ACCOUNTABILITY GROUP FOR PEOPLE ABOVE 30 Y.O

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by control your life, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. webdevil81

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    Welcome back onboard dude!

    I am in a similar position and feel great that I'm at the start of another streak, more so than the disappointment of loosing my three figure streak from before. Chance to assess and focus the new streak on differing objectives.

    And congratulations on reaching 82 days, that will have been one hell of a reboot and a huge amount of progress under your belt.
     
  2. diaspar

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    1 bad day in 82 isn't bad. You could make that 1 bad day in 90.
     
  3. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Or one bad decision amongst countless good and sound decisions!
     
  4. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Day six on the way: gym, painting and trying to get in touch with a friend I was supposed to eat lunch with. He never made it (train delay) I am getting very self-conscious about all the time I spend by myself. Very aware it is not optimal, to say the least. I do not beat myself down for it at this point in time though.

    Feelings solid and stable in the process of recovery from addiction to dating sites, porn and self-sex atm. I do not feel overwhelmed by any urges or fatigued by the lack of dopamine, a bit of brainfog still, my memory has been broken down since years yet I don't know if it is some pre-stage to alzheimers or just a result of PTSD-C and stress and constant dissociation..
     
  5. Checking in early tonight because I just relapsed. Blew my whole day. Begin again. I've learned that I keep "feeding the bear" by peeking. At some point my willpower gives out. I noticed I get triggered easily and use porn so easily to fill my cravings like I would eat a bag of chips for a snack. I won't get upset. Wonder how I can do things differently. Glad I'm at least starting to see when these things are coming.
     
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  6. 12ove

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    40 is the new 25! we can do this! happy early birthday! How old will you be?

    I wouldn't worry about not having a path yet. Those type of things can be illuminated in less than a year. Roots are so much more important than just diving into a career in the rat race.
     
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  7. 12ove

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    Right there with you guys, just getting started on Qigong though.
     
  8. mindseyeopen

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    You made it 82 days, and that’s no small achievement. Don’t let it get you down, and get back on the horse.
     
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  9. mindseyeopen

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    Day 49:
    Feeling pretty good the last few days, and definitely seeing an improvement in overall mood, anxiety levels, sex drive, etc. I’m proud that I’m about to hit 50 days, but am also careful to not get overly confident because I have a lot of work ahead of me to stay on the path. Still, I’m stoked to make it this far. From about day 10 to day 40 was pretty rough hahaha. Till next time, y’all.
     
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  10. webdevil81

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    Just done my qigong an dmeditation for the morning and enjoying a coffee before I settle down to my study. Sun is out and am feeling good about what lies ahead.

    @Bethelightinmyheart and @12ove what kid of qigong are you learning/practicing?
     
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  11. Bethelightinmyheart

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    A basic morning 10 min Qigong routine (Lee Holden as teacher...) I think it is very basic and traditional sets/kinds of exercises.
     
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  12. Bethelightinmyheart

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    I will be 39 years old...So one more year in freedom before my hair falls off, jawline turns to mush and eyes get sucked all the way in to the sockets ;)

    I have done a few things I am very proud of, and also evaded alot of trauma and hurt by being very analytical and fearful.
     
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  13. Bethelightinmyheart

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    So, my ongoing "journal"...day 7. Still very solid and stable, not much new to report in regards to my progress and development.

    I aim to be alot more open now. More transparent, be more vulnerable and empathetic towards other people..shying away and appearing to be mysterious just has not led to much good in of itself.

    Wish you guys all the best in your recovery!
     
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  14. Hail To The Thief

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    I was wondering where you had been, glad you made it back pretty quickly. I also gained weight when I quit smoking because cigarettes are such an appetite suppressant. I eventually started exercising more but it sounds like you’re already pretty active on the mountain bike. My body definitely changed after I quit though and I would trade a bigger belly for that disgusting habit all over again.

    Welcome back. Can you talk more about what the mental processes were for you to go back to PMO so we can try to avoid them?
     
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  15. Gotta agree here with @mindseyeopen Just think of how much your mind has healed in 82 days. Your mind won't forget. Keep going my friend.
     
  16. Day 1 check in. It dawned on my earlier that yes I relapsed but this is my back into the right direction. Having a busy schedule, praying, and just learning to live life without pmo are my main pillars. Someone said it best though, you can't rely on your emotional state to get you through this. That's temporary. You need to keep choosing the right decision when your mind or whatever else says otherwise. Positive thoughts, visualizations, beliefs are not to be underestimated.
     
  17. Hombre

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    Hello,
    Checkin in here. Sorry for Disappearing the last couple of days, I am trying to stay with my commitment of coming here every 2 days. I haven´t been sleeping well lately (which can be a huge trigger for me) and this has also affected my performance (in work, exercise, meditation, and everything). Nevertheless, everything is going ok, no relapses, and happy days in general.
     
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  18. mindseyeopen

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    Day 50:
    50 days clean from PM. First time in a couple of years, I’m sad to say. My brain has definitely started rewiring because I find myself thinking less and less about porn, and am finding women in real life more attractive. I’m not staring or dwelling too much on fantasies or anything, but there’s been some random moments in the last few days where I’ll get turned on quickly by a cute girl. It’s crazy because for years and years my sex drive was shit from the constant PM. I’m careful to clear the mind in those moments and not let it lead me back to bad habits. Anyways, here’s to another 50 days!
     
  19. Bethelightinmyheart

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    Day 8. Been a good one, very sunny here where I live and pleasent weather probably last bittersweet days of summer ahead. I try to eat the healthiest I can atm. For me. The best for me. It is very touch and go but I rely on myself to be able to chart and observe symtoms that might tell me smt, or abscence thereof. My heart has been a bit jumpy lately, I hope this will pass...

    Still, as my mantra has become, solid, stable and very motivated to keep on track. Slip ups definitely affect my self-confidence and swagger quite a bit.

    Hope you guys have a great weekend!
     
  20. Been having tough sleep patterns but I'm attributing that to withdrawals. Today I was really tired and bored which usually leads to my mind getting the idea to PMO. Not today. I chose to work out later in the afternoon and applied for jobs earlier. Proud I made the right choice. It was really difficult. I started my HW late today because I procrastinated but will hit it hard tomorrow. I hate this feeling that every time I plan to do something positive(pray, meditate, etc.) my mind instantly writes it off as "work" I don't know what that is but the compromise has been me watching Youtube clips and eating. I think its my mind craving dopamine is my best guess. Hope you guys have a good night and weekend.
     

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