ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. Brahmacharya_UK

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    I strongly identified with what you said here @best_accountant88 ... Our addictions have been in charge of us for so long, and the "Addiction" part of our brain has actually got bigger than the "Control Centre" part of our brain...

    It's been ordering us about until now, and when we turn around to it and say: "NO", it's shocked and surprised... And then it starts to think of ways to get round your "NO"... Like a small child who asks their Mum, then their Dad (If they don't get the right answer first time).

    Stay strong and let us know how you're getting on.
     
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  2. puius8435

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    Im so sorry for your loss.
    I don’t think you should feel regret for being honest about your feelings with your crush. I once was honest with a friend about having a crush on her and she basically never spoke to me again. That was in high school but it hurt for awhile. I have much greater sorrow for the times in my life where I haven’t been honest.
     
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  3. puius8435

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    Day 9
    Feeling better today. Going to go for a run and work out a bit during my lunch break. I’m grateful to the support I’ve received from everyone here. 9 days is rare for me. Thank you
     
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  4. webdevil81

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    Hey buddy,

    Thanks and congrats on the 90 days!

    Been struggling for energy this week but pushing through, keeping my eye on the prize!
     
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  5. Hail To The Thief

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    Checking in on day 158. I haven’t been keeping up with everything here but I’m seeing some good momentum of the day counters in the signatures! We have so many years of giving in every time we have an urge, it’s great to get some more practice with having an urge and watching it come and go without giving in to our dysfunctional addict brains.

    A few days last week were probably the most difficult time I’ve had since I stopped in June. I was struggling and didn’t think I was going to make it. I used the panic button on this site a couple of times and I think it actually helped. I think what ultimately got me back to a good place was a guided meditation that said something I’ve heard a thousand times but just needed to hear at that moment, which was to just observe the thoughts and gently note it as a craving when it comes up and simply be aware of it instead of trying to push it away or distract myself to think about something else. When I just notice the urge, I literally say in my head “craving” then it goes away on its own without me suffering from it. Then it comes back, and I do it again, and again, and again, and eventually it stops happening. Then later it comes back again and the cycle repeats and it’s a great reminder that I am not my thoughts, I don’t have to act on every impulse I have, and if I decide I don’t want to fap then I don’t have to fap! That’s been working for now, I’m sure it will change again but I’m glad I made it through that and it’s a good reminder that just because I’ve gone 158 days without PMO doesn’t mean I’m in the clear from this thing I’ve been addicted to for 20 years.
     
  6. puius8435

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    Day 10 is almost over. It went pretty well and I’m happy I’m at this point. Around this time I start to feel so uncomfortable that I feel like I’ll O if I bump into something. That is how I am feeling today.
     
  7. H2T2

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    So, how does this work? should i just open up/vent it out here? badge should be visible with goal too. have done way better in the past, and want to do so too. the pandemic is making it difficult
     
  8. Rommel

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    I just slipped after 30 days of no P or M, so it's back now to day 1...
     
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  9. H2T2

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    hang in there buddy. find out why you slipped and either avoid it if you can next time or find yourself a much better distraction. i've found that works well for me. for me an idle mind is literally a devil's workshop.
     
  10. 12ove

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    Hey guys, been visiting family so I haven't had much time to check in...will be similar for the next week..
    Hope you all stay strong and have a great Thanksgiving.

    Just want you all to know I am thankful for every one of you fapstronauts.
     
  11. SlimTeleGuy

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    Haven't posted in a couple days but still on track. I'm 4 days away from my best streak so far on this journey. I'm having a less than great start to the day but we're hanging in there. I hope everyone here is too. Stay strong brothers!
     
  12. puius8435

    puius8435 Fapstronaut

    I'm on day 13. I'm struggling but grateful to my accountability groups and partners that have kept me going. The trick for me has been reaching out when I'm struggling.
     
  13. H2T2

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    i'm struggling today, feeling weak. some how feel PMO is the answer to all my problems, probably because of that dopamine kick :(
     
  14. InnerMan

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    Yeah it's so hard to snap out of those states. Would you consider taking a cold shower? The mental victory is amazing and might shift things for you. Worth a try!
     
  15. H2T2

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    i'm already shivering bud, on the verge of a cold too, not sure a cold shower might help. at this point, i'm not sure if this is an excuse too
     
  16. InnerMan

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    Right, maybe bundle up and go for a 10 to 15 minute walk? Think about your aim and how PMO is a cheap empty option.

    But I so hear you...it's rough to override the urge when you feel like shit. Totally get it dude.
     
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  17. H2T2

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    thanks for the support mate. but i gave in. if anything, the sheer shame of making this public will help me i think. it can't be the only way out of stress, right?

    i will take your advice and go for a walk, even though it is after now :/
     
  18. puius8435

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    It's alright, reaching out is a huge step. Stay with this group and keep trying.
     
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  19. Hope-This-Works

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    Day 66. Checking in. I didn't used smartphone for almost two months and took it back one week ago, and it sucks. I find myself reading some pointless news before I go to sleep and also watching some documentaries on youtube etc. I don't watch porn etc. But still, it messed up my sleeping cycle which was good just recently. I think I will switch back to button phone. COVID has been hitting pretty hard recently and I was alone in the office for one week, being alone is something I can't stand. Hopefully everything gets better in time :) Anyways, stay strong everybody.
     
  20. DudeAlex

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    I have been free 19 days. I feel solid and proud.
     
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