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A year in review.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by FollowerOfTheWay, Jan 17, 2019.

  1. FollowerOfTheWay

    FollowerOfTheWay Fapstronaut

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    I have been doing nofap since september 2016.
    My longest streak in 2017 was 32 days.
    In 2018 I reached 90 days last year December.
    It was difficult and there was nothing easy about it.
    What can I say with certainty to people just starting out, it gets easier, just keep at it.

    I remember the start of 2018, I felt as low as I could go, when it comes to NOFAP.
    I was PMOing like an idiot last year January, it felt like the end of the world. I remember crying while looking at myself in the mirror after.
    I guess the pain eventually became too much.
    Cause I know the person that I was, is not the person that I am or want to be.

    I am not going to write some life story :D
    What I will say, is the stuff that I watched was bad and it felt as if it destroyed a part of my psyche.
    I PMOd more than 60 times last year, its crazy to think of it like that.
    I feel like I have gotten out of hell, I dont want to go back.
    I am still recovering, cause I still feel the craving pop up at times.
    But it does not have the same effect on me anymore and I can control it a lot better.
    I feel like I have got my mind back.

    Things that helped me.

    1. Mindfulness mediation.
    There is a free course here online https://palousemindfulness.com/
    Recommend it strongly.
    2. Get out of bed when you are starting out, dont lay in bed doing nothing and dont masturbate passively.
    Your mind will start to wander and it will wander to porn, cause that is what you have been programmed to think about.
    3. Working out.
    Doesnt matter what you do, just do something from lifting to yoga.
    Just move your body, it was built to move.
    4. Get some therapy if you need it.
    Definitely has helped me on this path.
    5. Get into a solid routine and go to bed on time.
    6. Remove the internet and your access to it if you cant control your internet or porn habits.
    I kept away from the internet for 44 days in the summer last year and noticed it was significantly easier to control my habits and urges.
    They also call it a dopamine fast.
    7. Make NOFAP the priority.
    I wanted out of this hell no matter the cost, I dont want to die a fapper.
    I took a year of from school so I could focus on myself and NOFAP, the best decision I have made in my life.

    So no matter how low you are, you can get out of that hell.
    There were moments, where I believed I was done, and I couldnt beat it.
    But every time I picked myself up and kept going and now I am glad to be here.

    Theres no super powers if you ask me.
    But just being in control of yourself is worth it the most.

    I dont count the days anymore or keep track of PMO. I feel like theres no need for it.

    Here is a picture of the table that I used to keep track of my PMOs.
    Red is a porn free day.
    Blue is a PMO day.
    Table2.jpg

    Porn just isnt an option anymore and once you have been without it for a long time, you realise you dont need it and want more.

    Thank you for reading this and good luck on your journey :)
     
  2. Walk_it_out

    Walk_it_out Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man good post! Good to see you getting good freedom I'm happy for your story. Keep it up man good job
     
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  3. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    thanks man , nice inspiring post
    wow , january stands out!!
     
  4. Karthick 70o

    Karthick 70o Fapstronaut

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    Did you faced any wet dreams during your streaks? For me i am unable to make more 15 days due to nightfall.
     
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  5. FollowerOfTheWay

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    I got to about 65 days without any wet dreams. Its bound to happen at one point or another.
    I dont consider wet dreams PMOing. Cause its a natural thing.
    The important question is what sort of dreams you are seeing.
    150 days ago I saw only porn related dreams, these days its 50/50.
    Sometimes I see those porn scenes and the other times I see the women I am into from real life.
    It all gets better with time.
    The urges become weaker and the wet dreams become less frequent.
    If you have any more questions, then shoot I am happy to answer.
     
  6. FollowerOfTheWay

    FollowerOfTheWay Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, I appreciate it. Yeah January was a disaster.
    Especially when you tell yourself that you will be a better man when the new year starts. I didnt become 100% committed until the 25th of July.
    I wasnt all in before that, after that I decided that its all or nothing.
    Failing in September was morally crushing, but I forced myself back up.
     
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  7. FREE72

    FREE72 Fapstronaut

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    I love your table! I'm going to make one too.

    Thanks for sharing your story and good luck going forward. Keep us posted.
     
  8. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    yah ,100% commitment is needed for success ,especially if my will isnt that strong , your timetable stands out,looks good ,i might make also ,all the best fella
     
  9. Many thanks mate. Good work!
     
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