Hello everybody,
I'ts been a long time for me struggling with porn and all what it concerns. Now i've became an adult, with family and children and this problem is still here. I would like to share with you my theory about this thing and the main reason why do we fail.
Basically we were all born with insticts and craves. We eat beacause we have a stomach, and we are hunger. We have sex and desire sex because we were born with this necessity (to push further our generation). Most of the people try to fight porn by doing a 90 days streak, but most of them fail. Try not eating for 90 days, few of us could really make it (with the fridge always full and people showing you hamburgers and food all day in commercials). The idea behind my theory is that food and sex are really 2 complementary examples. Mens are born with desire, it's in our cells, in our brain in our DNA. Thats the reason why mens divorce, betray, or they have sex with other partners involving in risky situations, losing money, children and beloved ones. Sometimes you find really attracting man, with really attracting womans and you wonder why that guy still wants to have sex with other girs? Sometimes you can hear or see unhappy man with a beautiful woman around him and you discover that he doesn't want to have sex with him anymore, or she. They get arroused maybe with or by a colleague at work, an ugly colleague and you wonder how is that possible. That's beacause we were born, genetically, with this drive: to have sex and search novelty. That's the reason you have two balls and you wake up hard in the morning. Your body needs other people to have sex. The same as your stomach needs food.
If i think of me, i may consider me a porn-obese, a guy that really had to much porn in his life. That's why is so difficult and the continuously fail, streak after streak. Having a smartphone, pc and wi- fi is like having a fridge full of delicious food always near to you, in any moment. You simply open it and engage in a limitless action that destroys you.
On the other hand i have a wife and this implies that I should not search for other womans, neither fantasize or engage in other sex activities. Biologically I wasn't born for this and the only "medicine" society has for this "problem" is porn. With porn I can mange to remain loyal and this can save my marriage. Biologically I neither wasn't born to stay in office for 10 hours a day, go back home, clean dishes, cook, watch tv and go back to sleep, next day start over. In a biological environment compatible with my body probably I would search for food all day, fight with other alfa males, fight cold and other animals and in the end i would have sex, fast and furios, beacause is a dangerous action in nature where you expone yourself.
So the idea behind this theory is that we will never get rid of this problem. We may get rid of porn and smartphone, but our sex drive will always push us doing things that may be morally disapproved or disgusting. Let's suppose we may manage to stop looking at porn, our life gest better, we go to gym, make cold showers and became real alfa males. Sex improves with our partner but we would not be able to pursue, still, our biological needs, novelty and sex. Moreover, with time our partner gets old, so do we, and she's not so attractive as before. That's why people get divorce over time and start all over, again and again and you look at that and say: what a maddness! Think about priest and prisoners. They become gay or go with children just because they are unable to pursue their sexual drive, searching for females and novelty. Their mind make them do wired things because they are unable do move from their environment.
Successfuly people who don't watch porn may be involved in other activities like saving the planet or creating a business. They transform their sex drive into action, changing their surroundings which is cool. I really belive that the true answer might be reasearching a balance in life. Living great moments during the day, small but happy moments, working towards your goals and of course, once in while, have sex. That could sound like a balanced life and maybe resolve our problem. I'm still searching for a conclusive answer to this lifetime problem.
Best regards
I'ts been a long time for me struggling with porn and all what it concerns. Now i've became an adult, with family and children and this problem is still here. I would like to share with you my theory about this thing and the main reason why do we fail.
Basically we were all born with insticts and craves. We eat beacause we have a stomach, and we are hunger. We have sex and desire sex because we were born with this necessity (to push further our generation). Most of the people try to fight porn by doing a 90 days streak, but most of them fail. Try not eating for 90 days, few of us could really make it (with the fridge always full and people showing you hamburgers and food all day in commercials). The idea behind my theory is that food and sex are really 2 complementary examples. Mens are born with desire, it's in our cells, in our brain in our DNA. Thats the reason why mens divorce, betray, or they have sex with other partners involving in risky situations, losing money, children and beloved ones. Sometimes you find really attracting man, with really attracting womans and you wonder why that guy still wants to have sex with other girs? Sometimes you can hear or see unhappy man with a beautiful woman around him and you discover that he doesn't want to have sex with him anymore, or she. They get arroused maybe with or by a colleague at work, an ugly colleague and you wonder how is that possible. That's beacause we were born, genetically, with this drive: to have sex and search novelty. That's the reason you have two balls and you wake up hard in the morning. Your body needs other people to have sex. The same as your stomach needs food.
If i think of me, i may consider me a porn-obese, a guy that really had to much porn in his life. That's why is so difficult and the continuously fail, streak after streak. Having a smartphone, pc and wi- fi is like having a fridge full of delicious food always near to you, in any moment. You simply open it and engage in a limitless action that destroys you.
On the other hand i have a wife and this implies that I should not search for other womans, neither fantasize or engage in other sex activities. Biologically I wasn't born for this and the only "medicine" society has for this "problem" is porn. With porn I can mange to remain loyal and this can save my marriage. Biologically I neither wasn't born to stay in office for 10 hours a day, go back home, clean dishes, cook, watch tv and go back to sleep, next day start over. In a biological environment compatible with my body probably I would search for food all day, fight with other alfa males, fight cold and other animals and in the end i would have sex, fast and furios, beacause is a dangerous action in nature where you expone yourself.
So the idea behind this theory is that we will never get rid of this problem. We may get rid of porn and smartphone, but our sex drive will always push us doing things that may be morally disapproved or disgusting. Let's suppose we may manage to stop looking at porn, our life gest better, we go to gym, make cold showers and became real alfa males. Sex improves with our partner but we would not be able to pursue, still, our biological needs, novelty and sex. Moreover, with time our partner gets old, so do we, and she's not so attractive as before. That's why people get divorce over time and start all over, again and again and you look at that and say: what a maddness! Think about priest and prisoners. They become gay or go with children just because they are unable to pursue their sexual drive, searching for females and novelty. Their mind make them do wired things because they are unable do move from their environment.
Successfuly people who don't watch porn may be involved in other activities like saving the planet or creating a business. They transform their sex drive into action, changing their surroundings which is cool. I really belive that the true answer might be reasearching a balance in life. Living great moments during the day, small but happy moments, working towards your goals and of course, once in while, have sex. That could sound like a balanced life and maybe resolve our problem. I'm still searching for a conclusive answer to this lifetime problem.
Best regards
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