ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Checking back in after a pretty much prolonged period of time relapsing into old behavioral patterns. Story is getting old and I am getting very tired of dealing with all of the nonsense, in particular online dating seems to haunt me to this day. I neither learn what good texting is, al little as doing what I always done, what I'm used to hardly renders any decent results for me (in my opinion). It is time-wasting, depressing, embittering, sad and an utterly useless tool imho. Why should I keep validating all these random women? What source of wealth or joy are they in my life to deserve it.

    Day 4 here with Nofap (no P and no M) and just starting to feel a little reenergized however I know the road is long and will not be an easy one so I will not give any false disclaimers here :)
     
  2. dharana

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    Hey guys,

    Have been away for a while.
    Unfortunately i feel i just regressed and regressed big time. Have been relapsing constantly for the past few weeks and haven't been abe to hold any type of streak. My mind has been all over the place and full of sexual thoughts that i have not been able to control at the moment.
    Really struggling here. I just feel uncontrolled.
    Also, broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago, which put me further down in my binging. Our relationship wasn't working anymore, i felt the need to move on and she did too, but still it was a difficult situation. Emotionally difficult situations are a big trigger for me and make me want to hide behind this addiction.

    Starting again

    Day 0.

    Thank you for listenning
     
  3. diaspar

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    Hi, I'm new to this group but not new to NoFap.

    I recently did a 56-day streak but over the weekend and today I've had about four resets, so you could call that a relapse lol.

    Anyway.. Let that be the end of it. Note to self: never look at any kind of P ever again no matter what. If I had used a P-sub I could have probably avoided the chaser effect, but P causes binges (not that P-subs are good or anything..)

    On the bright side it was a good, high-quality streak.
     
  4. Hombre

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    Hello,
    I relapsed yesterday. I ate some aphrodisiac seashells with a (girl) friend... then woke up in the middle of the night with strong urges and masturbate. I didn´t watch porn, nor I had crazy fantasies I just kicked it out of my system and continue sleeping. So I don´t feel bad about it, just a little less energetic today and a day counter back to cero which sucks... Feel more laughter than regret on the issue.
     
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  5. Hombre

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    Welcome back, sorry about your relationship. Endings are always hard because we feel we lost a part of us. Don´t fill that emptiness and sadness with PMO. Being here is the first step. Take care.
     
  6. Hail To The Thief

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    Welcome to the new people and welcome back to the ones coming back. It’s helpful for me to read about what it’s like for others so I appreciate you all sharing honestly about relapses and struggles. It’s a great reminder that PMO is not the solution to my problems today even though my brain might tell me it is sometimes.
     
  7. Bethelightinmyheart

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    If I get the information provided correctly, you broke up with her, which is not the same as getting dumped/rejected but still can cause negative feelings such as guilt, ambivalence and fear of losing someone who (atleast once upon a time) gave a rats a** about you. I think it is strong to break up with a girl, shows character and that you stand by your values and set boundaries for creating the life you wan't.
     
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  8. Today was ok. Not bad just tired from the assignments this week and stuff I need to do this week. Had some potential urges that could have spiraled if I didn't ignore them. I'm really surprised that I'm keeping up with my exercise routine even though I waited until night. It's knowing that "if anything I've accomplished that today" that keeps me motivated. My sleep is still tough but its difficult to go to bed early sometimes. My mind still is up. Still not a bad day considering. I'm excited because I've started my job apps again and I think I may be bale to apply to places I've always wanted to live in working in a career that matches what I want to do. That has been such a positive thing in my life. i hope that anyone who needs to read this that they find what makes them happy.
     
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  9. Bethelightinmyheart

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    So day 5 just getting started. Feels very good in some areas. Alot more self-assure and patient. Still fatigued like crazy but this is what my adult life has looked like for the most part so I try not to dwell on this fact. I have no concrete plan for the future which is a bit haunting and (obviously) not ideal in my position, however I think it is just a matter of time before I become more enlightened and something new start to kick in. I just wish I could feel more alive and have something to rely on. Birthday in just about one month ahead from now, at this point in time I am very uncomfortable aging. It just isn't fun in western society as of today getting so near to 40 years of age, and I for sure have very little to show for it.

    I wish to stay strong, healthy and prosper. Also, I wish the best to all of you!
     
  10. diaspar

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    I've got a birthday coming up soon as well, which may be affecting my mood on a subconscious level. I try not to care about ages and birthdays. I remember being 29 and dreading turning 30. But then I turned 30 and didn't care, and wondered why I was dreading it so much. I decided not to worry about age from then on - although of course, like I said, it can affect me subconsciously perhaps.
     
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  11. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Hope you (or someone near) will find some joy in celebrating your birthday.

    Yeah, I think it is a sign of not being able to let go, or regretting you not "achieved" or gotten what you once or currently desire out of life and maybe also a sign of not fully enjoying or making the best out of the present time, atleast in one's own personal opinion. This might be the root cause of this concern..
     
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  12. DudeAlex

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    Actually, it was 50 days of no P. M is now about one day. Nonetheless, thanks for the encouragement. I will certainly build on it.

    I feel like the next step is staying convinced that M is bad for me. In the moment when I am tempted, I forget why I resolved to stay away from it. I feel that I must drive the commitment to stay M-free deeper into my conscience so that it is on my mind even when I am most tempted. I will journal about it here at home on paper, writing my reasons not to M, to remind myself how important it is to me.
     
  13. mindseyeopen

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    Hey, we’re all human, and you only masturbated. The fact that you didn’t watch porn is more important, imo.
     
  14. webdevil81

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    Hey guys,

    Been a little while, relapsed a couple of days ago and felt pretty shitty about it after reaching three figures. Onwards and upwards though, with a renewed sense energy. I find with the start of this new streak priorities have changed for me, and this is more about the semen retention and seeing the benefits this brings to me. I was having night falls around every two or so weeks before so I am on a mission to hit over 100 days again but to include retaining in my counter number this time.

    I will be on a daily diet of Qigong, meditation, cold showers, exercise and no late night eating(which I have tracked as being a common theme with the night falls). Obviously I am continuing to study hard and transmutate these forces for good in any way, shape or form I can.
     
  15. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Sounds like you are my replica ;) I do Qigong every morning, take cold showers daily and try to exercise as much I can without risking overtraining/injury. However I tried to cut off late night eating habit due to my goal to lose 3-5 more kilos down to approx. 90-91 kilos. I am in no way fat but I could trim and (ideally) make my belly more ripped and trimmed.
     
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  16. webdevil81

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    I've just started the qigong but am enjoying the feeling first thing early morning. I'm also intermittent fasting to try and reduce some calories, I'm not overweight but have put on a few pounds from giving up smoking recently.
     
  17. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Oh, yes, well I suppose it is easy to try and substitute smoking with binge-eating or useless carbs (not saying this is all you eat, just generally stating) It is probably challenging in many ways to give up smoking. A wise and bald decision!
     
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  18. Day 5 I guess. Had better days. Didn't even get to finish my assignment and feel like I'm so behind. Really feel overwhelmed very easily. Going to go to bed early tonight. Praying tomorrow will be better.
     
  19. webdevil81

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    Yeah I have had my binges, as I say not too bad and generally I have tried to stick to whole foods. Just overeating. Feel better for it, the physical benefits are starting to become apparent as I like spending my sporting time mountain biking. Also the mental side, I had brain fog for a while but that seems to be subsiding also.
     
  20. New Journey

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    I made it to 82 days and failed... Back to day zero.
     

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