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12/14

Life’s great! It feels easy for my at the moment, could be a danger, but on the other hand I’d call it positive.
Day 45/90
Aight so, I decided to post here a list of benefits that I have experienced so far
in a hope that maybe it will motivate some of you guys!!
Let's start -

  1. I have more balanced emotions
  2. Brain fog is gone
  3. My dreams are more vivid
  4. My sleeping habits were improved
  5. I have a better quality of thoughts
  6. I'm able to look other people in their eyes
  7. I feel less stressed during the day
  8. I have better and stronger erections
  9. I feel more energized during the day
  10. I stopped dwelling on my past and started living in the present
  11. I stopped overthinking and overreacting about things
  12. I feel calmer than ever
  13. I started to enjoy the little things in life
  14. I'm finally being able to speak my mind to certain people and to tell them exactly what do I think or how do I feel without waiting for "the right moment" (I realized that there is no right moment, it's now or never)
  15. I feel a little bit more confident about myself (it depends where I'm at)
  16. My eyesight has improved
  17. My acne is gone
  18. I'm less annoyed with things that were unbearable before

    There's still a lot of work to be done on my social anxiety (especially in big groups)
    but I think that I'm on the right path.
    It's crazy because I never believed in my life that I would ever reach day 45!
    I feel stronger than ever,
    I finally started to appreciate my life the way it is.

    - Peace :)
I’m only at day 12, but I’m experiencing 3, 6, 12, 13 and 16 already. I’m sure the effects will be amazing when I pass day 30.

Good to read about you man!
I had wet dream today. I am not feeling that stressed i used to feel after . I am feeling like of setting my counter to 0. As these wet dreams are remains of some of the pics or thoughts which i cultivated in my subconscious mind , may be in these noPMO days. Guys any suggestion.

Due to this wet dream , i am having cold today.. might be my immune system got weak. I don't know why people say wet dreeam is healthy, it is not at all healthy, but this is what you can't avoid voluntarily. This is all mind game.
Don’t reset. It’s only your brain trying to trick you. The chaser effect will be there the coming days, so watch out!
5/90. My therapist gave me a goal: to find out what gives me joy in my life. Except being with my family (and even that is somehow limited, as any PMO addict can imagine), I really don´t know. I´ve drown all my ambitions, goals and wishes in porn. Even those simple ones, like being reasonably fit, have good friends, be an honest man. Time to fish them out from those muddy waters and let them shine again. Just for my eyes. They are mine, and I´ve betrayed them. Sold them out for something I actually have only contempt for.
Good to realize this. Dreams can be small. It can be everything: a dog, a cat, trying to learn to play an instrument, I don’t know... Just think about it the coming days. What’s gonna make you happy? And I mean real happiness, not that temporary, filthy stuff like PMO.
Sorry I'm not active anymore, but I'm still fighting and still keeping streaks and still trying to get back to where I used to be. My streak on here is accurate, and I hope my last will be the last time I relapse, for good.
All the best. You’ll be always welcome here.
Day 0 of 1
Good luck. If you need help, we’re here for you.
day 73/90

It's been tougher the last few days. Struggling to meet my daily goals in work-out, meditation and personal development. Been feeling a bit down, disturbing dreams. I'm sure I will get back to feeling as great as I did a few weeks ago. Ups and downs, I guess. These dark periods make the bright periods better. I hope I will discover something that I can work with in this darkness.

Keep going people. Great to see the positive attitudes and helpful support in this thread.
You got this.
 
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Day 46
I had this weird sensation yesterday night, my junk was tickling like *****
(the exact feeling you get right before you cum)
it was fun but also annoying at the same time because I just couldn't fall asleep lol.
I'm being prepared for another semen leakage today because I'm horny as f...
I hope that this weekend won't go too hard on me :eek:
I also should stop searching for pictures of girls in stockings, bikini and etc
(I know that I'm an idiot, don't do it guys it's a self-torture!!!)
 
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17/21

Had a day off work today due to flu. Very low activity day, but pleased that at no point was I tempted to relapse. Usually it's days like this when I have space to myself, low motivation, and am seeking distraction that are the most dangerous.

Day 74/90
But I also suspect that now, after a long time of rebooting and changing things, I'm coming to a point where I'm scratching the surface of something hidden deep inside me. I think this is also a part of what's making things suck right now. But I don't know what to do, how to face it. I think it's too strong to just get over with in one setting. I guess it will develop in it's own time. This is a necesarry thing. It will pass, I'm sure. But damn, it's tough.

I'm sure you've heard this before, but porn is usually just a symptom of problems we're facing in our lives, rather than the cause. Great to see you're getting to a place where you can start to reflect on those deeper issues, even if it is tough. Keep going and stay patient, as I can imagine this reflecting will be highly useful for you in the long term.

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Day 46
I had this weird sensation yesterday night, my junk was tickling like *****
(the exact feeling you get right before you cum)
it was fun but also annoying at the same time because I just couldn't fall asleep lol.
I'm being prepared for another semen leakage today because I'm horny as f...
I hope that this weekend won't go too hard on me :eek:
I also should stop searching for pictures of girls in stockings, bikini and etc
(I know that I'm an idiot, don't do it guys it's a self-torture!!!)

I've been there. Almost always escalates to a relapse for me unless I nip it in the bud right at the start. I strongly recommend you a) stop looking at those images, and b) stop searching for any kinds of images, or engage in any kind or 'random' computer usage. Your brain is trying to make you lower your standards on what constitutes peeking. The only response is to preemptively raise them and remove yourself from the possibility of a relapse.
 
