About these superpowers?!?! 24 day streak.

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I've been doing this for 24 days and all i feel is me getting hornier and hornier. I haven't noticed any superpowers at all. In fact all i feel is down all the time. I just feel drained and exhausted. The 1 week was awesome but after that it's been a slippery slope downward.

Now i am trying to picture the end goal being better but i am starting to doubt that it is. Because i feel as if i were more social before and now i am more social awkward and that is because of my obsession with fucking someone really hard. I mean i don't even care anymore with whom i get laid just as long as i get laid. I am like ready to deploy the rocket to space into Mars and beyond the motherfucking galaxy.

Point is that all i feel is not that great as i want to feel. I've been having some tough cravings too. Unintentional sex-scenes from a movie with some friends. Making out with a girl while being drunk and gone home alone with a huge urge to masturbate and watch porn yet i didn't. All i am saying is that i could really use some encouragement and advice along the way. From some of you who are further along the process and knows what i am going through? Because i just want to give in right now since i see no point not too.
 
Don't give up now, 25 days is great. There are ups and downs, especially early on in your progress, but this will pass. Every time you allow yourself to relapse will make it easier to relapse next time. Now is the time to do the hard thing and power through it, otherwise it will haunt you for far longer.
In the meantime, it will help you to feel less horny if you work on adjusting your focus away from sex. Entertaining thoughts about how much you want sex, making out with girls, thinking about how much you want to relapse, etc. all focus your mind on it, and actually cause your body to "gear up" for sex/PMO. And obviously, that makes life uncomfortable for you. Whenever thoughts pop up, replace them with better thoughts. Whenever you get horny, distract yourself with some kind of activity (exercise, even walking, is especially effective here)
 
Think about why you started to begin with. I'm sure there must be a goo reason why, otherwise why would you go through this trouble? If you could watch porn and fap all day long AND me happy, fulfilled and satisfied about your life, then indeed there is no point. But since you are here I assume there is a reason? So focus on that. Seriously, just take break from everything, sit down and focus on it. Think about it. How did you felt back then. Get into emotion and FEEL that regret, shame, disappointment and whatever you felt. Imagine that you have already fapped to porn. Make yourself feel really crappy.

Then do the same and think of all the pride, strength and good things you will feel and have if you keep going and don't give up. Close your eyes and this time make yourself feel really good. Imagine that you succeeded.

That should put your mind in perspective and maybe motivate you. try it.
 
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man, i feel exactly the way you do. Im going through the same exact thing. I commend you for kissing a girl while drunk getting home and not doing anything..thats shows alot of inner strength. That also shows there's a strong commitment in you to change something about yourself that you no longer want(PMO). As do I. Im on my 19 day, 1st week felt great and the world was so clear so to speak. Almost 3 weeks in, not feeling the benefits as much as 2 weeks ago. albeit I dont think it was a true benefit at all and believe the real benefits come deeper into the journey. Just stay strong man, like others said, it will pass. Direct energy into something else. started to work out every morning. I have a physical job for work so im tired AF when i get home. also,For me I play golf, have been on and off with buddies for 10 or so years now. We always take the golf carts and never walk, well Im going to walk now..good exercise and uses alot of my pent up energy. Good luck my friend
 
JL94 said:
I haven't noticed any superpowers at all.
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It's not abut superpowers.
It's about your normal powers, but unleashed.

If you are getting hornier and hornier, then you are focussing only on abstinence. You are suppressing. But this is not the idea.
The idea is to actually use your powers for those things which will give you a meaningful life.
 
Okay thank you for all your replies. First of all i'd like to say that i do have activities during the day. I have a physical job that i go to from Monday to Friday and sometimes i work weekends. This has helped me a lot and also that i have a passion for creating music. I do feel some of the benefits of not masturbating, it's like you're able to see a lot clearer what people do and think but still this long in the process for me is the longest i've ever been.

Sursum i like the way you put it. Things which are good for us does not always feel good. I guess this is what i am experiencing at the moment. I don't know what kind of phase this I'm in. Is it flatlining or abstinence or something else?
 
It depends were you want to get to. masturbation isnt the evil, porn is.

I get if youre in a relationship you can stop fapping and youve suceeded but if your single shouldnt your goal be to not indulge in porn and want to have real life exps with females?

