About Peeking and urges to pmo

I think you are working hard and taking beautiful steps toward recovery. Peeking at porn before starting your recovery may enable you to continue to look at porn and use your recovery as an enabler to look at porn, defeating the purpose of recovery. What is another way you can initiate yourself into your recovery, that you enjoy doing and would want to do or like to do, that is ideal to your passions and desires, that are healthy and not porn, that could help you propel your way into recovery start?

 

May, you could also find a different and healthy reward system. Instead of watching or peeking at porn before, find a way to weekly or monthly reward yourself that is something you love doing that is healthy and beautiful for you. Maybe things you like doing such as, go for a run, take a walk, read, write poetry, write in a journal. Reward yourself, after, but rewarding ourselves before we accomplish something, can create the opposite effect of enabling us to do something to enable unhealthy choices.

I am with you

 

I am trying to find a reward system for myself, somethings like tokenizing, like, each week I buyself a pack of Magic the gathering cards, like one small pack, or if you got money, each day you put a dollar in a jar sort of thing. Doesnt have to be money related, just some examples.

 

By the way, how Do I get the number of days sober when I reply to messages, where or how do I get that?

 

Thank you

Do I have to be a premium member or something to do it?

 

Oh wow, thank you, i just needed to completely open my browser all the way haha. super And yah, end of the week I plan on rewarding myself. Definitley something you like to do. It could be many things. ALlot of them are monetary I feel. But, Maybe find free activities. Theres free museums you can go to, free or reduced cost movies like matine night at movie theatres. Im trying to figure out other options ,Ill try to think of more for sure.

 

something with art, you could paint, draw or something or find something to build and make legos? maybe, sounds kiddish but love legos lol

 

completing a project like building something is pretty profound and rewarding, because you accomplished and completed something. And not just building or completing something but something that when is completed, you feel proud of yourself, happy and the thing you completed is nourishing your body and mind in a healthy way. It can help build confidence and self-efficacy and love for yourself