Addicted to chaturbate and Snapchat sexting

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by RandomUsername123, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. LoveIsAllWeNeed

    LoveIsAllWeNeed Fapstronaut

    The domination thing is what gets your mind going. It wants to feel worthwhile and thinks it can get there by doing this weird stuff. Of course after having done this your inner critic will tell you how worthless you are. You're caught between two fires, which is what the mind is all about.

    So, what is your strategy to prevent yourself from falling for the traps of the mind? There are many many more the mind can come up with, so you'd better have a plan that makes you think again before you act. One of my strategies is before doing I count from one to ten very slowly and in that time I imagine what the consequences will be of my actions. For example you might see that instead of you dominating her, she is dominating you as you pay her money which she recognizes as you being hooked and dependent upon her doing all the stuff she does.

    Mindfulness is another great tool since it lets you see your thoughts as they arise without getting involved in them. You clearly got involved in your mind as you paid her money, so this also might be a thing to do if you don't already.
     
  2. RandomUsername123

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    It's actually been really good the last few weeks. I think I have trained my brain to not watch chaturbate maybe!!! I went on maybe 10 days ago and there was the hottest threesome with these two amazing foreign girls, started watching and I was like this is so amazing... Then she stops blowing him and they just sit there and he's reading the comments like no no cum today. And I just think what's the point in chaturbate, it's just so frustrating and it's the reason that I end up with these 10 hour porn sessions! If I just go onto porn hub and watch something it'll have an end so I'll be able to just cum, but when they go on forever I'll never cum over just a slow bj no matter how amazing they look.

    And real sexi so much more sensitive when your not jacking off all the time. Which can be a bad thing I guess as you'll cum faster, but your cock will feel harder and when she touches it you'll really feel it. I keep trying to enforce this into my brain so I don't slip.

    It's still pretty hard, and I mean it's only been a few weeks, the weekends are usually the worst, I still wake up really early as I'm used to waking up at half 6 for work, so I just lay there like what can I so now and that's when I usually just browse stuff, moving my computer's away from the bed has helped a bit, if I think about Snapchat I will put my phone away from me and use a tablet or something that you can't really take pics on. Last night I had a couple of beers in the house too, maybe 3 or 4 max so not getting hammered and I kept waking up in the middle of the night so hard. Managed to ignore it but that was really frustrating. When I woke up this morning still feeling the same I came on here and it's surprising how your hornyness goes when you start writing a big entry like this!! I think I am getting some good coping mechanisms, running also helps a lot, if I feel the urge just go for a run and it burns out that energy I had before.

    Also, I heard a quote that kinda changed my perspective on women a bit the other day. It was something like everyone is working on finding the perfect women, why not work on yourself to be the perfect man for her. And it kinda made a lot of sense, when I get frustrated thinking why won't this girl just suck me off like they do on chaturbate, I should be thinking what can I do to make her Want to do that to me. Am I being the perfect man to evoke feelings that would make her want to do that? So if I'm with a girl and she's not giving me the stuff I want I need to break it down and think, well have I done anything that deserves that kind of feelings from her lately ? Not saying it's completely changed me but it has given me a better perspective on things, hopefully I will keep this attitude.

    I think it's important to remember I've been here before, read back through this thread and I've been a few weeks without porn and then the next month I've been on a 2 day session! Just need to keep the positivity and if I slip, just make it a quick one that doesn't etch into my brain and take over my thoughts like I have let it do in the past
     
    Last edited: Jun 10, 2020
  3. RandomUsername123

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    Update... Had a bit of a relapse the other day. Was a bit drunk and made a Snapchat account. Added the regular people that at this point I'm probably just harassing because I know they've enjoyed watching me before. It was like 1.30am though and no one accepted. So I just watched done porn and deleted the account straight away. In the morning though I'm wishing I kept it to see if they accepted. When I have one relapse I always feel the urges to do it again, which is strange as I can go weeks without it but as soon as I get some I need more! Guess that's what addiction is all about, so I just watched some porn without going into Snapchat, made it quick so I didn't feel any deep regret afterwards. Ive been keeping active since, that always seems to be the key to stopping it, keep yourself busy so at night time you'll just want to sleep!!! Weekend coming up now, hope I manage myself well to not act stupid again
     
  4. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    That´s true, right now I´m on my 8th day. I´m pushing through it and now that my son was just born I have a bigger reason to destroy this addiction. Yeah, it´s phsycological because obviously I´m not dominating, it´s just the demons that want to use it so that I lose my strength and willpower. I want to be a stronger man each day in the sea of weak men.


    Hey bud, avoid drinking alcohol or any other types of drugs / stimulants. The other week I bough a bottle of Kentucky Bourbon and kept relapsing. Since our dopamine receptors are so vulnerable to a quick "pleasurable" moment, these things weaken our resolve.
     
  5. Tryinghardtoquit2

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    Hi mate congrats on the Birth of your child. Parenting is super stressful and I found that I went DEEP down the porn hole to help me cope. Be mindful of this. I Know how tough it can be.
     
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  6. RandomUsername123

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    I think I'm over chaturbate totally now. Just don't see the turn in with it anymore as they always end up being a tease with no end result, and they last way too long....

