Accept that Porn and Mastubation are the problem, not the solution

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ScubaSteve, Aug 6, 2020.

  1. ScubaSteve

    ScubaSteve Fapstronaut

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    My best advice for breaking bad habits is to accept that the bad habit is a source of major problems in your life. You need to really, truly accept this. allow yourself to think of all the problems PMO causes in your life. Feel the disgust at yourself for allowing things to get this bad. Feel the disgust at yourself for thinking that watching porn was acceptable, or reasonable, or a good thing. Understand that Porn and Masturbation ARE THE PROBLEM. They are making your life shit. They are fucking everything up. Why would you want to continue with PMO? Is it hard to quit? Sure, at times, things can get tough. When things are tough, will PMO fix your problems? NOPE. If you are trying to quit and you PMO, you are saying to yourself that you accept that your life is shit because of PMO, and you dont care. Dont do that to yourself. Accept that PMO is a problem, one that is destroying your life, and become so disgusted with it that you never want to do it again. Then you stop doing it. then your life gets better, slowly healing.
     
  2. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    I would suggest that although pmo is a huge problem, it is a symptom of a deeper issue/problem. Pmo causes more problems but is not the main issue, much like most addictions. Just as food can become a problem, it is not the problem, it is your coping mechanism for the actual problem. Until you understand what you are using pmo to hide/cope/escape from, you will always fall back on it.
     
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  3. ScubaSteve

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    I agree, but as long as you are using this coping mechanism, you are masking the real problem, which makes it hard to identify. Take off the mask and you will be able to see more clearly.
     
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  4. r8js

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    It's time to identify real problem and get suitable ways to solve that problem.....
    Pmo itself is problem.........and nofap is answer.....
     
  5. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    Yes, absolutely agree with this. You’re in a fog, and numb. You’re basically high and you’ve got to stop using to “ see” what your escaping from. I think it’s a double edged sword. You use to escape then can’t see what you’re escaping from, lol.
     
  6. engelman

    engelman Fapstronaut

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    I was going to say exactly the same!!!
    I'm reading this book now, quite interesting reading indeed.

    Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction
    https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Eddie-Capparucci/dp/B084Z66BZR


    NoFap is not the answer, it's only a tool, only a way to the path of our healing process.
     
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