ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. 12ove

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    Another hard mode day...no urges...pretty tired though
     
  2. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Nice going on the streak there mate, inspiring to see people making it.
     
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  3. bakerbhf

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    Hey everyone,

    Sorry it has been a while. No relapse but had urges. Ended up turning off blocking software to get around things which isn't great, and has gradually become more frequent. This is definitely down to being tired and stressed because of my job (although it is further proof that I need to find a new career path once my current contract ends). And I know if I were with my girlfriend all the time I wouldn't have these urges. Fortunately I get to see her this weekend. But I would like to find a way around battling with this in the time between seeing her.

    Take care all.
     
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  4. Diderik

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    I feel a lapse coming on today. :(
     
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  5. 12ove

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    Stay strong..I am also having urges right now..going to try and really focus on the basketball game instead.
     
  6. Report in- I relapsed today. There were several factors over the last couple weeks that were more extreme than usual(big move/lack of intimacy with s.o.) but I don’t want to make excuses. The truth is I gradually looked at images the last couple days until I finally just gave in. I was at 30 days..
    I feel like I need an accountability partner but every time I get one the person ends up disappearing after a week. I’m really only in danger of relapsing at day 14, day 30 and then typically every 30 days after that. Although I haven’t managed to make it past 60 since early this year.
    Anyway just needed to vent a little I’m pretty low right now. Hope you all are doing well.
     
  7. Checking in. Feels good to get a couple days back under the belt. I hope you all are doing well and staying strong, we can overcome pmo forever with persistence!
     
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  8. 12ove

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    glad you are here to hold yourself accountable..that is really what it is about in the end...we can only do that...but we are all here for you and trying to cheer you on...I will try and stay up on this forum..I think having multiple ap's on this thread is much more beneficial than one person who may or may not be there for you when you need them...I haven't been on here as often lately but now that I know that one of us is reaching out I will try to be on as much as possible for you. Are you doing hard mode?

    Another hard mode streak going well...just working on being present.
     
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  9. Goodkarma77

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    Would like to join

    No pm
     
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  10. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    For me, the trick is to push it a bit farther every time. 30, 60, 90. I just try to be extra vigilant around the times I messed up last time.

    Welcome, mate.
     
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  12. jackless

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    Checking in, it's been a while since I have posted anything. Trying to make it without using NOFAP as a crutch as much. Still visiting and reading. Today is day 179 with no PMO. Have "FMO"ed 8 times since the streak started but considering I was a daily if not more "M"er, I'll take it as long as it doesn't become more of a habit. I had to find what was driving my habit before I could quit. It would have been so hard to quit with my high sex drive in my 30's, 40's or even 50's. Just keep trying guys. Eventually it will stick. I wish I would have found NOFAP earlier and got my priorities straightened out years ago. Right now I've been home alone all weekend and haven't broken down and watched any porn. Six months ago I would be in a fog by now from PMOing so much.
     
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  13. New Journey

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    It's been absolutely ages since I last logged in. I always forget that I have access to this forum and it's an excellent way of reminding oneself that you are not alone. I am fucked up, literally. I need to beat this. I last managed 33 days without PMO. I used an app called Remojo, but annoyingly it stopped working and just caused my internet and apps on my phone to freeze. So I uninstalled it. Now I've downloaded an app called Coldturkey (only on PC/Mac sadly). Pornblockers don't usually work for me as I always manage to find loopholes, but with this I have let my girlfriend set passwords and its literally impossible to open anything if you've banned certain websites - you can even block the entire internet if you fancy. If you set it up right it blocks everything. VPN's don't even work either, which is usually a massive loophole in getting round blockers. It's probably mentioned on this forum, but as I've said I haven't been on this for ages.

    Now is the time to change. I can do this. We all can do this.
     
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  14. krazzer

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    Hey guys,

    One of the main reasons I wanted to quit, was because of my lack of productivity. I work from home on a computer, so you can imagine the huge potential for screwing up.

    I am now clean for 129 days, which is really truly amazing. I haven't gotten this far in 7 years. In 2014 I managed 150 days. In 2010/2011 I managed 180 days. Those were very different times for me though.

    The thing that is most beneficial to me now is my sexual desire towards my wife. I just crave her like I used to crave porn and we both love it. But of course she is a human being and she can turn me down, because she is tired or something. Not knowing beforehand if you are going to get it makes it actually even more exciting.

    Anyway, about my work, it didn't improve much. I actually replaced my porn addiction with gaming. What's worse, is that playing video games while I should be working is much easier to hide. So for a while, I played for 3 hours every day during the time I should have been working. I could get away with it, but it feels very wrong to myself and my family. I just don't want to do that.

    So I decided to quit gaming for 30 days. After that, maybe restrict myself to just the evening, but we'll see. Right now I'm 25 days in. I replaced evening gaming mostly with meditating, listening to podcasts and making sudoku's.

    I found that even that didn't solve my productivity issue. Now, instead of watching porn or playing games, I constantly was checking news, reddit, social media etc. This has been a problem as well for a few years now.

    So, I decided to quit that as well. From 09:00 till 17:00, I allowed myself to do absolutely nothing else than work. Doing that for 5 days now.

    And it's amazing. I haven't been this productive in years. I really start to enjoy my work again.

    Of course, I have had these 'productivity highs' before, but it feels different this time. Ok, it felt different those time before too. But I try to stay cautious.

    This video was a massive eye opener for me, and clarified a lot of the problems I had. I highly recommend it:

     
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  15. Real Jerry Seinfeld

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    Pretty quiet in here, hope no news is good news. I'm just trucking on, no masturbatory hiijinks to report.
     
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  16. 12ove

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    Ya...worried about the group but hope everyone is staying strong...having some urges to search the web..think I am triggered by one of the shows my gf is watching
     
  17. thepotter

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    Hey guys. 40yo addict here. Searching for weekly online support groups and accountability partners/groups as I begin my goal for a clean December and reach for a 90 day reboot. Been a few years since I made a serious attempt at this and I know how important it is to establish as many support routes as possible early on. Be nice to maintain a small group with several communication methods, ie, messenger, whatsapp, zoom, etc, rather than logging into a forum. Is something like this available or would anyone like to start something?
     
  18. jackless

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    190 days today without any PMO. ITt has definately gotten easier once I got past 160 days and the old habits started to fade. Still have the urges, just not as strong and I can work my way past them. I once made it close to 5 months but fell off so I know that you just need to take it day by day. Exercise, meditation and really looking how PMO changes your view of your relationships. The chemistry is more important then just physical attraction.
     
  19. krazzer

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    +1 for a WhatsApp group.
     
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  20. 12ove

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    Sorry I think most of us prefer to login here to chat. You are welcome to join, good luck on your journey...if you want to join our habitca group we could chat there...I have discord and telegram..I guess I could add a group to one of those if you guys get it going lmk and I will join up on this apps.

    Started another hard mode streak yesterday..got a few weeks no p subs going...feeling good about that
     

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