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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by MotivationWarrior, Jun 14, 2019.

  1. Hello everyone! I am new to this community and I would like to tell you a few things about my recent years to life. If you wish, take some time to read it. It would be my pleasure.

    Masturbating Period
    I started masturbating at the age 12. It started out of curiosity. I wasn't that much into porn. I would hardly ever watch porn but still masturbate every single day since 12 and masturbate like there is no tommorow.At some point I would not feel any erection anymore while masturbating. Because of living at a village with no children I wouldn't have that much social interactions. I would spend most of my time into my home playing computer and fapping. I had different effects on my body because of masturbating. At some point after masturbating my genitals would be in pain for at least 30 minutes. I was very tired after masturbating and I would have to wait for some minutes to get off bed because I was dizzy and I would collapse. My legs would be very exhausted making them to move not very easily. Before reaching 14 I didn't know anything about the NoFap thing and wouldn't care that much about my health. It was very hard to wake up and my hygiene was messed up. My clothes would get dirty each time it happened and it was kind of embarrassing. I've never looked people in the eyes while talking to them and I've never attracted any girl. I was the "nice guy" or beta male. Take it the way you want to. People would always have control on me and I would never confront anyone because of lack of confidence. I would have lots of arguments with my parents for things such as not finishing my homework on time. I would be most of the time in my room. I was at the edge of depression.

    After I learned about NoFap

    I learned about NoFap at the age of 14 and it started changing my life. I managed to limit the time I masturbated but still masturbate. I started working out hard and taking care of my hygiene. I tried to start NoFap but the longest streak that I would have was 10 days. I kept believing in myself and doing NoFap even I would relapse after 2 or 3 days. But benefits started appearing. I started building up my social interactions by visiting the nearest town and making friends. I would attempt more confidently to approach a girl and attempt to come in a relationship with her. I even attracted 5 girls but nothing happened with them because of distance. I've stopped sitting in the corner and thinking "man I wish I could get that girl" and started getting out of my comfort zone with them. I am not afraid of rejection anymore. It's not that bad, no one is going to hate you. I started confronting people when they did something that I didn't like and started looking girls into their eyes when talking to them in compare with the fact that I would get panicked even looking at them two years ago.

    Why I started NoFap

    I have plans for life. I want to chase my dreams and make them real. I want to be confident with everyone. I've read about the "nice guys" and the "bad boys", the "alpha males" and the "beta males". Today I am 15 but I started NoFap since Monday and I want my 15th year of life to be the end of this journey. I am on 5th day without masturbating. I will move to the town in a few days. I will start lyceum and I am giving the final exams for my english school. I have decided that I want my past to be just a memory and not conquer the rest of my life.

    A small tip from me

    We all have heard doctors saying "it's normal, just do it" but masturbating is like a drug, it's addictive, it takes time from your life, your brain thinks about sex most of the time, lowers your confidence because you do masturbating when you are bored and because it's a sexual thing that you do to your own self instead of someone else doing it to you (you know what I mean), it harms your body if you get addicted to it. Most people get addicted to it. A few people manage to control their urges and not masturbate at a daily basis.

    Doctors probably mean the second type of people who can control urges. But at some point we all get addicted to it. In a few words we kill our genitals and our whole life. My life was a mess during this period and I don't want anyone else to be like that.

    It took so long to write that down. Thank you for your time :)
     
  2. Hello and welcome! :)

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  3. Welcome :)

    About masturbating, the true problem isn't masturbation. It becomes a problem for you if it get's in the way of your daily life. Masturbation isn't evil, however, as I stated before, if it gets in the way of your daily life, it will cripple you. We choose to abstain from PMO because in reality, it is very rare to de-attach yourself from porn and keep masturbating, it is pretty hard for someone to masturbate using their imagination when they've conditioned to get off only by watching porn, they will return to it because it's a learned compulsive behavior, and to people like us, porn compels us so easily.. Hence why porn is the actual problem.
     
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  4. Always be positive

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  5. I masturbated every single day so it affected me, I was watching porn too but not that much and it wasn't that hard for me to get over it. But I want to abstain from masturbation too
     
  6. sounds like you have made great progress so far. Keep up the good fight, MW! For me, the urge to MO comes before I decide to search for P or P substitutes. for me the M is the true addiction. once I start with the P, though, that starts becoming the driving addiction. For me, they both are evil problems I must avoid. Praying for your success!!
     
  7. Thank you a lot and I appreciate your support and I wish you the same. My main problem as I said in the description of my life is M. I almost never watched porn at least at the age of 14. I would hardly ever watch. At the age of 13 I was watching porn most of the time and I was addicted to it but I could overcome the addiction easily. But the first days without P were difficult. Now I can withstand more easily P addiction.
     
  8. cadia guardsman

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    Your a true Warrior ! Keep going like that!
     
  9. Thank you a lot and I will!
     
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