A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

stephanD said:
Awesome self awareness. Welcome to change land. Have you set a goal yet?
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My first goal is one week to get over the hump and hopefully feel some accomplishment. Then I set a two day goal going forward as I know that after a week the lies I've been telling myself my whole life start coming in. Like it been a week you don't have a problem. Just do it once and you can stop. Only once a week isn't an addiction. Well it is. After my first 7 days I am shooting for a total of 9 days . 1/7 as of today.
 
AiLy said:
That my junk is about to explode
and that I'm about to lose my mind if I won't cum
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You've got this, you've got 46 days saying you've got this. You are a pro, you know the drill, you know what to do, get out of the house, be around people, go for a run if you're a runner.

Yes it's a kind of torture while it lasts but it physically can't last, it WILL pass, and you can out last it by being smart about where you are, put yourself in a good place.
 
AiLy said:
That my junk is about to explode
and that I'm about to lose my mind if I won't cum
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If you are still here man and you are commenting then you are still in the fight. Do anything you can man. Know that the fleeting pleasure is not worth the shame. You can do it. You were honest and commented before you did it. That means you still want to man. You got this!
 
AiLy said:
That my junk is about to explode
and that I'm about to lose my mind if I won't cum
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Learn sexual transmutation brother. I know how you're feeling and i've ruined too many streaks because of it. You WILL regret it after. Please keep going. What you're feeling isn't horniness, its your creative energy running through you. We've been brainwashed by society to think the only way to get rid of that energy is to PMO or have sex but it can and should be put to greater use. Read up on sexual transmutation and all the great men throughout history that have practiced it. May God help you and guide you. Stay focused and strong my brother.
 
Esket-IT! said:
Learn sexual transmutation brother. I know how you're feeling and i've ruined too many streaks because of it. You WILL regret it after. Please keep going. What you're feeling isn't horniness, its your creative energy running through you. We've been brainwashed by society to think the only way to get rid of that energy is to PMO or have sex but it can and should be put to greater use. Read up on sexual transmutation and all the great men throughout history that have practiced it. May God help you and guide you. Stay focused and strong my brother.
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Do you have any links for the sexual transmutation info?
 
Bpsoldier said:
Do you have any links for the sexual transmutation info?
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No links in particular brother but there is unlimited info online. There is a chapter in Napoleon Hill's book "Think and Grow Rich" which covers this. Here's a quote.

Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature.

Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches.

The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels.
 
Bpsoldier said:
Day 1 out of 7. Brand new as of yesterday. Really want this to be out of my life. It impacts my self esteem so much. I know it isn't worth it ever before I so it and it will make me feel terrible afterwards. I need to admit this is a real addiction for me. I'm done saying I don't have an issue. I am a PMO addict and I need to change.
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Welcome aboard.
 
AiLy said:
@stephanD @Bpsoldier @Esket-IT!
Would you believe me if I'll tell you that the second I saw your message my friends called my phone and asked me to go for a run?

Thank you very much for your support guys, I appreciate that
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AiLy said:
@stephanD @Bpsoldier @Esket-IT!
Would you believe me if I'll tell you that the second I saw your message my friends called my phone and asked me to go for a run?

Thank you very much for your support guys, I appreciate that
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Proud of you man. Those challenging times happen for you to overcome and you did!
 
RELAPSED on day 47.
I'll give you a little Q&A before I leave since it might be interesting to some of you guys.

*How was my journey?
It was great.
I've met a lot of wonderful people on the forum during this period and I've shown myself what am I capable of

*Was that worth it?
No

*Then why did I do it?
I don't know, I wasn't even horny, I just woke up, turned on my computer and all the rest was history.

*Could I prevent it?
Yes, I was laying in my bed for an hour and a half before I started to touch myself and searched for porn.
I could easily get off my bed, make myself some coffee, take a shower and the urge would be gone but I just didn't want to do that.
I guess that my willpower wasn't strong enough?
I didn't even have any urge, it just happened.

*Am I feeling down or depressed?
No, I feel strong and powerful.
The fact that I've made it to day 47 and doubled my previous streak from 24 to 47 already says a lot.
I've shown myself who I really am and what am I capable of and that's what's the most important.
I won't let this stupid relapse to take me down or to make me feel sad or depressed.

*What are my plans for the future?
I guess to start all over again?
I really should start focusing on my studies more
I don't know,
I might be leaving this forum for a while and I might stay, only time will tell.

*But what about the 'Chaser effect'?
I don't believe in it, f*** it.
I really think that NoFap has changed me.
It made me see things in a different way, in a mature way.

I'd like to personally thank @DerNeuMann and @Single Palm Change for helping me and standing by my side and also @TC10 @Aleksey @TanglePie @Esket-IT! @ameliorate @Deth @Michael Sternig @stephanD and @Bpsoldier I wouldn't be here if not you guys.

I'm deeply sorry if I have disappointed anyone here,
have an awesome weekend and good luck to all our warriors! I believe in you guys.
 
