Addicted to interracial porn and even got my wife into it

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Billionrob, Jun 20, 2021.

  1. Billionrob

    Billionrob Fapstronaut

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    So I'm here because I'm addicted to watching interracial porn and have for the last 5 years. I even fantasize about my wife fucking a black guy I even told her about it and got her to watch it with me and we have a black dildo and we role play this out . I kind of think I've taken it too far . I don't want her to actually crave it herself. She said she enjoys the fantasy but she wouldn't ever make it a reality so that's a relief but at the same time it gets her super turned on . I do enjoy it obviously but I don't want it to ruin my relationship with my wife . Where one day we might actually have a threesome or I watch her etc . I don't want this to be the only thing that turns me on I still want to be Normal too but I'm too addicted to it . I'm on interracial sex forums everyday looking at media and pics and reading stories i think it's brain washed me and I don't want to do that to my wife she wasn't even into black guys at all then I showed her the porn and we got a dildo and she's taken a like to it :/
     
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  2. EpsilonDelta

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    You describe the problem that you're having, and I'm sorry to hear about it. Do you also have any ideas on how to remedy the situation, and get rid of the problem?
     
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  3. Read Shelby Steele’s White Guilt
     
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  4. Billionrob

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    I literally have no idea . Me and my wife been together for 12 years we have a really great sex life and we are soul mates . When we role played the other night it got abit extreme to her saying she would fuck a black guy in the heat of the moment. She said after she wouldn't really do it in real life because she loves me and the reality would never be as good as the fantasy and I do believe her we have a very strong relationship she said its just fun you got me into it and she could kind of tell I felt abit quiet after she reassured me it's Purley fun and I thought it's my fault. It was turned on at the time when she was talking dirty to me about it but after I was like shit what have I done ! Like I said she was never into black guys at all and she said she isn't still she said she just likes it because it turns me on so it turns her on. Just don't want my addiction to take over and we actually in the moment make it a reality one day
     
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  5. Billionrob

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    Where can I find this
     
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  6. EpsilonDelta

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    She's probably right. Without knowing anything about you guys, my guess is that it would be an awful experience.
    Maybe the solution can be to stop feeding this addiction, and instead get rid of it? I guess it would mean that you have to stop watching porn and stop fantasising about interracial stuff.
     
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  7. It’s on Amazon. Get the audio book. Listen to it with your wife. You are fetishizing your insecurities surrounding race.
     
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  8. Billionrob

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    She said to me she would happily never watch it again if I didn't want her too . She said she always enjoy having sex with me more then anyone. Yeah it's easier said then done though stopping my own fantasy. We can easily cut the porn out if I said to her I didn't wanna watch it anymore she would be cool with it . She's we have ultimate respect for each other ..I think the reality would be a bad idea too
     
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  9. DrHenryJekyll

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    i have had fantasies and masturbated in a chat room discussing discussing sharing my wife. In the heat of the moment it can be a very powerful turn-on. In reality I don't really want to share her, but in that moment it can be so arousing. We have a good sex life so I am not sure where this came from. I have not shared this with her, so she has no idea.
     
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  10. EpsilonDelta

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    Then why don't you just go for it? Cutting out the porn, that is. :) And yes, I agree that fantasising is much harder to stop, but I think that if you cut out the porn the fantasies will fade if you don't indulge in them. You can try to search for success stories here on the forum about guys who have fetishes induced from porn that fades during the reboot. I'm still an addict and haven't come very far in my reboot, so my words probably won't help you more than this.

    Btw, you seem to have a great and supporting wife!
     
  11. Billionrob

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    I'm glad you feel where I'm coming from on this one ..once u have climaxed its not what I want anymore it's powerful a chemical in your brain can make you feel like that though
     
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  12. Billionrob

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    She's amazing man . I couldn't say a bad thing about her . Yeah I do really need to do this but it's so hard at the same time. I keep logging onto to interracial forums it's literally first thing I do when I get up or go to bed and any free time I get to feed my fantasy.
     
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  13. EpsilonDelta

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    Haha, yes it's hard! There are people here that have been trying to cure their addiction for years, and they just commit relapse after relapse. But they don't give up because what options do they have? These addictions can have a bad influence on your happiness and can also be very harmful for your mental health.

    Perhaps you can try to make a plan on how to cure yourself and go from there?
     
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  14. Billionrob

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    That sounds like a good idea
     
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  15. Furozima10

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    Well i guess that it's just a normal fantasy
    there are a millions of them in the world so don't worry. this should stay secret
     
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  16. It’s a porn induced fetish, go months without PMO and I’m sure it’ll disappear.
     
  17. I've had some pretty weird fetishes in the past and I cured them by making myself fap to normal vanilla porn or just simple nude pics of women whenever I relapsed. I now heavily prefer normal vanilla porn over fetish porn.
     
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  18. mdz

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    Thats sick. Good news is that its escalation into a weird fetish and can be reversed.
    ALmost all fetishes are porn escalation (there might be few exceptions).
    It took me at least two years of struggles to "forget" or numb my desire for my fetishes.
    I was addicted to femdom and humiliation, and today I feel that doesn't attract me at all.
    On the few occasions I watched a vanilla porn or even instagram pic of non nude women, I felt much more aroused than I have been for decades.

    Now, of course, I try to avoid even vanilla pics, instagram and Tinder. They are still variants of porn.
     
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  19. bro I need to tell you this is cuck behavior matter a fact you are a cuck just think how your parents is going to react when they find out your fetish. Also tell your wife something is wrong with yourself and that you need help bcs if your not direct with her she going to get that bbc try to find a therapist
     
  20. DrHenryJekyll

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    Guys, @mdz and @Heracles1268 , let's not be so negative and judgmental. That type of attitude is usually counterproductive. Much better to be supportive and encourage change in a positive way.
     
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