Accountability for All

feel pretty weak today. but it's going ok.

 

whenever you feel the urge to watch porn remember that it is an industry that abuses your natural desire to have sex and turns you into a loser.

 

Day 60 in the books!!!
Visited a lady friend tonight finally! Just hope I don’t fall into that chaser effect now.

 

I feel like a loser thinking about the last 12 months , kind of depressed too but we will get out this shit together. I can't seem to think positive for a few days, but let's see what we can do about it .

I think this can be used with a folder locker and check this out.
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...ve-your-willpower-an-aid-easy-streaks.272658/

Damn , send it to @xXsinnerXx if you feel like it.

 

Hey guys, sorry I hadn’t posted here in a while. I had actually uninstalled the browser from my phone and installed pluckeye on all my devices. Needless to say, I did relapse somehow, but drastically less than previous month.
In around 1.5 years, I have been able to reduce my relapses from thrice a day to once every 4 or 5 days. I have achieved this via changing most of my life. But, I still find myself in this trap, unable to quit. And I think the only way out of this is a total lifestyle transformation for me which I am actively working on.
I am trying to quit this addiction using a combination of multiple systems (habits, values, relationships, purpose, etc) and some of these have been very helpful. But I still feel that I haven’t chosen my purpose yet, and I am not actively working towards it.
I will check in here again after 20 days or so. I will be working on my life again and rebuilding it. I hope I choose to be in a much better place next month.
Also guys, for those who use spotify, I found a really helpful podcast: The Porn Reboot. Check it out, it’s immensely helpful.

 

not to sound pessimistic, but new porn sites spawn constantly. it is certainty helpful to block the sites you frequent and the most popular sites, but ultimately, if you want to find something to PMO to, no finite blocklist will cover you.

 

Day 61 in the books!!!

 

Day 40 report

My mirrors came in a couple of days ago and I'm very pleased with the results so far!

So lemme explain a few things.

The reason why I chose to buy mirrors with fancy embellishments was because I figured that as a tool for spiritual and mental cultivation, it seemed fitting for it to be visually striking to really project the image of something significant so as to set it apart from all the other mundane objects in my room if that makes any sense.
The larger of the two mirrors is situated next to my laptop for the reason being that in the eventual case where I experience urges, I can easily turn my head to face the mirror and stare into my reflection. I've left the smaller mirror on my nightstand and it's the last thing I look at before I go to sleep, and sometimes throughout the night if I'm experiencing particularly troublesome urges.

Here's what I've experienced:
1. Significant resilience to urges just having the larger mirror within my field of vision. As I explained in my previous post, seeing your own reflection fools the brain into a state of increased alertness and prevents you from becoming too relaxed (and careless).
2. Increased productivity. Ever since getting these mirrors, I've felt more of a pressure to get things done, which is good for me!
3. Increased self awareness. As you might've guessed, when you're looking at yourself for so long, you're reminded that you actually occupy a space in a room. Surprisingly enough, it rearranges your sense of perspective. You're not just occupying a room, but actively paying attention to and monitoring what you're doing in it.

Ironically enough, staring into my reflection has a way of getting me out of my head so I can really pay attention to how I am being in the moment.

I've been thinking lately, what if the reason some women mature so much faster than men is because they're always looking at themselves in a mirror? Whether it's a vanity drawer or a portable flip mirror. For better or worse, they spend a lot of time being some measure of self aware.

I want to explore this idea, and if I can make it to 60 days using this technique, then I'd say I've stumbled onto something important.

As of right now, I'm just exited that I have some actual physical tools that seem to help me a great deal so far. It probably sounds like I'm over-analyzing this whole mirror thing right now, but every breakthrough always started out as a crazy idea. I'm willing to sound a little out of my mind for the time being if it means exploring new avenues of recovery (Self awareness!)

Just watch. This is gonna catch on and believe me, recovery won't be the same as it once was.

Then again, it could just be a tool that very personal for me. What's good for the goose might not always be good for the gander. I do know that I've told a fellow in another group chat about this method. He tried it out for himself and told me his urges almost immediately vanished when he looked at a mirror.

God forbid, but if I relapse between now and in about 20 days, we can come back to this and say it was a bust

And with the start of this new frontier, here's to everyone's safe and stable recovery.

 

hey everyone, hope you are having a blessed day, and if not that's OK

going well over here

 

nice observation man! worth a try.

doing good over here.

 

Hi. I am new and this is my first post here.
I just hit rock bottom today (long story) and weirdly after listening to some music I somehow got an epiphany, and the courage to just focus on my goals instead of my problems.

I know this is weird, I mean "music" of all things was what moved me to sign up back to my local gym (in years).
I had my first fullbody workout today, made a good meal, and cleaned the entire house.

I failed no PMO many times, the longest I ever did was 30days for NNN, and that was a miracle it was my best month.
I don't know how to express this but I feel something very different this time, like a big wave of change coming deep from the inside.

I'm happy and proud about myself for acting quickly on that feeling. Now I just have to stick to it, I think social / accountability paterns do work, at least for me.
So here I join you guys and I commit to this forum post daily for at least a minimum of 3 months (90days), starting today

 

Day 62 in the books!!!

 

Hi,

I am new to the group and just wanted to thank you for setting up and maintaining this for all of us. From what I can see you've created an environment that offers support to a lot of people and that is quite a success. Sorry that you are not seeing the improvement that you want in life. I can relate and it bites hard!! Hope the coming week is a little better for you and are able to pull of a modest streak... Talk to you again soon

 

I feel your pain brother, the slightest thing can throw me off track and just destroy a streak but hopefully, with enough iterations, we break out for a long enough streak that the brain rewires enough to get us to a higher plateau...

 

Hey,
I know this my third post in a row, am new to the group... looking forward to partnering with everyone as keep trying to slay the beast, am on an 8 day streak, and am hoping to make it to 21...

 

Hang in there bro. I remember failing so many times I never thought it was possible for me, until I randomly stumbled upon this video:

Spoiler: Watch Youtube Video

My first 30days sobriety streak was right after his video. It really works if you do it right.
To to summarize: If you keep thinking: I need to stop thinking about a pink elephant (nofap) it'll always cross your mind, everyday you're making it harder than it should.
Anyways, this is what i've learned and think will pull me out for my first 90days PR.
Only time will tell for sure.

 

The best one can do is to be busy living your life (and hence not thinking about the pink elephant), immersing yourself in healthy things and healthy mindsets. What kept me thinking about the pink elephant was low self-esteem, and generally a nihilistic and hedonistic view of life - so PMO became for me a way to escape the fact that I could not get as good as I wanted to be, get all the things in life I wanted, and that I could not direct my life toward anything if there was no intrinsic meaning to anything in the world (nihilism). I began reading the bible (I had no christian friends or relatives), and discovered there is an alternate view of the world which is very transformative.
But I know I know, that is not everyone's cup of tea - especially not for the #HighIQRational - but the point is that maybe one can get some help breaking the chain of one's bad habits by changing one's core beliefs. This is especially an appeal to reading the classics like stoicism, the bible, cynics etc.. But not buddhism (very nihilistic and pessimistic).

 

Hi guys pls help me out here. Can you recommend some blockers for windows. My friend wants to block sites like fb, Twitter , insta etc. He has installed adult site blocker using xxxsinnerxxx recommendations. But he is unable to block social media sites. Thanks in advance.

 

Day 5 - Smashed it