Everyone is doing good. I advice people to make some plans for the weekend, now! So you can stay busy. I'm burying myself in books and comics and making as many appointments with friends and family as possible. I got some training saturday morning with my training buddies, and I'm even going to my mother-in-law's birthday tea-party on sunday, although I know I will be bored, LOL!

Day 75/90 - I feel better today. More energy, a little restless, but getting some stuff done.
I still got that nagging feeling that there is something important that I must face, but I still don't really have any idea what it is. I'm saving it for later, it'll come.

Had a day off work today due to flu. Very low activity day, but pleased that at no point was I tempted to relapse. Usually it's days like this when I have space to myself, low motivation, and am seeking distraction that are the most dangerous.

I'm sure you've heard this before, but porn is usually just a symptom of problems we're facing in our lives, rather than the cause. Great to see you're getting to a place where you can start to reflect on those deeper issues, even if it is tough. Keep going and stay patient, as I can imagine this reflecting will be highly useful for you in the long term.

I've been there. Almost always escalates to a relapse for me unless I nip it in the bud right at the start. I strongly recommend you a) stop looking at those images, and b) stop searching for any kinds of images, or engage in any kind or 'random' computer usage. Your brain is trying to make you lower your standards on what constitutes peeking. The only response is to preemptively raise them and remove yourself from the possibility of a relapse.
@AiLy , I agree. Try to find something to immerse yourself with that is constructive but also very interesting for you. For me, I am deeply in graphic novels and art books at the moment, but it could be anything - just find something captivating to spend your free time on so that you don't idly look at whatever.

Also, @ameliorate thank you for your advice to take a few days off. It has really helped with my stress levels. I'm taking another day off, but I can feel the surplus energy waiting to be spent - I want to get back to business soon.
I would like to warn you, as well. After the flu gets better you may experience increased urges, because your mind is still drowsy from the sickness, but the body is full of energy waiting to be spent. Be careful, and get well soon.
 
@ameliorate
@Single Palm Change
I don't think that I'll be able to stop.
I've done it since day 1, it keeps me under some sort of balance.
I'm currently not in a relationship and it's some kind of 'escape' for me.
(I don't fantasize or anything like that, it just makes me feel better)
I'm aware of the risk that I'm taking and I know that I might relapse because of this but I just can't help it.
I'm not planning to relapse anytime soon, but even if it will eventually happen it will be fine.
 
@ameliorate
@Single Palm Change
I don't think that I'll be able to stop.
I've done it since day 1, it keeps me under some sort of balance.
I'm currently not in a relationship and it's some kind of 'escape' for me.
(I don't fantasize or anything like that, it just makes me feel better)
I'm aware of the risk that I'm taking and I know that I might relapse because of this but I just can't help it.
I'm not planning to relapse anytime soon, but even if it will eventually happen it will be fine.
Of course you'll be able to stop. You've stopped PM'ing. Now take it even further, otherwise you are just substituting your addiction with something else.
It's like quitting smoking by chewing nicotine gum. After some time, you have to throw out the gum as well.
Of course you can help it, it's something you do voluntarily. It's your choice to do it, no one is holding a gun to your head. Take responsibility for your actions and do the right thing.

You kicked out the porn, now kick out the rest. You can do it!

Day 0 of 1
Get back up on that horse! You can do it. Reflect on your relapse, find out what went wrong and take actions and make plans so it doesn't happen again. Maybe you need to change your approach. If I were you, I'd study some articles on yourbrainonporn.com about relapsing. Maybe you'll find out something that will make things easier for you.
 
0/14

Same old story. Gotta get up. Life’s so much better without this cancer.
If it's the same old story, you're doing something wrong! Sorry to tell you, buddy. But we can fix it. Be prepared to spend a little time on this. Right now, while it's fresh in memory, you write down the events and circumstances leading up to your relapse, and then you identify 3 places where you could have stopped what you were doing.
For each of the three places, you write possible ways you could have deflected the urges (gone for walk, exercised, called your mom, and so on).
For each of the three places, also identify your emotions and what you were feeling, (stress, restlessness, boredom, and so on).

Do this right now. Don't put it off untill later. Do. it. now.
 
I also should stop searching for pictures of girls in stockings, bikini and etc
(I know that I'm an idiot, don't do it guys it's a self-torture!!!)

Thats exactly how I relapse each time, sometimes not even on the same day, but I know it's my brain walking me closer where I'll fall into the porn pit. Its my brain still wanting it's 'comfort food' even if it's the 'lite' version. I know I'll be happier if I can be calmer and avoid that compulsive behaviour too.
 
Day 1 out of 7. Brand new as of yesterday. Really want this to be out of my life. It impacts my self esteem so much. I know it isn't worth it ever before I so it and it will make me feel terrible afterwards. I need to admit this is a real addiction for me. I'm done saying I don't have an issue. I am a PMO addict and I need to change.
 
Day 1 out of 7. Brand new as of yesterday. Really want this to be out of my life. It impacts my self esteem so much. I know it isn't worth it ever before I so it and it will make me feel terrible afterwards. I need to admit this is a real addiction for me. I'm done saying I don't have an issue. I am a PMO addict and I need to change.

Awesome self awareness. Welcome to change land.
 
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