A strategy from an article that’s missing involving partner.

MeatX

MeatX

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So I remember reading an article about 3 years ago where someone used their wife to quit porn. It would go something like this:

Each week to two weeks you go up a step. Once a day at the most but no more. Do NOT try your hardest to cum, not the objective here. Only enjoy. DO NOT FANTASIZE. Do not make your partner perform above and beyond their technique. Keep it within your normal sex doings.

1. Partner remains in eyesight while you jack off to porn
2. Partner jacks you off instead but you still watch porn
3. Partner then gives you a blowjob while you watch
4. Sex while watching however if you can’t see the porn where you are at. Good. The partner is the focus.
5. Stop watching porn, have fun.

now I’m a bit worried because when I tried to find this technique again after so long of just thinking of trying it...damn article is missing. I just can’t find it which implies that maybe studies have debunked this since then. It was about 3 years ago when I read it. Me and my boyfriend already started the first day and I wanna make sure this is a good move. Other articles make it sound like I might be objectifying him which is definitely not my intention.

how do you guys feel about this?

one thing I’ll say off the bat. Even if this technique isn’t recommended I will still be doing sexual activities with him. I know of the risks but I love him and we’ve been more than happy with the whole “me not cumming” thing. I just think our love-making is so wonderful and beautiful. Almost non-sexual and I want it to stay in my life while I quit. If the going gets tough, he’ll be by my side. We’re already quitting weed and if we can quit that. We can quit anything :)
 
Yeah - i can only imagine the conversation

addict "hey wife, i'm having trouble with porn, would you mind doing these specifically sexual things for me over the course of a week to help me out?"
wife: "wait, what? you tell me you have a problem with porn and your solution is for me to blow you while watching porn?"
addict: "exactly, by the end of the week we'll be screwing while only hearing muffled sounds of porn, i'll be cured"
 
Supposedly it worked for him but when you put it like thaaaaaaat. You got a point. The last step doesn’t make much sense. I also feel like I don’t remember everything about it and it doesn’t help that the damn article’s missing lol
 
MeatX said:
Supposedly it worked for him but when you put it like thaaaaaaat. You got a point. The last step doesn’t make much sense. I also feel like I don’t remember everything about it and it doesn’t help that the damn article’s missing lol
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Porn is not cocaine or a prescription drug where you have to wane yourself from it or else you'll have severe side effects.

As someone who went from WAAAAY too much and compulsive use to zero - it sucks in the moment. But if I told my wife the solution was her jerking me off while i scrolled reddit for a while - yeeash.
 
Trobone said:
Porn is not cocaine or a prescription drug where you have to wane yourself from it or else you'll have severe side effects.

As someone who went from WAAAAY too much and compulsive use to zero - it sucks in the moment. But if I told my wife the solution was her jerking me off while i scrolled reddit for a while - yeeash.
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ya know what? You’re right. My bf and I are quote “perverts” and he had no problem with it. Actually had a lot of fun when we tried this. But after talking to you, this feels so damn gross and wrong for me. I’m taking something beautiful and mixing my awful addiction with it. Where’s the sense in that. Thank you! Screw this strategy. I’mma tell him I love him.
 
Good idea MeatX. I would venture to say the article was bullshit anyway. There is nothing good that can come out of this idea. Nothing.
 
MeatX said:
So I remember reading an article about 3 years ago where someone used their wife to quit porn. It would go something like this:

Each week to two weeks you go up a step. Once a day at the most but no more. Do NOT try your hardest to cum, not the objective here. Only enjoy. DO NOT FANTASIZE. Do not make your partner perform above and beyond their technique. Keep it within your normal sex doings.

1. Partner remains in eyesight while you jack off to porn
2. Partner jacks you off instead but you still watch porn
3. Partner then gives you a blowjob while you watch
4. Sex while watching however if you can’t see the porn where you are at. Good. The partner is the focus.
5. Stop watching porn, have fun.

now I’m a bit worried because when I tried to find this technique again after so long of just thinking of trying it...damn article is missing. I just can’t find it which implies that maybe studies have debunked this since then. It was about 3 years ago when I read it. Me and my boyfriend already started the first day and I wanna make sure this is a good move. Other articles make it sound like I might be objectifying him which is definitely not my intention.

how do you guys feel about this?

one thing I’ll say off the bat. Even if this technique isn’t recommended I will still be doing sexual activities with him. I know of the risks but I love him and we’ve been more than happy with the whole “me not cumming” thing. I just think our love-making is so wonderful and beautiful. Almost non-sexual and I want it to stay in my life while I quit. If the going gets tough, he’ll be by my side. We’re already quitting weed and if we can quit that. We can quit anything :)
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Why doesn’t tapering work for most in porn recovery?
 
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