    I'm trying my best to stop going on Snapchat but I still relapse, although I'm beginning to hate it which is good! People on there are so frustrating, I'll add a random person, send a message with no sexual content... Just my age and where I'm from and immediately ask them how old they are so I can delete them if they are not my age. Then I'll get replies calling me shit! Its like they don't understand how quick add works. Then other girls will start talking to you then just stop and when you send messages saying you there they kick off at you and say do you not get the message? Like why start talking then, and just press block if you don't wanna chat or don't accept the invite!!? Then there's those that try and trick you, get you to flash then call you a pervert, which is so confusing because I'm clear if they say they don't wanna mess around I'll just delete them, or they could do the same!!! Just made me feel really depressed doing it. I'm sure one of the reasons I do it is to feel better in myself and get confidence. Years ago people would be really into it and get turned on back when you used to mess around online. Now it seems like nobody is into it anymore, maybe that's a good thing! I guess they get too many people trying it on constantly. I couldn't imagine me ever not wanting a random girl to add me and send me nudes, but maybe they just get so many because it's so common now there's no turn on for them anymore.

    If I've managed to stop chaturbate I can stop Snapchat too. Just gotta keep at it! Hate being addicted to something that makes me feel so bad during and after it!!!
     
  7. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    Yeah, that´s all garbage and a complete waste of time. I´m now going on 25 days and it´s a struggly especially with that flatline, but I can now see things more clearly. Being a slave to pleasure is so weak... let´s overcome this.
     
  8. RandomUsername123

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    I'm just too old for this shit. Imagine if I kept it up and I'm in my 50s jacking off to randoms. Probably get recorded and my fat belly plastered all over twitter. Such a depressing thought. Need to grow up ffs
     
  9. Envoy-ofthe-End

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    What´s funny and sad is that there are a bunch of old dudes on those sites that give these cam girls thousands of dollars just for a tease...
     
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  10. Tryinghardtoquit2

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    Quitting snapchat and messaging apps can be harder than quitting porn. Chat apps are similar to playing slot machines. You invest time and effort (money) and come up with a match (small win) you keep getting small wins (teases etc) until you find the perfect match. You MO and orgasm which is your jackpot. The human sex drive is an EXTREMELY strong motivator and the MO component gives you dopamine. The sooner you can quit those fucking apps (I struggled for years) the better you will be. I'm not out of the woods with PMO issues but I stay the fuck away from chat apps now. Hell I refuse to MO at all to porn now. I will not 'reward' myself for that stuff. I don't wanna be jacking off to P anymore. Time to grow up like you said above.
     
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  11. RandomUsername123

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    Honestly I think times have changed... I'm in my 30s and I've used the internet to sext since I was about 18 I think. Back in the day it was yahoo messenger, there would be chat rooms for this stuff and you would spend ages trying to find a girl who wanted to play. Then MSN, can't even remember where you got people's addresses from then, maybe chat rooms again. But back then it was all new for people, it was a way to be naughty in private. You'd strike up a conversation with someone and ask them if they wanted to watch and they would be into it and actually be impressed! I ended up meeting girls off the internet after doing this and having a lot of my first sexual experiences. I never got into chat roulette but maybe that has kinda replaced them. Anyways now if you try the same on Snapchat most girls won't even talk to a random guy! Maybe this has a lot to do with how I find the addresses too, before I used to always get them from plenty of fish, but now I just do Google searches or find them from twitter profiles. Maybe it's because Snapchat is a proper social media thing, where people use their real names so they don't want to be like that when they think it could be shown publicly later. Or more likely they just get too much of it, and sex on the internet is so easy for them it becomes boring. People on tinder probably finding ways to get their names just to flash it must be tedious for them.

    Its a hard thing to quit, I remember the other week writing a message like this in here saying how I hated it, then signed up for it within 30 minutes. At the moment I just feel like it gives me no joy, I can't remember the last time I had a proper sext with someone on it. The best I get lately when I ask someone if they want to see is an okay, then when I show them they'll just stop talking! Maybe this is a good thing though. The more times I get nothing the more chance I have to quit for good
     
  12. RandomUsername123

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    Just got tempted to download Snapchat again... Was watching something on the TV that got me turned on so I flicked on my phone to some porn and started jacking off in the living room... Realising there's no place I can really cum here my mind turned to I could try and stroke up a conversation with someone. Just had a haircut, been doing some exercise! I might look good enough to get some interest, checked my camera to see how I look and I was just thinking to myself do I really want to do this again... So I've snapped out of it! But it makes me think a lot of the times I just need to cum quickly or focus on something else to snap out of it. I always have a problem where I could just jack off for hours and hours because I don't want to cum and make a mess ha. Need to plan it, have some where to finish off so I'm not putting it off and going onto Snapchat
     
  13. RandomUsername123

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    Another good week. I've let my tablet battery die out as I only really use it for porn anyways. So only having my phone kinda stops the possibility of having porn on and downloading Snapchat. I saw this post on twitter too from a girl that she screenshot. A guy just dmed her and said hey what's your snap. And she wrote back, I'm an adult. That kinda made me feel ashamed a bit. And I was watching this YouTube thing about drug dealers in Snapchat where it was talking about how users are predominantly young. Just all makes me feel like I'm glad I'm moving on from it. I've had some good times and got off with people, but to be honest I can't really remember anyone or any specifics. Now it's time to find a more healthy addiction. I haven't been in chaturbate for so long too, if I need to jack off I've just been going on regular sites and finishing within 20 mins or so.i know that's not really recommended by this NoFap site but it's a lot healthier than what I was doing before. Just regular porn too, some nice amateurs or threesome scenes. Slowly getting healthier I think, or I hope....
     
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  14. bestme996

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    Yeah, you can deactivate your account, I done that twice, now I have no account but I can still watch. Having said that, i'm sick of it, it doesn't turn me on. Maybe if i was tipping for feet Id be into it more but thats why I don't sign up again.
     

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