A weird fetish, not related to porn that causes me to relapse *Possible trigger*

So this is kind of a more advanced level, because it's more of a psychological fetish than a sexual one and blocking software isn't going to take that out.

You need to understand yourself psychologically for this.

The good news is you're on to something, there is obviously a theme of female domination even if it isn't in the context of porn. But this takes a bit of insight instead of working with things outside you and not being exposed to it. You basically have to study yourself, and it helps to study at least a bit of psychology. Even people who work with a therapist on a regular basis probably just has really minimal input since they are not there to educate them.

To me the key question would be why is dominance even part of how we perceive sexual relationships? Whether it's on the part of the male or the reversal with female doing the domination, why ANY domination? It's not the kind of thing that you just get a quick answer for but getting down to it can help you work with it more deeply than just counting days.

 

Hey if you want, lets try something... Check out this lyrics video, think of this as a Rorschach ink blot test - no wrong answers, just play with it and see what the lyrics makes you think of. It's just a song and often the words are ambiguous as to what they want it to mean but it can be useful to make us think for ourselves:

 

Hi

I have the same weird fetish. But it decreased a lot, in my current streak. Nowadays, It almost disappears. I think I will be able to ignore it for the rest of my life because I am more interested in a normal relationship now. Nofap definitely worths it.

Avoid the triggers whenever you can, especially when you are alone. You have to focus on new activities/hobbies, learning something. When you are exposed to triggers don't focus on your sexual thoughts, move your mind to a happy place and time, do something else (talking for example). Something that works for me in emergencies is to stop breathing as long as I can, my body reacts to the lack of oxygen and forgets the urges for PMO.

We are still in the struggle.

 

I have the same weird fetish for years brotha.I relapsed again like half an hour ago.But i promised to myself,never again,starting from today.

 

Thanks for sharing!

 

How can we develop our male self esteem? I'm in my mid 30s .. is it too late for me?

 

Hello my fellow fapstronauts!
I had some similar issues in the past. But I'm over it. It's never too late.
For me it was to a large extent about the fact that I feel generally attracted by self-confident women. Women who can promise you things you can only dream about with one look. And this basic tendency has been perverted by my PMO behaviour.

But cheer up!!!
Believe me, you just have to get through this NOFAP period and you will learn so much about yourself in the process.
Persevering and resisting temptation will make you strong and teach you so much about yourself.

You can all do this, my friends!

 

I've had these fetishes too. It isn't that weird brother. Just try your best to avoid these entertainment sources until you recover. Not all entertainment has it. Their are lots of movies and video games that don't involve fighting at all. You can also read a book or take a walk. Lots of things you can think about.

 

If your counter is correct and your really 238 days in then porn probably isn't the reason you have low self esteem. Maybe see a therapist.

 

I also had the same fetich bro ,my first crush was a WWE Diva , when i played with her on videogames extremely aroused and eventually was one of my firsts PMOs.....but since long time i stopped having that fetish specially when i started gym and mma , i went from 60kg to 80 and my confidence boosted alot , in my case i had that fetich because of low muscle strengh and self steem , i recomend you start doing some gym or strengh sport in my case helped me alot dealing with that fetich that eventually disappeard