Hi guys and girls, I was wondering if anyone knew if there is an actual technique to actively rewire your brain in moments where you see that the PMO path is rolling. For example: A typical relapse It's late, your computer is on something provokes you you feel turned on you follow a link Porn edging orgasm/relapse In moments like these, I feel like my head is on autopilot, going through phase 3 to phase 4 almost instantaneously. After that, it's almost impossible to stop. The logical solution would be to avoid phase 1, 2 or 3. "avoid temptation" "avoid moments where you're vulnerable" IF you're able to interrupt the process, you can: "take a walk", "take a cold shower", "read", "go to sleep directly". etc. and avoid the next steps. My question: Is there a way to re-write the path in the brain that leads you to relapse? or am I just limited to abstain from that path until it loses strength? Is there anything I can do to actively rewire so my head doesn't follow step 4, 5 etc. for example: It's late, your computer is on something provokes you you feel turned on you do 10 pushups What is this achieving? Is my brain connecting: "getting turned on" ------> "push-ups"? Are there better activities to rewire? Are some activities better than others? What works better for you? Sorry for my English guys.
Usually when i am working its easy, but weekends when i have too much free time thats where the challange starts.
First of all i have the same "autopilot" problem if u start in the first place its (almost) impossobel to stop ... u also mentioned an example: even for me (as a guy who regularly goes to the gym and enjoys it) push ups dont work i prefere more chilled out activities as playing a pc game or even go to sleep right away and about the question: i dont think this rewiring process works as easy as that bc the sex drive is a way stronger "motion" than most other things ... either way such activities help a lot for my part at least but everybody needs to search for their own favourites i guess
@Bobeed @huno werner Thanks for the replies guys huno, makes sense, I guess that doing the same thing for many years engraved the path into our brains very deep.
It's not an auto response until you make a deliberate decision to actively retrain your brain to respond to certain stimuli differently. You must act in a certain and specific (desired) way after a stimulus long enough so that your response becomes automatic. I remember some people using the rubberband method to change auto responses. Wear a rubber and around your wrist. When you get stimulated, pop your wrist hard. Your brain starts to associate your triggers to PMO with the quick pain. The triggers will stop.
