About Peeking and urges to pmo

MsteiN

MsteiN

Fapstronaut
My problem with peeking is that i always do that shit during the beginning of my streak like 3-5 days but when my streak reaches 7-10 days i can control it better and reach 1 month or more without fapping or pmo but i feel like cheating the NoFap by peeking on porn in the start of the streak and don't couting it as a relapse (usually i don't practice edging and don't masturbate when peeking)
What you guys think about peeking?

Sorry for bad english
 
I think you are working hard and taking beautiful steps toward recovery. Peeking at porn before starting your recovery may enable you to continue to look at porn and use your recovery as an enabler to look at porn, defeating the purpose of recovery. What is another way you can initiate yourself into your recovery, that you enjoy doing and would want to do or like to do, that is ideal to your passions and desires, that are healthy and not porn, that could help you propel your way into recovery start? :)
 
MsteiN said:
My problem with peeking is that i always do that shit during the beginning of my streak like 3-5 days but when my streak reaches 7-10 days i can control it better and reach 1 month or more without fapping or pmo but i feel like cheating the NoFap by peeking on porn in the start of the streak and don't couting it as a relapse (usually i don't practice edging and don't masturbate when peeking)
What you guys think about peeking?

Sorry for bad english
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May, you could also find a different and healthy reward system. Instead of watching or peeking at porn before, find a way to weekly or monthly reward yourself that is something you love doing that is healthy and beautiful for you. Maybe things you like doing such as, go for a run, take a walk, read, write poetry, write in a journal. Reward yourself, after, but rewarding ourselves before we accomplish something, can create the opposite effect of enabling us to do something to enable unhealthy choices.

I am with you
 
Velox X said:
I think you are working hard and taking beautiful steps toward recovery. Peeking at porn before starting your recovery may enable you to continue to look at porn and use your recovery as an enabler to look at porn, defeating the purpose of recovery. What is another way you can initiate yourself into your recovery, that you enjoy doing and would want to do or like to do, that is ideal to your passions and desires, that are healthy and not porn, that could help you propel your way into recovery start? :)
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You really make me reconsider and i going to restart the days count and go on into a no peeking and no edging streak, thank you for your opinion bro
I am with you too
 
I am trying to find a reward system for myself, somethings like tokenizing, like, each week I buyself a pack of Magic the gathering cards, like one small pack, or if you got money, each day you put a dollar in a jar sort of thing. Doesnt have to be money related, just some examples.
 
MsteiN said:
You really make me reconsider and i going to restart the days count and go on into a no peeking and no edging streak, thank you for your opinion bro
I am with you too
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By the way, how Do I get the number of days sober when I reply to messages, where or how do I get that?
 
Velox X said:
I am trying to find a reward system for myself, somethings like tokenizing, like, each week I buyself a pack of Magic the gathering cards, like one small pack, or if you got money, each day you put a dollar in a jar sort of thing. Doesnt have to be money related, just some examples.
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I'm thinking in creating something to me too,it can work very well especialy if i choose something creative, thanks for the hint

And the number of days counter its here, you go in update day counter in the black bar on top of page and update your actual streak then it shows in the messages
 
Oh wow, thank you, i just needed to completely open my browser all the way haha. super :) And yah, end of the week I plan on rewarding myself. Definitley something you like to do. It could be many things. ALlot of them are monetary I feel. But, Maybe find free activities. Theres free museums you can go to, free or reduced cost movies like matine night at movie theatres. Im trying to figure out other options ,Ill try to think of more for sure.
 
something with art, you could paint, draw or something or find something to build and make :) legos? maybe, sounds kiddish but love legos lol
 
completing a project like building something is pretty profound and rewarding, because you accomplished and completed something. And not just building or completing something but something that when is completed, you feel proud of yourself, happy and the thing you completed is nourishing your body and mind in a healthy way. It can help build confidence and self-efficacy and love for yourself
 
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