Accountability for All

Well, urges were definitely bad yesterday, I have. had very little motivation to work out, sleep in late, wake up in the middle of the night. Fantasies weren't nearly as overwhelming though. Last night as I woke up in the middle of the night, I just saw all these thoughts and depression as huge, huge stacks of bullshit. I just saw on the subreddit this interesting thing
https://reddit.app.link/cyIUYDlT52. So apparently as long as one overcomes the huge depression phase and the point where everything starts going backwards, the superpowers come back with a vengeance.

 

Day 2, completed. Feeling good till now.

 

Day 3, I’m feeling a lot better and already a lot more social. Today though, I got triggered by some physical photos of girls faces (not porn) and didn’t catch myself and kept looking for a couple of seconds. I didn’t get nearly as aroused as I would if it was a digital image but still felt it. I then saw a real life girl and looked at her body objectifyingly because of the urges for a second. I’m fine now but it shouldn’t be a relapse right? I did not act on those triggers by watching porn or masturbating.

 

So, day 8 is over and I had sex and orgasmed. Personally I don't think it is bad because it didn't include porn, I didn't think of porn and I want to get rid of my addiction to porn, not sex per se. But do you think it damages my rewiring brain? Maybe it is too soon? I don't know if it counts as a relapse.

Try to look forward to the time in a few days when you get more social again. Also, a relapse doesn't destroy all of your achievements. You can have a good day anyway!

In my opinion you're fine.

 

Thanks for the insight!

and now to answer your question in my personal opinion...

I don’t think it’s a relapse.

If you didn’t watch porn or masturbate your fine.

However,

personally, I would avoid all ejaculation until atleast 60-70 days.

This is because your brain may be healing fine despite having sex, but your body needs to heal.

All those years or whatever time span you spent ejaculating probably everyday (we all have) has deprived our bodies of the nutrients we need to be healthy through excessive ejaculation, and to heal from this, in my opinion, you should abstain from ejaculation (except for wet dreams of course) for two+ Months. I personally recommend this because your body uses the nutrients that it takes to make your seed and it makes your body physically stronger again (builds testosterone, regrows hair, strengthens nails, increases general energy, chemically balances the brain, etc.)

Don’t worry about what you did, that is one of the goals of nofap after all, to be intimate with real people instead of your hand. But my preference personally would be to stay away from even sexual encounters for atleast 70 days (I’m doing 150 to be safe). This will ensure that my body has healed completely and I will be less likely to experience side affects due to ejaculation.

Don’t reset the counter. Stay strong.

also though, I’m curious, if you don’t mind let me know if you experience any side effects from ejaculation without porn or masturbation. and if you do, Let me know if they are less intense. Thanks.

 

Day ten down

Weighing in on the whole sex thing. I personally don’t count it as a relapse. But I also find that afterwards I feel some of the effects of a relapse. This may be psychosomatic. I think though if you have the option and don’t have Ed it can be Good thing to do.

Let us know how it goes for ya

 

Well that's because you are confusing effects of orgasms with relapsing.

 

Day 30 feeling decent had strong urges last night

 

Day 11 complete. Had some strong urges but managed to overcome

 

Hi, I'm italian
I join now.
Day 1 (1 month record)
I started PMO at the age of 12. Now I really want to quit.
I am not sure to do 90 days without PM
Tips or Stories? please tell me useful things

 

Done day 4.

 

Read about withdrawal symptoms and make a plan on how to deal with them

 

I only really see some benefits such as seeing through the bullshit and procrastinating my thoughts give, but it's not enough. I need freedom. Im also not taking adhd meds anymore because they're nothing but bandages that only cover the problem at hand and not fix it. Essentially, they're steroids for your brain.

No sex is not a relapse unless your a sex addict. Your wiring yourself to another person and not your hand/a screen so it really isn't the same thing.

 

thanks I do it now !

 

Haven't felt real side effects. I had lower energy but I guess that's normal. Also, morning wood came back much faster (second day) than after relapsing (5 or 7 days for me).
So, since I didn't reset my counter, I just finished day 10 which is a huge success for me!

 

Hey it's been awhile since I posted. I ended up falling off due to flu/job stress. Getting back on the path now. Currently finishing up day 3.

 

Try to stay out of that environment. Supoose it is your hone than goto public places where you cant access porn. Do it for 10 days bro you will get your grip

 

Day 11 down. Currently on Day 12