Abusive crush

Hello.... I am female
So i DMed certain female over here but they dont seem to b quite active guy
So i thought i will share you my story and I hope you give me good advice

So i met a guy In the college and he was very intelligent but suddenly stopped appearing in class and failing multiple exams... I heard it was due to bad breakup his gf cheated on him that is y he went into depression n all so i developed soft cornor for him as i went through same and i could understand how love & career loss affects but the only difference was that I recovered got grades on tract he didn't

My mutual friend told me he loves me a lot and i was so happy . I felt i could make him forget his past pain etc and we would b good couple etceetc

But then i found out that he was gone way too far in depression
He smoked cigarettes weed, binge watched Porn and had several flings where he would often trick innocent girl into s. And he has gangster type friends
Most probably he might have treated me as fling.

I stepped back and gave him the reason that iI am dating someone else. It angered him so much that his friends were staring at me with angered gaze..
I felt so afraid developed ptsd that too very severe

I could not tell him actual reason coz I feared him manipulating me and i was so in love with him back then. But after 9 months i told him everything which he denied but i remained stubborn

Now college has reopened and he is trying babysteps towards me but I ignore him but what happened in last year had serious impaction my mind


Think is impacting my performance at uni
And day to day activities

Also I have to see him every day and am tempted to confront him but i think he might react in abusive/manipulative way.. So i am very confused atm please help

 

Ya that is what my rational mind told me but i think what he did with other girls/planned to do with me.. And how he used to scare me up for months when i stepped back left scar on my mind. I keep thinking about what he did everyday even if i tried to stop it I couldn't felt so uncontrolled..
So i thought to confront him just to get that closure..
But i think it is better to ignore him and try to forget him because he might act in a manupulative way and make me think from his sides or abuse me
That would bring me back to square one.

Thanks for that wonderful piece of advice
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Same here and I also learned it the hard way

Maybe it might be true few months back but now i completely understand it
My problem is to deal with aftermath this is very hard because the trauma of loving a person who wanted to exploit u makes u feel in danger every single day..it felt like I was getting abused every day.
So i have this rage etc etc in my heart and negative emotions in my mind giving me a hard time.. That is what botheres me right now

Sure

Wonderful advice thanks a lot

 

Thanks a lot for advice...will keep it in mind

Seems like you understand my case very well i think i have to let go and I am trying to do so.. Thanks.. Again

 

Good for you...
These type of relationships do not lead to anything except loss.
First you pity there condition and give your love, time energy to make them out of it
And all they do in return is make your condition pitiable ..
Thanks for the advice though