Actively Rewiring Your Brain? Please contribute!!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by thel00ker, Jul 19, 2017.

  1. thel00ker

    thel00ker Fapstronaut

    Hi guys and girls, I was wondering if anyone knew if there is an actual technique to actively rewire your brain in moments where you see that the PMO path is rolling.

    For example:
    A typical relapse

    1. It's late, your computer is on
    2. something provokes you
    3. you feel turned on
    4. you follow a link
    5. Porn
    6. edging
    7. orgasm/relapse
    In moments like these, I feel like my head is on autopilot, going through phase 3 to phase 4 almost instantaneously. After that, it's almost impossible to stop.
    The logical solution would be to avoid phase 1, 2 or 3. "avoid temptation" "avoid moments where you're vulnerable"

    IF you're able to interrupt the process, you can: "take a walk", "take a cold shower", "read", "go to sleep directly". etc. and avoid the next steps.

    My question:
    Is there a way to re-write the path in the brain that leads you to relapse? or am I just limited to abstain from that path until it loses strength?

    Is there anything I can do to actively rewire so my head doesn't follow step 4, 5 etc.
    for example:
    1. It's late, your computer is on
    2. something provokes you
    3. you feel turned on
    4. you do 10 pushups
    What is this achieving?
    Is my brain connecting: "getting turned on" ------> "push-ups"?

    Are there better activities to rewire? Are some activities better than others?
    What works better for you?

    Sorry for my English guys.
  2. Bobeed

    Bobeed Fapstronaut

    Usually when i am working its easy, but weekends when i have too much free time thats where the challange starts.
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  3. huno werner

    huno werner Fapstronaut

    First of all i have the same "autopilot" problem if u start in the first place its (almost) impossobel to stop ...
    u also mentioned an example: even for me (as a guy who regularly goes to the gym and enjoys it) push ups dont work i prefere more chilled out activities as playing a pc game or even go to sleep right away
    and about the question: i dont think this rewiring process works as easy as that bc the sex drive is a way stronger "motion" than most other things ... either way such activities help a lot for my part at least but everybody needs to search for their own favourites i guess
  4. thel00ker

    thel00ker Fapstronaut

    @Bobeed @huno werner Thanks for the replies guys
    huno, makes sense, I guess that doing the same thing for many years engraved the path into our brains very deep.
  5. Random Guy TX

    Random Guy TX Fapstronaut

    It's not an auto response until you make a deliberate decision to actively retrain your brain to respond to certain stimuli differently. You must act in a certain and specific (desired) way after a stimulus long enough so that your response becomes automatic.

    I remember some people using the rubberband method to change auto responses. Wear a rubber and around your wrist. When you get stimulated, pop your wrist hard. Your brain starts to associate your triggers to PMO with the quick pain. The triggers will stop.
  6. Drew140

    Drew140 Guest

    I whack my ass with a wooden spoon if home
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