Accountability for All

Day 0 again after a streak of 15 days but this time i am making progress. These 2 weeks things were really good, I am confident I would be able to quit this shitty addiction. Now I will be regular and also not repeat the mistake of not following the routine of nofap.

 

Any tips on how to overcome huge urges?

Also can you tell us how it feels when you get past day 30-60?

Did you always feel tired and sleepy and sluggish when fapping? And does it feel way different now? If so, how?

 

Day 76!!
I'm so grateful that every day I can come here and update my day counter to a bigger number.

I like how specific your goals are!

This time I haven't had to deal with many huge urges like my first times trying to quit P. I still have them though and they suck. I think they're less because my approach this time is different. I try to avoid anything that might trigger cravings or that might bring flashbacks to mind. But, when I do have cravings I quickly turn my focus to something else like doing pushups, for example, or going for a run, anything that makes you feel tired.
Now, about quitting MO. I'm having a harder time with this. I definitely don't do it as often as I did back then nor do I do it while watching P or thinking about it, but still my goal is to stop doing it altogether, since for me I think it's an unhealthy way of dealing with unwanted feelings like boredom, loneliness, sadness, etc...
I think the longer I got this time without MOing was a month. It is a weird feeling, but I think personally the more evident benefits came from not watching P and Ming to it. To answer the question, yes I did feel horrible and unmotivated every time I MOed. It's just not worth the seconds of dopamine release that you get from it. Since last week I haven't done any of these though (PMO) .

Something else that I'd like to say is that quitting PMO helps A LOT in making you feel better with yourself and others, but it won't magically make your life perfect. Referring to 'feeling good about yourself' as a 'superpower' seems a bit of an exaggeration to me (this is my opinion). After you quit PMO, you may realize that suddenly there's a hole in your life that you'll need to fill with something beneficial and addictive asap (in a healthy way of course). For me this was exercising. I've never considered myself a physically active person, but for months now I've been going to the gym 4 times a week, playing sports, running and biking. And it feels so good to be tired at the end of the day! You fall asleep so easily, which is a change from the insomnia that PMOing can cause.

Lmao sorry to everyone who doesn't enjoy reading long stuff, I wasn't expecting to write this much. English is not my first language so if some of this doesn't make sense, sorry. I hope some of it helps someone.

I've gotten this far because of every person posting in this thread, I truly appreciate you all sharing your defeats and victories. I know I'm not alone living all of this.
Keep going, everyone!

 

Day 2

 

Day 1 again, but I have done a lot of work since then.... It seems like a week ago...
I'm just somehow keeping in my mind and in my feelings even though all the sort of sexual imagery is some kind of decaying swampy shit, and it's like very rare that I felt this way, like why would I be attracted to it? and so I'm so thankful for that kind of feeling....

 

Thanks man this clears a lot of things up for me as a new person to this.

I never differentiated between p, m, and o.

For me, Id say this is much different to what I've been currently doing. I've been watching "p", but not "m" or "o" 'ing.

What I actually need to do is not watch p aswell as this will make the experience much easier lol.

Day 13 is almost over. No urges today but binge watched Netflix. I think it's time to slowly detach from the settee and do something more productive with the time.

Thanks for the great advice @widdendreampenguin

 

Day 3: done

I'll hit my goal of 7 days without losing my current progress.

 

Day 21 check in. Feeling my confidence rebuilding

 

Day 14 check-in

 

Day 10
The insomnia is real for me..
I'm gonna do some kind of physical activity everyday now to be more tired in the evenings and hopefully sleep better.

 

Just let a huge urge pass. Rewiring my brain to associate urges with box breathing. As soon as I felt the need to pmo I went on YouTube and typed in ten mins box breathing and did that instead.

I've successfully let the urge pass and now next time the urge comes I'll subconsciously associate it to box breathing instead of pmo'ing.

Good small win for today

 

Day 77!!

 

Im on day 76

Its called flatline. That is where I am. Dead inside, dead down stairs. I guess 20 years of 6 times a day of PMO can't be erased that easy. I feel depressed like you do everything right, you work, achieve goals, make some money, make 90% good decisions, but just deep down your dead.

I read articles of people dating on reboot. How can I date if every piece of my body and mind is dead? Im not shy to talk to girls, I just dont have any motivation because of flatline. Thats where I am now. 90 Days feels like to little time as well. Would probably need 300 days.

 

Sorry to just chip in but MO got me into SO much trouble. Its called the chaser effect. I did MO without porn, but it made my cravings worse and broke my 40 day streak. Im on day 76 and for me MO is just teasing the dog that can bite you. Just my personal opinion

 

Day 3

 

Day 4: done.

I think the secret to overcoming this shit is: mental and physical balance + changing habits + addressing the roots of the problem.

To have mental balance and address the roots I've been using a course called CIS Method (A emotional intelligence course). And I think it's very effective.

I'll hit my goal of 7 days without losing my current progress!!!

 

Please hang in there... Do something positive,... Write feel your feelings, take a walk, hang in there okay....

 

Thanks for the advice you give me hope that something is possible but it does take everything when I run is so much better when I write to check in for some emotional balance so much better and lastly I'm starting to do work to dissolve my conditioned patterns from the past...

 

Box breathing kicks ass.... few things will really dissolving a marriage once it's present in my mind but if I do 10 cycles of box breathing it is gone

 

Okay check in day 2,... I am ragged as hell but I'm hanging in there. I am coming off of work going back into my abode, and what I've seen is if I stop and take my book out that records all of the complete f****** hell that this thing has done to my life then it really helps me remember in the night and that I need to do my breathing my box breathing upon any sort of urge....