ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. One1One

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    Thanks for sharing this, it really motivates me to read of further benefits awaiting along the way if we take actions and persevere during the path.

    And I'm happy to share my 50 days mark, after a few weeks of flatline I sense things are getting much better, I acknowledge that the process of healing is slow, therefore I won't pressure myself and my goals to be fulfilled on a blink of an eye. The same time spent in digging this hole, is needed to first get out and then refill it, but with new beliefs and perspectives, and those are my responsibility to choose.

    Never give up everyone, we are all capable of anything we put our mind into.
     
  2. Hail To The Thief

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    Glad to be at 30 days again.

    Im currently working on being less obsessive about things that I think should be different. Especially at my job. I’m grateful for everything I have and don’t need anything else.
     
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  3. @SlimTeleGuy It sounds like you're getting hit from a lot of different angles right now. I've learned that sometimes we just gotta take it one hour or even one minute at a time and that's OK because that's all we can do in that moment. Life can throw A LOT at us especially at the most inconvenient times. I've been in ruts where it literally seemed impossible that I would be able to get out of or that it would last forever. It sure felt like it but I've learned it does pass and it actually is possible to climb out. It's possible to rebuild your faith in yourself too.

    I recently joined PAA. I'd be happy to discuss it with you via PM if you want. It could be you're going through withdrawals too. I noticed that after about a week my mind start to clears up and begins to have a different perspective on things.
     
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  4. SlimTeleGuy

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    Thanks @Eddie_Moscone_BB I'm almost scared/cautious to say I had a decent, almost good day. I think you are spot on in terms of how life can get really bad all of a sudden. And can seem like the entire universe has it out for you almost... I'm hesitant to even think that I might be heading out of one of those rough patches. But my mind has certainly been more positive than negative in the last few hours. I thank you for your offer to talk about how PAA is working for you. I would be interested to know if its any different from nofaps weekly calls at all. So I'll follow up over PM. Thanks for trying to help me.
     
  5. InnerMan

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    Hope you're all well gentlemen!

    I came across a saying on this website that I'll share here because it's a great little mantra that can be used when urges flare up:

    "where does it lead me and where does it leave me?"

    Over and out.
     
  6. Brahmacharya_UK

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    Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

    I recently joined the commitment to reach 90 days because I fell back into a bit of a relapse cycle, and I'd managed to reach 90 days before, and had made some massive improvements to my life.

    I miss my friend who recently passed from this world. I have a lot of regrets about our relationship how it could have been so much more, and lasted so much longer. It was his time.. It was just far too soon.

    Some of the worst things can happen to us, whether we FAP or NOT. But at least when we preserve our SEMEN-ESSENCE, we have the inner strength to deal with those things - even if it feels intolerably difficult at times.

    It is SO important that we all stay strong, stay around nice and positive people. Remember, You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Make those connections count. Whatever you may have been told:
    You are special
    You are kind
    You are lovable
    You have SO MUCH to offer.
    Don't let ANYBODY tell you otherwise.
    Take care of yourselves, and each other.
     
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  7. @Brahmacharya_UK Sorry for your loss. So true about the 5 people we spend our time with.
     
  8. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Not making a wank wank for well over a week now. Took a whole lot of trying just to get up that hill.
     
  9. One1One

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    Well done! Great achievement Jerry
     
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  10. SlimTeleGuy

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    I just relapsed after a 12-day streak. I'm disappointed but I have to keep trying to get to that 90-day mark. We're about to enter month 3 of 2021. I think about if I was able to stay clean till today I'd just have about 1 more month to go to reach 90. I know that if I stayed 90 I'd start to see the real me emerge. The me that doesn't depend on internet sex. But I know I can't think about that right now. I just have to learn from this and get better.
     
  11. rendition

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    Anyone from chicago?
     
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  12. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Jerry fell off the wagon! Two weeks in and I went for ole ham shandy. No porn, which is good, but I'd still rather leave myself alone altogether. Might just wear boxing gloves 24/7.
     
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  13. 12ove

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    My computer broke...so now I am using incognito mode on my gf's computer to be here and do this...i'm not so sure about that decision I really don't want her to find out...but hopefully if she does she will understand that part of the reason I am doing this is for us...anyway it should be fine as long as I am on incognito mode.
     
  14. 12ove

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    Not much checking in since Tuesday here..hope you are all doing well
     
  15. Hail To The Thief

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    Yea it’s been quiet around here. Checking in on day 42, I’m feeling good and have been having a lot less urges the past couple of weeks. I credit a combination of exercise every day, focus at work, and 3-4 12 step meetings each week (I’m in recovery from other addictions besides porn). I hope everyone here is doing well.
     
  16. One1One

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    Just checking in also, day 62. I feel I'm leaving behind the period of flatline, and I feel much more balanced and in control in every situation. The urges are still under control, but I didn't have any strong impulse or energy out of control to deal with in the last 3 to 4 weeks, for which I'm glad. Wondering where this path leads next. Will keep you posted.
     
  17. 12ove

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    Trying to stay busy, good to hear you both are doing well.
     
  18. 12ove

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    had some urges to check p subs this morning. glad i avoided them
     
  19. SlimTeleGuy

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    Sundays seem to be the days where I mess up the most. Probably because of the combination of stressful workweek ahead and not much to do. So far I'm staying strong and just ignoring all manner of sexual thoughts. It helps that the thoughts I'm having aren't really at all enticing. But I'm looking forward to a strong March.
     
  20. Liberation111

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    Day 29
    Keeping the direction. Horrible marriage issues. I suffer much under them. I now established that we have no communication at all other than through a mediator because each interaction becomes such a nightmare.
    But in regards to this here I keep course. That is different now and does not throw me off anymore while suffering in this quite bad.
     

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