I recently helped put on a play involving a lot of supporting characters who had to change microphones frequently between themselves. As a stage crew member, I helped facilitate this change. The only problem was that all of these supporting characters were girls, and the only place that the microphone transmitter could be placed without it being visible was down the back of their bra. I changed a lot of microphones, but when it came to hiding the transmitters, I left that to my female stage crew counterparts: I assumed that the actors didn't want a teenage guy they didn't know reaching down their bra, albeit the back. Afterwards, one of the lead actors, a girl who is enough of a friend to be blunt, told me that I should "grow a pair" and just have done the mic changes in their entirety -- that I was "too shy" for anyone to think much of it. I appreciated the fact that I wouldn't automatically be thought of as a pervert for doing my job, but something bothered me about her statement. Just because I wasn't willing to do something that I assumed would violate someone else's privacy, I was thought of as having an awkward, childish view of the body and intergender interactions. It seems like this paradigm that other people hold of me has affected my entire high school existence. I kind of had a girlfriend (it was one of those freshman things) and really liked her, but that fell apart and I, thankfully, remained a virgin and do to this day. Ever since then, I feel like people view me as unapproachable in some ways, like my silence indicates that I'm not open to conversation or that my respect of girl's boundaries means that I'm some sexless thing, instead of somebody who needs help to control their desire for sex. Has anyone else encountered something similar, where your intentionality in how you interact with others has caused you to be practically viewed as a sexless, genderless, and desireless person?