You have nothing to be sorry about. Everyone falls down and you should be extremely proud of your achievement! I genuinely believe no one is judging you and I want you to know that you inspire me. I have never made it as long as you have, it is so daunting to think of an achievement so great. I also want to say how I envy your ability to be so vunerable and honest. I only hope if I relapse in the future I can be as brave as you for be honest. I can't wait to see your future successes!
 
day 76/90 - I'm doing alright. Not much to tell. Been kind of lazy these past days but that's okay. My energy will return, for now - rest and relaxation is what I want to do.

Esket-IT! said:
Sex transmutation
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I like to think of it in this way: If I am really pissed off, mad about something, I can sometimes use that energy to get stuff done. Like going for a run and going that extra distance. Or cleaing up the apartment, washing the floor, scrubbing it like crazy. Stuff like that. I guess sexual transmutation is following the same lines. Find a purpose for the moment, find a direction, and then take all that energy from your dick and direct it into the chosen direction. It will probably take some time to master. I for sure can't do it yet.

max9292 said:
day 42/90 i had some thoughts about some P i watched in the past. my brain said nothing is changing in my life so it is unuseful to carry on with reboot. i supressed that thinking, i stopped and remembered how much i have suffered for pmo, so it needs time to see fruits
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Yeah, this is a stage you have to go through in rebooting and recovering from any addiction - the stage of doubt - "does it really work?", "it's just my imagination/placebo", "nothing is changing, might as well go back" - thoughts and justifications like these are normal, so don't fight them, but don't listen to them either. Just know that it's a normal thing, a stage you have to go through.

AiLy said:
Would you believe me if I'll tell you that the second I saw your message my friends called my phone and asked me to go for a run?
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The world is trying to tell you something!

AiLy said:
*How was my journey?

*Was that worth it?

*Why did I do it?

*Could I prevent it?

*Am I feeling down or depressed?

*What are my plans for the future?´

*what about the 'Chaser effect'?
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Awesome post!
I recommend everyone to save this list and answer these question every relapse.
 
max9292 said:
day 42/90 i had some thoughts about some P i watched in the past. my brain said nothing is changing in my life so it is unuseful to carry on with reboot. i supressed that thinking, i stopped and remembered how much i have suffered for pmo, so it needs time to see fruits
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Excellent job. Keep that up. Here's a link to something I posted recently about my own journey that will help you see what actually IS changing. https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...nding-the-two-most-important-benefits.157191/

stephanD said:
Thats exactly how I relapse each time, sometimes not even on the same day, but I know it's my brain walking me closer where I'll fall into the porn pit. Its my brain still wanting it's 'comfort food' even if it's the 'lite' version. I know I'll be happier if I can be calmer and avoid that compulsive behaviour too.
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Exactly, right. This is the compulsion and how it works. This is why during the first few weeks, that prevention is your best friend. You are battling the best computer on the planet and you need to put in physical preventatives that slow you down enough for your conscience to take over and stop before it's too late. Very good insight, Stephan.

Bpsoldier said:
Day 1 out of 7. Brand new as of yesterday. Really want this to be out of my life. It impacts my self esteem so much. I know it isn't worth it ever before I so it and it will make me feel terrible afterwards. I need to admit this is a real addiction for me. I'm done saying I don't have an issue. I am a PMO addict and I need to change.
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Alright! First important step. Good job. Read this whole thread if you want to see how others have grown.

Bpsoldier said:
Do you have any links for the sexual transmutation info?
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https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/what-ive-learned-about-urges-after-90-days.149239/
AiLy said:
RELAPSED on day 47.
I'll give you a little Q&A before I leave since it might be interesting to some of you guys.

*How was my journey?
It was great.
I've met a lot of wonderful people on the forum during this period and I've shown myself what am I capable of

*Was that worth it?
No

*Then why did I do it?
I don't know, I wasn't even horny, I just woke up, turned on my computer and all the rest was history.

*Could I prevent it?
Yes, I was laying in my bed for an hour and a half before I started to touch myself and searched for porn.
I could easily get off my bed, make myself some coffee, take a shower and the urge would be gone but I just didn't want to do that.
I guess that my willpower wasn't strong enough?
I didn't even have any urge, it just happened.

*Am I feeling down or depressed?
No, I feel strong and powerful.
The fact that I've made it to day 47 and doubled my previous streak from 24 to 47 already says a lot.
I've shown myself who I really am and what am I capable of and that's what's the most important.
I won't let this stupid relapse to take me down or to make me feel sad or depressed.

*What are my plans for the future?
I guess to start all over again?
I really should start focusing on my studies more
I don't know,
I might be leaving this forum for a while and I might stay, only time will tell.

*But what about the 'Chaser effect'?
I don't believe in it, f*** it.
I really think that NoFap has changed me.
It made me see things in a different way, in a mature way.

I'd like to personally thank @DerNeuMann and @Single Palm Change for helping me and standing by my side and also @TC10 @Aleksey @TanglePie @Esket-IT! @ameliorate @Deth @Michael Sternig @stephanD and @Bpsoldier I wouldn't be here if not you guys.

I'm deeply sorry if I have disappointed anyone here,
have an awesome weekend and good luck to all our warriors! I believe in you guys.
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Good post but wish it could have been avoided. Nevertheless, a good set of questions.

Aleksey said:
Day 1 of 1. One day at a time. New goal: 2 days.
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Good attitude. Keep on keeping on!
 
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