. I'm sure I will get back to feeling as great as I did a few weeks ago. Ups and downs, I guess. These dark periods make the bright periods better. I hope I will discover something that I can work with in this darkness.

Keep going people. Great to see the positive attitudes and helpful support in this thread.

 

16/21

Definitely know that feeling. And it can be hard to shake it off when dreams put you in a certain mood. Maybe you could allow yourself a break from your regular routine for just a day or two? No expectations about what you'll achieve, just down time where you let yourself do what you know you enjoy.

 

Thanks man. i also get horrible acne when i relapse. get to the 69 days again. cmon good face or good orgasm you must ask yourself

 

Day 62/91..

 

Day 45/90
Aight so, I decided to post here a list of benefits that I have experienced so far
in a hope that maybe it will motivate some of you guys!!
Let's start -

1. I have more balanced emotions
2. Brain fog is gone
3. My dreams are more vivid
4. My sleeping habits were improved
5. I have a better quality of thoughts
6. I'm able to look other people in their eyes
7. I feel less stressed during the day
8. I have better and stronger erections
9. I feel more energized during the day
10. I stopped dwelling on my past and started living in the present
11. I stopped overthinking and overreacting about things
12. I feel calmer than ever
13. I started to enjoy the little things in life
14. I'm finally being able to speak my mind to certain people and to tell them exactly what do I think or how do I feel without waiting for "the right moment" (I realized that there is no right moment, it's now or never)
15. I feel a little bit more confident about myself (it depends where I'm at)
16. My eyesight has improved
17. My acne is gone
18. I'm less annoyed with things that were unbearable before
    
    There's still a lot of work to be done on my social anxiety (especially in big groups)
    but I think that I'm on the right path.
    It's crazy because I never believed in my life that I would ever reach day 45!
    I feel stronger than ever,
    I finally started to appreciate my life the way it is.
    
    - Peace

 

I had wet dream today. I am not feeling that stressed i used to feel after . I am feeling like of setting my counter to 0. As these wet dreams are remains of some of the pics or thoughts which i cultivated in my subconscious mind , may be in these noPMO days. Guys any suggestion.

Due to this wet dream , i am having cold today.. might be my immune system got weak. I don't know why people say wet dreeam is healthy, it is not at all healthy, but this is what you can't avoid voluntarily. This is all mind game.

 

Day 1 of 1. New goal: 3 days

 

5/90. My therapist gave me a goal: to find out what gives me joy in my life. Except being with my family (and even that is somehow limited, as any PMO addict can imagine), I really don´t know. I´ve drown all my ambitions, goals and wishes in porn. Even those simple ones, like being reasonably fit, have good friends, be an honest man. Time to fish them out from those muddy waters and let them shine again. Just for my eyes. They are mine, and I´ve betrayed them. Sold them out for something I actually have only contempt for.

 

Day 74/90

Still feeling down. This will pass. I'm sure it's also diet related. For two weeks, I've been off the strict diet, eating whatever. These last few days I've been craving sugar and snacks and I've been allowing myself to do it, kind of as an experiment. It's safe to say now that I have a sugar addiction and it's a vicious circle. I'm seeing my stomach problems return, along with my depression, and more urges to PMO, do drugs, even smoke cigarettes which I absolutely hate to do. I'm sure all of these addictions are tied together, it's about short-term gratification and escapism.

But I also suspect that now, after a long time of rebooting and changing things, I'm coming to a point where I'm scratching the surface of something hidden deep inside me. I think this is also a part of what's making things suck right now. But I don't know what to do, how to face it. I think it's too strong to just get over with in one setting. I guess it will develop in it's own time. This is a necesarry thing. It will pass, I'm sure. But damn, it's tough.

Thanks, man. This is kind of what I've been doing anyway. I will allow myself to take a break from the routine now, with good conscience. Thanks. I hope this works out.

Wow, AiLy, you really turned things around. Great job! I'm happy to hear about your benefits and I can relate to many of them - Nofap really works!

Some people report that having a cold is making them more liable to have wet dreams, so it could be the other way around, too. I just want to make you consider the option as well, so you wont be too mad at your mind. It's the old Chicken and the egg story..

Yes, good plan! You've already got three very good points: Fitness, Friends and Honesty. Those are quality virtues.
But be careful with "playing the blame game" - you want to focus on the positive sides here. Having an addicition, we are very quick to blame ourselves, because blame is actually part of the wheel of reactions that lead to PMO'ing again. Blame --> anger --> shame --> need for escapism --> addictive behaviour
You have identified some great virtues. That's awesome, you are doing good. So be glad, and keep a smile on your face when you work on your therapy goal!

I learned something from responding to your post. I need to look more carefully at how I feed the wheel of reactions myself- my sugar cravings is the result of some bad habits of thinking, that are mostly automatic and subconscious. The key is to be aware, keep conscious. Yes!

 

Thank you for the wise reminder. It really fits the pattern. And of course, my PMO addiction is not the only one - I used to be a heavy smoker, had some problems with alcohol, now I eat too much sugar, too, and have to use much of my willpower not to spend most of my free time procrastinating, gaming and binge watching.

 

I'm glad that you found my post useful.
It's good to identify these behaviours. I recommend not trying to fix them all at once, though

 

Grrr. Again. 1/2

 

Sorry I'm not active anymore, but I'm still fighting and still keeping streaks and still trying to get back to where I used to be. My streak on here is accurate, and I hope my last will be the last time I relapse, for good.

 

day 41/90. i was taken by obsessive thinking. i have my mind not present at this moment but always flying away. i feel asleep. now, just now i want to meditate and understand what i can improve