ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. The lack of sleep can definitely be sneaky. It's not as talked about as other triggers imo. Love your quote. Its so true
     
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  2. Its been incredibly difficult this month just maintaining today especially. Don't know why I've been feeling like life is impossible. I'm sure its gotta be stress on top of the withdrawals. I did realize something... it's important to not only manage the urges but also your stress/emotions when life gives you chaos. Today I was relieved when I stepped back and just took an hr to lay down to collect my thoughts. I realized that its about bringing some type of order out of the chaos and you don't have to get up right away after a huge "gut punch". Its good enough that you just get up. Been listening to Les Brown. He's got way too many good quotes. Here's the 2 videos I listened to today.


     
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  3. 12ove

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    This was the biggest trigger I was dealing with up until recently..even today it can be, but now that I sleep with my gf it hasn't been as big of an issue.
     
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  4. 12ove

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    It most certainly is the stress on top of the withdrawls, but you go to shake it asap. Feeling down about life will block your root chakra..us fapstronauts need to keep that as crystalized as possible
     
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  5. webdevil81

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    Screwed up yesterday guys, so hard trying to get this streak going. Think it's time I realise that I have regressed from my early long streaks and this gremlin is still calling the shots.

    Just got to dust myself off and go again.
     
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  6. webdevil81

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    One day down, lifetime to go!

    No urges so far just determination, been bit of a funny week but everything is clearing and the sun is shining out there today which definitely helps! Enjoy your day peeps!
     
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    Listened to the stop negative thinking one today, guy really does grab your attention and inspire you. Thanks for introducing him to me.

    Second day draws to a close, nothing really eventful apart from a few seconds of 'maybe' a minute ago. I'm using these few days as some time for reflection and time to get myself in a position to give an almighty push towards my best life. I have managed to curtail, porn, my drinking, my smoking(weed and ciggies) and general drug taking. It was a friends birthday the weekend just gone and I indulged in all these things. Which I have been regretting since, it has taken me until Thursday to feel normal and not completely depressed. Life cannot go on like this so all of the above is on this streak, its all interconnected so no more toying with the idea its time to start living the life and reaping the happiness. Hello sobriety!!!
     
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  8. webdevil81

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    Third day and the mojo is coming back, I have been sleeping until I wake up(without an alarm) these first few days so no early starts. I meditate, hit the bike for 45 mins and then a cold shower and boom into the day. No time to dwell on PMO, just seems to creep up on me if I have any sad thoughts or feel down.

    Happy Friday guys!
     
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  9. DudeAlex

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    @webdevil81 Good on you!
    P.S. I like your profile pic: it is a great goal! :D
     
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    @DudeAlex thanks man, its the Oblisco in Buenos Aires. I was living there until the pandemic started, moved back to the UK but cant wait to move back once all this has blown over.
     
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    Another day another dollar, spending a nice night in with family instead of hedonism with friends. Today was a good day and looking forward to gaining momentum through the weekend.
     
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  12. Great awakin

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    20 days now✌️
     
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    Congratulations @Great awakin, this your first time through?
    Can't wait to get there again myself, I've found on previous streaks the urges become less and the benefits start to mount from around day 20/30. Keep up the good work!

    So managed to wake up at 6am this morning(I know going back to early wake ups on a Saturday), done a great meditation session on waking and am now relaxing with a coffee. Feel like I'm getting a part of myself back with each day that passes, roll on the 7 day bounce with the added testosterone to give everything a kick!
     
  14. Great awakin

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    Thanks! I had almost a year streak about 6-7 yrs back, but relapsed during difficult times.. had around 2 months streak early in the year... but lately, it was a struggle and i usually managed 1-2.5 weeks streak so thk God this time.
    I managed by joining daily prayer/bible study group and avoiding netflix etc. if you all subscribe netflix and are not careful of what you watch, then most likely fall into a trap. I suggest you avoid those TVs and streaming service for a couple months and you will see a difference.
     
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    @Great awakin good stuff, I had just over 100 days before I went on a serial relapse for the last month or two. I need to get back into that groove, I was super healthy and not drinking/smoking etc. Thats why I am committing to getting these other vices out of my system as they just keep one another alive. I'm not really religious in the classic sense but I have committed to vipassana meditation and have done twice a day since the beginning of this streak, to go along with the no smoking(cigs and green) and no alcohol. Cycling everyday and soon to start lifting again as I have had a wrist injury keeping me at bay for around a month.

    Lots to achieve but I feel it is all within my grasp.
     
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  16. webdevil81

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    Another day done, couple of urges but only for a split second. I really feel like I have the determination back to smash my previous 100 day streak and carry on to the rest of my days. Aims are to leave all my vices behind and hit six months of SR(no pmo too obviously) then take stock. You guys going to have to suffer my rambling for some time to come!
     
  17. That's really good that you recognize that. Knowledge is half the battle.
     
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  18. Relapsed today. Didn't realize I made it to 11. Its pretty good for me lately. I think stress, pushing too hard, and being down about how things have been going lately probably contributed to this. I'll get up again. I think I'm starting to realize the role that attitude and perception plays in this. I know I need to be positive but I can't help the pessimism. Feels like this is never-ending or that nothing changes lately or that being positive seems "unrealistic" to my mind. Any tips on this? Really want to try and make a change in my mindset.
     
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  19. First off congrats on getting to triple digits. No small feat.

    Really interested in this. Do you feel like its given you benefits? If so which ones? Really wondering if I should do meditation consistently
     
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    Yeah man, I think you got to be ruthless about it. I have always been bit of a sucker but my first couple of streaks really taught me to toughen up, not in an asshole way but in a kind of man-up kind of way.

    It has given me benefits, key is consistency like anything though. Checkout a book called 'The Mind Illuminated' if you're interested in putting a practice together. You got any further questions I'll be only too happy to share my so far limited knowledge. Bottom line it really has opened my eyes up to how good I can feel just connecting with my environment which takes away the need to...well you know pmo.
     
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