Addicted of Femdom

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by blunt.ever, Nov 4, 2019.

  1. blunt.ever

    blunt.ever Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone, I'm new here and I'll tell you a few things about myself. I am 19 years old and I masturbate from 14 to videos with femdom, foot fetish, foot domination, you understand. I fantasize about smelling women's feet or being their personal slave I had when I know myself, and I don't understand why. From the kindergarten I remember when I was attracted to the legs of the teacher and I wanted at any price to punish me, to humiliate me, to be at her feet. Nonsense, I know! Over time I grew up, and at the age of 14 I gave videos on porn sites like this, femdom, foot slave, etc. At first I was looking at them thinking that this slave is not me, but over time I began to imagine myself getting into the character's skin and masturbating to these videos. I didn't talk to anyone in real life about this, it's the first time I say it here, because I was ashamed and I don't think anyone would tell me that I have this problem because I have an impulsive attitude in reality, but I have my subconscious loaded.
    About 3 days ago I tried to have sexual contact with a girl but I did not get up. I could not. I looked for excuses that I am sorry, that it hurts my belly that I do not feel well. That's why I decided to give up this slavery forever and have a normal sex life.
     
  2. KirlyWirly

    KirlyWirly Fapstronaut

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    First off, I want to say I’m proud of you for being fully open about yourself. For most, even the anonymity of the Internet is still not enough to curb an individuals anxiety - especially when it involves revealing things about ourselves that we deem negative/embarrassing. Fetishes and preferences aren’t evil, and I don’t personally believe that your own sexuality is an addiction -it’s the disseascosciation of fantasy & reality. You’ve conditioned yourself to only get sexual stimulus & gratification from a faux source. What could have been an opportunity to explore your own unique sexual desires with a real parter, is projected onto an unlimited supply of videos featuring your kinks. There is no connection, there is no reward, & it’s counterintuitive to our very nature as mammals who strive for intimate & meaningful real life connections with others. Don’t be ashamed, you are not now, nor were you ever a slave - you are a normal human being who like many of us has been deprived of real physical opportunities because of addiction, & that’s not something easy to realize one has, let alone have the balls to stand against & charge toward an unfamiliar path grounded within reality when all you’ve been conditioned to by social media/online culture to take the easy path of addiction. Here’s to you champion, you’ve taken the first steps toward becoming the best version of yourself -

    The real you, worthy of love & intimacy by a partner that shares your desires, the man who always had the strength within to break free from all bindings whether external or internal.

    Simply you, and you’re reason enough to give a kudos. Keep strong my fellow Fapstronaut!
     
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  3. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

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    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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  4. femdomsucks17

    femdomsucks17 Fapstronaut

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    hello bro...i just want you to know that you are not alone in this...even i used to get attracted to teachers feet in kindergarten and teenage days tarted watching feet fetish,facesitting and then humiliation,pov and then even toilet slavery and my ex was also very dominant in nature and it made my situation even worse...i used to worship her in all ways and even she liked it but it made me really worse both physically and mentally and since last 8 months i have taken this very seriously and i have got a new gf who is loving and caring and being with her and staying away from porn has been changing me alot and prayer has also been helping if you are spiritual..but dont give up..femdom can damage your brain in many ways and it can make you less of a man..so be careful bro
     
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  5. blunt.ever

    blunt.ever Fapstronaut

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    I hope to get over this problem, depending on the serious module I do not consider, but not as it was a part of the first sexual execution with a girl 4 days ago, I would not have woken up to the reality in which situation my criticism cold. I tried to have sex and I just didn't get excited at all, not after kissing, massage, mangoes etc.
     
  6. keepitinmybriefs

    keepitinmybriefs Fapstronaut

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    Mangoes? I wasn't aware they were an aphrodisiac. But good luck on your nofap journey!
     
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  7. KellticJK

    KellticJK Fapstronaut

    Welcome @blunt.ever.
    Congrats on the first step!
    I agree with @KirlyWirly
    Fetishes are not evil in anyway, I know many who are in that community, it's a lifestyle choice if anything. Domination / S&M etc it's all within the umbrella of normality. The porn industry has given that community / lifestyle and any other lifestyle choice in the realm of sensuality into a serious deprivation beyond anything members of any lifestyle would condone.... There are rules (and they are strict - like seriously seriously strict - The number one rule is respect your partner(s) at all times, ie Safe word used you stop, end of story you stop!) It's not an all you can eat / do buffet, adhere to the rules and all involved will have a good time.