Sexual release is healthy and i think the end goal atleast for me is to be in control of that and not value fantasy above reality.
 
Shugi Shugi said:
Think about why you started to begin with. I'm sure there must be a goo reason why, otherwise why would you go through this trouble? If you could watch porn and fap all day long AND me happy, fulfilled and satisfied about your life, then indeed there is no point. But since you are here I assume there is a reason? So focus on that. Seriously, just take break from everything, sit down and focus on it. Think about it. How did you felt back then. Get into emotion and FEEL that regret, shame, disappointment and whatever you felt. Imagine that you have already fapped to porn. Make yourself feel really crappy.

Then do the same and think of all the pride, strength and good things you will feel and have if you keep going and don't give up. Close your eyes and this time make yourself feel really good. Imagine that you succeeded.

That should put your mind in perspective and maybe motivate you. try it.
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This is an excellent meditation.

I've realized that before I actually do something, I need to put my mind in the future and imagine the time after the act.

I also must imagine and experience the future as it would be without acting.

Your advice to stop and take time to actually do this meditation is what I must follow.
 
Sursum Corda said:
I don't believe in superpowers. In fact I think the very idea/concept of them make a lot of rebooters unintentionally diminish their progress simply because they don't feel like supermen/women. With that said I've decided to chase truth rather than superpowers and I do this because truth is reality and the reality is PMO is an unhealthy behavior which impacts me negatively in all aspects of my life: spiritually, mentally, and physically. Furthermore it impairs my ability to have healthy and loving relationships, not only with my SO, but with my family, friends, and neighbors. Ridding my life of this crap therefore becomes an obligation on my part if I ever want a better quality of life, and make no mistake, a better quality of life doesn't always mean I will feel amazing. No. It just means I will be healthy and make healthy decisions. Things which are good for us do not always feel good. If they did then medicines wouldn't tastes like shit all the time and yet, they do.

Stop chasing feelings. The feel/pleasure trap is what got you into this PMO mess in the first place.
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I believe in superpowers, but I respect also your contrary opinion.

Also, I agree that being a good feeling junkie can be a problem in any part of life.

Superpowers may be exaggerated.

We may be expecting more to happen than could be possible.

These are not mystical, "supernatural" energies.

Once this addiction is not hanging over us, then our natural, "super" powers can arise.

Our superpowers are in our newfound abilities to realize our full human potential.

That is what you are describing, and they are superpowers.
 
JL94 said:
First of all i'd like to say that i do have activities during the day. I have a physical job that i go to from Monday to Friday and sometimes i work weekends.
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A job gives you structure. But that also means that other people are giving you structure. You have a schedule, you have social pressure.
When you go out of the office, you are on your own. What happens then?
 
JL94 said:
I've been doing this for 24 days and all i feel is me getting hornier and hornier. I haven't noticed any superpowers at all. In fact all i feel is down all the time. I just feel drained and exhausted. The 1 week was awesome but after that it's been a slippery slope downward.

Now i am trying to picture the end goal being better but i am starting to doubt that it is. Because i feel as if i were more social before and now i am more social awkward and that is because of my obsession with fucking someone really hard. I mean i don't even care anymore with whom i get laid just as long as i get laid. I am like ready to deploy the rocket to space into Mars and beyond the motherfucking galaxy.

Point is that all i feel is not that great as i want to feel. I've been having some tough cravings too. Unintentional sex-scenes from a movie with some friends. Making out with a girl while being drunk and gone home alone with a huge urge to masturbate and watch porn yet i didn't. All i am saying is that i could really use some encouragement and advice along the way. From some of you who are further along the process and knows what i am going through? Because i just want to give in right now since i see no point not too.
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The longer u have this mentality about expecting results, the longer the process will take.. U need to let go of the outcome and allow for the negative feeling to manifest itself.. Look at it this way, do u really want to recover in 24 days and become a changed person? The reason u don't want this is because if u thought porn was hurting all aspects of ur life, recovering in 24 days will really bad because it will tell u how harmless it was in this hypothetical sense.. U want this to take atleast 120 days because emerging on the other side from 120 as opposed to 24, gives u more self respect
 
Joe peasci said:
The longer u have this mentality about expecting results, the longer the process will take..
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You are very right, that mentality is even is a root of PMO addiction. You expect "fast results" and this stresses you. And as stress relief, you PMO ...
 
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