    As for not being able to perform, that will happen. Most within the femdom arena, can't perform with your over the counter sex life - my brother is exactly the same, he needs pain to get himself going. Him and his missus are at it like rabbits.... I started going to the movies during one of their sexcapades... cos honestly I can't fathom how they are both into it.. though after a few beers and an introduction to their "world" (not in the same way... more of an educational experience, again no sex / touching etc..of any kind!) - As Madame La Fe (Can't say her real name as she is well known in the UK circuit) put it, "Everyone loves control, one way or another. Whether it's the TV or the radio, we all like control"

    Take a read of Michael Castleman's article on it (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm)

    BEFORE YOU CLICK THE LINK!!!
    That is not to say, that nofap isn't good for you... It's the best thing you can do. Self control & self discipline are two pillars within the S&M or any other community - and will work to your advantage in every path you wish to walk.

    Good luck on your journey!
    (Moderators, if the above is outside the realm of the rules. Please feel free to remove)
     
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  8. Master Chips

    Master Chips Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to nofap buddy!
    there are cases similar to yours and were worse but eventually they proved themselves and got rid of Femdom and became normal. What I would like to recommend you is two things:-
    1- Most members here might be different from each other in their experience to porn and with the kind of dark materials they used to brainwash their minds, yet PMO is the same concept for all these categories, so the goal is one; to practice Nofap style successfully. And once you reach this point you will put all this pain behind you and you shall become the new you without these fetishes.

    2- DO NOT EVER THINK THAT YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THESE THOUGHTS AND LIVE WITH THEM. Some people/ articles will try to convince you that you should accept your fantasies because that is your nature, IT IS NOT TRUE AND THIS IS NOT YOU, and what will prove it is the Nofap journey.

    Good Luck!
     
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  9. blunt.ever

    blunt.ever Fapstronaut

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    I was think that fetishes are permanently for life, man! So, you think to escape of a fetish?
     
  10. anewhope

    anewhope Fapstronaut

    There are different opinions on that point. Personally, I think you are likely to have that particular fetish, interest or preference for life, particulary as you can trace it back to your very early childhood. But that need not be a problem. What you need to do is to quit PMO and restore a balance in your life. Without constantly being reinforced by Femdom porn, your preference will cease to be the only thing that gets you excited and instead be just one of the many satisfying ways that you can interact with a woman you have true feelings for. Get porn out of your life, quit PMO, enjoy a relationship with a real woman and you will begin to heal.

    Good luck. And congratulations on taking the important first step.

    ANH
     
  11. I've grown out of some fetishes, where femdom was one of them.
    Check out my journal. I think it will inspire you.

    And welcome here aboard!
     
  12. Master Chips

    Master Chips Fapstronaut

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    A gained fetish (a one that you got while watching porn or after at some stage of your life) will definitely be escaped and changed; and I believe femdom is one of them, because its origin was Foot fetish not femdom itself. Now if it is a fetish you had since very childhood (before puberty) then it might stay with you; but it can be controlled and moderated, by long time of Nofap (no edging and no fantasizing too) 90+ you will notice the difference in some of these things, but it will take time, you should be patient.
     
  13. Hermetic Viatori

    Hermetic Viatori New Fapstronaut

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    I can relate to you on this issue. Personally I believe uncontrolled sexual desire to be submissive is a symptom of a subconscious identification with power/control. Being in a submissive position is a position of control, because you are giving up control to another entity. Truthfully we as humans don't have much control of our lives whether you come from a spiritual or scientific perspective. We have free will but about as much as a string on a guitar can vibrate. The trouble is being ignorant of this truth and being in extreme conflict with it. Submission feels so good because it's a realization of our lack of control. In the context of BDSM it is incorrect because we are worshiping another person who also doesn't have control. The dominant feels like they have control of the other person and therefore in control of themselves. All parties are delusional. Bodybuilders think they are strong and yet they would be destroyed swiftly by forces of nature. Submission and humility to a higher power or the laws of the universe is the correct posture to take for true freedom. In order to get out of this addiction one needs to take a rebellious attitude with the intelligence that the entity you are worshiping is not in control of you or even themselves. Unmasking this lust demon to it's true reality and realize your true place in existence. Socrates knew he was the wisest because he acknowledged he did not know when all others thought they knew.
     
  14. fedmom

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    There's a thread in my profile with a method for getting rid of masochism. If you go to the "information" section and then "find all threads by fedmom" you will see the thread. And sorry, but if anyone is doing nofap to get rid of femdom fetishes it won't work.
     
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